The teacher sent a text message to his daughter to transfer money.

Do you take the initiative to visit your child's teacher every new school year?

Did you visit the teacher as an expert?

Did you provide the teacher with some information about the children's family life?

Do you accept the teacher's thoughts and feelings?

Do you share the teacher's difficulties, including complaints?

Do you support some of the teacher's practices?

Do you seldom interrupt the teacher?

Did you listen carefully to the teacher's narrative?

Do you believe in the professional ability of teachers?

Did you thank the teacher for his hard work before the conversation ended?

If you answer "Yes" to more than seven of the above ten questions, I believe your communication with the teacher has made a good start. If you answer "yes" in four or six minutes,

Suddenly, there seems to be something wrong with your communication with the teacher. Look back at the question of "no" and think about the fact that respect is the key to winning cooperation. If you answer "yes" less than three, I think you must spend more money.

Time, be honest with yourself: can't you let go of your figure? Do you think you know more? Is it defensive? Or have you never had the experience of communicating with a teacher?

Family education is inseparable from school education. Then in education, there is an unavoidable problem, that is, how parents communicate with teachers. Without home-school cooperation, neither home education nor school education can be carried out.

Will get into trouble. Because what children say when they come back may not be accurate. If you don't know your child's performance in school, it is difficult to educate your child well. Timely communication and close cooperation between parents and teachers are the foundation of children's healthy development.

Foundation. Especially for children with many shortcomings, parents should pay more attention to communication with teachers.

Communication mode:

First of all, it is effective to respect teachers.

(Give examples around you)

1, correct the overall view of teachers: No matter what you think of teachers, you should consider that your purpose is to educate children.

2. Respect teachers from the heart: concept teachers-all those who teach us knowledge refer to groups. Teachers' qualities may not all meet your requirements. Respecting teachers is essentially respecting yourself.

3, don't rely on the teacher for everything: either a god or an idiot, just think it is good to have a good teacher. For children, the key depends on the learning atmosphere of themselves and their families. Teachers follow the school model and have no super power to manage.

Dozens of students. It is unrealistic to pin all your hopes on the teacher. If your child has problems at school, "Teacher XXX, I'm sorry to bother you. I am the parent of XXX, and I often hear children talk about some of your teachings. "

I admire the method. Thank you very much for educating your children so seriously. Today, the child came home and said that something happened to him at school ... (to make a long story short). I think I must ask you this question and see what we should do as parents.

How to cooperate ... "After that, listen patiently to the teacher's explanation.

Second, we should correctly position ourselves and communicate sincerely.

Parents and teachers are the most important guides in the process of children's growth. They are allies with the same goal. Therefore, if children encounter problems at school, parents need the help of teachers to help them solve them, and they must do so in time.

Inform the teacher and communicate in time. In the communication between parents and teachers, we should first correctly locate both sides: friends rather than enemies; Is a collaborator rather than an employer; This is a common responsibility, not shirking responsibility.

After the correct positioning, the mentality will naturally tend to be calm and rational; Rational communication will not go to extremes because children encounter problems at school. On the contrary, they will sincerely inform the teacher of the problems encountered by the children and the attitude of their collaborators.

And put forward their own views or questions; Then, listen to the teacher patiently and fully understand the teacher's educational purpose and style. If the two sides disagree, they can choose the right child according to the child's personality characteristics.

The most suitable way of education.

[Scene 1] During the break, several boys were playing happily on the playground, and another boy wanted to participate, but it was not accepted by everyone. The two sides argued and started fighting, and one of the boys was bleeding from a nose injury. ...

The next morning, the mother of the child with a nosebleed came to school and asked the teacher to know the specific situation and make suggestions: "Teacher, we are also reasonable parents. We know that students inevitably get along with each other, usually at home.

We also tell children not to fight with classmates at school. Even if others start first, the ninja will tell the teacher first and let the teacher handle it. Yesterday, when the child came home from school, we knew that he had a nosebleed, because we didn't know how to reply.

Things, the in the mind very anxious, so just know the situation to you. My first child died at the age of seven months, so the whole family paid special attention to and loved this child. I hope this will happen again in the future. Please give it to me.

Call and tell us, so that we can rest assured. "

The teachers were deeply moved by the earnest words of parents. Faced with such calm and tolerant parents, the teacher sincerely apologized and admitted his negligence in his work. And discussed with parents how to let children learn to communicate with classmates.

(lens 2)

In the morning, as soon as the students entered the classroom, a student's parents went straight to the office and asked the teacher, "Teacher, yesterday my child said that he was beaten by his classmates and his nose was bleeding. My children are usually smart and don't talk much. He never provokes.

Others don't even go when we are visiting relatives and friends. They always like to play at home alone. They are very shy when they meet their relatives and friends, and seldom ask people to say hello. Such introverted children often come back and say that they have been beaten by their classmates.

Should my child be beaten? He is really, don't you know that if you can't win, you will bite? What a loser! "Teachers who don't know anything about this matter can only appease parents and let her sit down first, and then find the children themselves to learn more after class.

Let's see what happens. The teacher was embarrassed as a result. Did not achieve any communication purpose, did not solve any problems, but left a bad impression in front of the teacher.

Three: Proactive and timely communication

Professor Guan Hongyu put it very well on this issue: "In home-school cooperation.

Parents should take the initiative, get closer to the school and ask teachers for advice. This is because schools are specialized educational institutions with professional educators who are often better than their parents in educational theory. We are in charge.

Most people don't work in education and don't have much time to read professional books on educational theory; Teachers have educated hundreds of children and accumulated rich experience, but our parents can only support one child for life, so their horizons are inevitably narrow.

Stenosis; Teachers can find out the advantages and disadvantages of children from the comparison of dozens of students, while our parents only see their own children, and their evaluation of children is often biased.

As a school, teachers often emphasize home visits, while as a family, parents should emphasize taking the initiative to visit teachers. This is because teachers have a heavy burden now and it is impossible to visit every student's family often, but we are parents.

I only have one child, so I have time to visit my teacher. (Note to parents:) Parents should go to school once a month or so to learn about their children. It is not enough to rely on parents' understanding. At the parent-teacher conference,

With so many parents waiting, the teacher can't say too much about your child. When others don't go, you can visit the teacher and talk in detail, from study to discipline, from thought to life. Do you think the whole class

Dozens of children, whose parents often visit their teachers at school, naturally teachers should observe and know more about this child, otherwise what parents say when they come, which invisibly urges teachers to pay more attention to your children, which is not very good.

Okay？ Parents should never wait for problems to pile up before contacting teachers. If you want to find small changes, you must keep in touch with your teacher.

In addition, if parents take the initiative to contact the teacher, they should pay attention to several details: 1 Look at the timetable.

Don't choose the teacher's lunch break. If you call or visit in person during working hours, it is not convenient to ask the teacher first. This is the most basic respect. Depending on the occasion, parents come to school to pick up their children, and sometimes they want to have an interview with the teacher.

Whether the teacher is in a meeting or has something urgent to deal with, if so, it is best not to disturb; If parents are not satisfied with the way the teacher handles things, they can make suggestions, but don't tell the teacher what to do; 4 for example

If there is a conflict between children and classmates, parents can tell the teacher to negotiate, but don't go directly to school to find classmates' theory. Doing so will also aggravate the problem. (Give four small examples).

Fourth, parents should have a good attitude.

Once some parents are called to school by the teacher, they will have a sense of fear, thinking that their children have made mistakes at school and will be criticized by the teacher at school. After meeting the teacher, I often let the children go without asking indiscriminately.

After a class, bow to the teacher and apologize, saying a bunch of words to ensure how to discipline in the future. In this way, parents equate their children's mistakes at school with their own mistakes and apologize in advance, instead of knowing the problem first and asking the teacher questions.

The root of the problem is the right medicine, and such communication is obviously ineffective.

Some parents are disgusted with the teacher's invitation, thinking it is a waste of time and shame, and the teacher likes to make a mountain out of a molehill, and such a boycott is obviously not conducive to the smooth progress of education.

After being called to school by the teacher, some parents did not seriously investigate the root of the problem and look for ways to solve it. On the contrary, he took home a cavity of anger and scolded and criticized the children. If anything happens that day,

If the profit is not satisfactory, the child's experience will be even worse. Parents will blame all the problems on their children, and punishing them will only increase their fear and rebellion, which will not help.

Five, more cooperation, frequent contact.

Cooperate more. Teachers' teaching needs the cooperation of parents. We should help children introduce the correct methods together. First, cooperate with the teacher to correct the child's bad habits and problems in time, always care about the child's emotions and get to know him or her.

Psychology promotes them to become "three healthy" talents (healthy body, healthy psychology and sound personality). Second, we should pay attention to supervising children's homework on weekdays. It is very important for children to form the habit of consciously completing their homework.

Keep in touch. Contact the teacher and pay attention to long words and short words. Contact information can be face-to-face communication, or telephone or SMS communication. The main contents of communication: First, understand the comprehensive performance of children at school.

Such as learning attitude, physical exercise, participation in activities, etc. Everyone must not blindly pay attention to the children's academic performance, but also give feedback to the teacher about their performance at home. But don't tell on your children, because if you live like that, you will think that your parents have betrayed you.

Self, and produce rebellious psychology. The second is to put forward education and teaching suggestions. If you find that your child's teacher has some problems in some aspects, you must give feedback to the teacher in time. If it is not good, you can talk to the teacher directly and enter through the class teacher.

Ok, convey. However, please remember that as parents, we must trust teachers more, learn to share the joy of children's growth, and treat children's growth with a healthy attitude.

6. Only communication is the prerequisite for solving problems.

Children have problems at school. When they come back to tell their families, they just want a talk, an outlet and a little comfort. This should be a good thing. He is communicating with you. He didn't bury everything in his heart, and then he died.

On one day, bad mood will explode. If at this time, you listen attentively to the child's story, hug the child at an appropriate time, pat him gently, comfort him a few words out of turn, and then wipe his tears, Bishop.

Yao is strong; When the child calms down, it is an effective way to call the teacher to ask about the situation or make an appointment with the teacher. Maybe you haven't waited until you come to school the next day to deal with the child's affairs.

Nothing happened. Maybe the classmates who fought yesterday hooked their shoulders and called for good brothers today.

If you jump up and scold the teacher and other children as soon as you hear that your child is bullied, and then rush to school to theorize, then your child won't have to take this teacher's class in the future: my father (mother ...) says this teacher is not good, so why do I still take his class? As for the teacher, he doesn't have to associate with children. Maybe he will have another fight with other parents, and the consequences will be unimaginable.

The communication channels between parents and teachers include home visits, face-to-face interviews and telephone contact. Different communication methods will have different effects for children with different personalities. In children's minds, parents and teachers are both "afraid" and "afraid".

The contradiction and unity of "love" For rebellious children, they may be dissatisfied with the teacher's "tattletale", because the teacher will report to the parents immediately when something goes wrong, so parents had better not say what the teacher said in front of their children.

How can you do this (give me an example). For a gentle child, if something goes wrong, no matter how parents communicate with the teacher, it will not cause the child's resentment. Therefore, the communication between parents and teachers is "hot"

Management "or" cold treatment "is also a detail that should be highly valued.

Let's take a look at this parent's approach:

Before my son went to school, an "experienced person" warned me that in Beijing, "a teacher is fiercer than a tiger", saying that whenever a child has a situation, the teacher will ask parents to put parents and children together for "training". What a terrible thing. Tell me I'm old.

It is the best policy to "forbear" in front of the teacher, which also reminds me that in order to get children's attention in class, or at least not get angry, we must try our best to maintain a good relationship with the teacher, and treating guests and giving gifts is also listed in the list of suggestions.

My son went to school. Grade one, grade two and grade three are safe. I was not invited by the teacher, but attended several parent-teacher conferences. At every parent-teacher meeting, it is said that poor students should learn from top students (the measure is grades and discipline), not.

Parents of poor students should pay attention. I think the teacher's intention is good, although the tone is traditional preaching, but we have long been used to it, and the unit leaders don't talk like this, so we don't care too much.

The task of studying in the fourth grade is heavy, and the teacher has changed. The teacher began to call to report the child's "abnormal" behavior: your son, his handwriting is not good, he is distracted in class, his homework is handed in last, and he is too slow to do things; After lunch,

The other children stay in the teacher's office. Your children are always walking around the campus, which is very personal. I hope parents will urge their children to study, and also talk about the problem that children will not let him run around. He's special.

My son reported that the situation at school was more than before. When they came back, they complained that the teacher often canceled their favorite physical education class and science classes and asked them to do China math problems in the classroom. I also mentioned that several boys often do this.

With the teacher

The result of "rebellion" is of course "teacher dictatorship." Although my son is not in the "rebellious" team, it is obvious that he supports those "rebellious" children and tells me that "where there is oppression, there is resistance".

I observe children and feel sorry for my son. People in the city "imprison" their children-houses are small, roads are too messy, and neighbors don't communicate with each other. Therefore, their hands and feet are not flexible enough and their actions are not fast. Add the newly learned pen words and write.

Mistakes are not allowed to be corrected by the teacher, nor can they be crossed out and rewritten by others nearby. They must be glued with tape (it is said that many schools use this kind of pen, so that students' homework can look neat and beautiful.

View). If you are strong, make a hole and rewrite the whole page; If my strength is weak, I won't do anything at once, but I have to do it twice or three times ... In this case, it takes a few minutes to correct the typo successfully, plus I'm not familiar with this technology.

The frustration brought by practice finally made my son finish his homework in tears.

So when I got a call from my teacher, I was very upset. Son, it's not easy enough. I insist on doing my homework every day, and physical education class is often cancelled. It's nice to take a walk! It's better than sleeping at a small table. Distracted? This is very important for children.

Normal! Writing slowly? This difficult "technology" has not been practiced yet, and of course it will not be soon. But on the phone, I didn't say this to the teacher. I guess my son must have added some hard work to the teacher. I respect teachers.

In the gift, it means to strengthen the help for the children at home, thank the teacher for his concern, and ask the teacher to help the children more.

My son asked me, did the teacher tell you about me? Well, that's what our teacher does. Call first, and then let parents and parents put pressure on us together to see if you are convinced. Several students were invited to meet their parents.

I realized the antagonism between my son and my teacher and thought about how to avoid conflicts. In other words, I smell my son coming into conflict with the teacher. What should I do if it is unavoidable? Also, as a parent, I am likely to have a conflict with my teacher and feel sorry for my son. Rain is coming and the wind is getting stronger and stronger.

In the future, I will try my best to help children improve their quality and speed. Although my son is not satisfied with the teacher's designated error correction skills, he still obeys the teacher's authority and disagrees with me to discuss alternative methods with the teacher (I found him)

After telling me, I have the strength to face the reality. After lunch, I still walk around. My son is quite sure that it is not against school discipline, and the teacher didn't say so. I just feel that it is not convenient to manage a sheep without a flock.

In the next few days, I will communicate with my teacher by phone, but that's all. I sincerely respect the teacher, listen carefully to the teacher's story about the child, and thank the teacher for his hard work and concern for the child. Such a few times of electricity

After that, subtle changes have taken place-from unfamiliar to familiar. The teacher's talk has gradually mentioned many advantages of children from the initial "accusation" and led me to find some ways to help my son.

Son, this way. After listening to the teacher's complaint to him, I translated it into "the teacher said that you have great writing potential and can write better, so let's practice more"; The teacher said what advantages you have. At first, my son was not very

The letter also asked: Did the teacher really say that? I quickly sent a short message to the teacher: Teacher xx, the child doesn't believe that you actually appreciate his advantages. Please tell him yourself tomorrow!

When the child came back from school again, his eyes sparkled: "mom, the teacher praised me today!" It seems that our teacher does not always find fault with me! " I suddenly relaxed a lot, the shadow of "the teacher is fiercer than the tiger" began to fade, and I was less worried about the future "wind and rain". My son is also very willing to come back and give me a "News Network" every day, and it seems that everyone was very happy at that time.

After a while, I realized that the "storm" had suddenly come. One afternoon, while I was in a meeting, I suddenly received a phone call from my teacher, telling me to come to school at once, saying that my son was extremely out of control and asked me to "talk about him" with the teacher.

As soon as I entered the classroom, I found two boys present besides my son. A boy stood in front of the teacher's platform diagonally opposite, holding hands and talking with the teacher. The soldiers came to block the water, just like practicing table tennis.

General; Another tall boy is still sitting in the first row, doing his homework and working as a mediator. My son is sitting in another seat next to the podium, with tears on his face, but he is not convinced.

This scene made me feel sorry for the children for a moment. They are not only under great pressure to study, but also have difficulties in communicating with teachers every day. I sympathize with the teacher, too. More than 50 children are almost exhausted after finishing their homework, and they "press the gourd and get the gourd" in discipline. How can they not be exhausted!

The teacher finally finished playing table tennis, and it was my son's turn. I called the teacher outside and asked her to find a place for me and my son alone. Then, the teacher began to "accuse" my son of "crime". My son put his arms around him and said, "Xu said nothing."

I once again asked the teacher to go outside and suggested that the teacher only describe what happened that day and what she expected of the children in this matter. Because my son has an attitude of "struggling to the end", it is difficult for him to make up with the teacher immediately. The teacher accepted my suggestion and things became simple.

Most of the anger was relieved in the teacher's narrative. The cause of the incident is actually very simple. The child didn't go for a walk at noon that day. After eating, he and several classmates threw orange peels in the classroom and were criticized by the teacher. The son refused to accept it, so there was a conflict. When the teacher has finished speaking, let the children go home and think about it and see what they did wrong.

Then I stayed in the classroom with my teacher. The children have all left, and I sincerely told her that I saw her fatigue at work and realized how difficult it is to be a teacher now. The teacher looked at me, thanked me for being an understanding parent, and told me her difficulties, such as the requirements of the school, the requirements of different parents and the challenges from children. She also thanked me for listening to her.

After returning home, I will carefully understand my son's thoughts and help him understand his own right and wrong. My son is very grateful to me, saying that I don't scold him in front of teachers and classmates like other parents. He said that some parents did this at the invitation of the teacher, and his classmates were very wronged!

A week later, the teacher called me and said that the child wrote down his understanding of the incident in his diary (the teacher asked the students to keep a diary, but the son showed it to the teacher, but he didn't show it to me), thanking the teacher and apologizing. The teacher was very moved!

This conflict has strengthened my triangular relationship with my children and teachers, and the result of mutual acceptance is daily harmony. I communicate with teachers at any time to build my son together. Sometimes I take the initiative

It's not convenient to go to school to meet every teacher of the children, so leaving a phone message is enough to solve the problem. My son's grades are getting better and better. He is becoming a gentleman. At his son's primary school graduation ceremony, his son and his teacher were close.

Taking a group photo happily, I saw that their eyes were full of joy for each other.