Ding Ning: Losing in Moscow is the biggest hurdle in life. How to serve in life?

Ding Ning: Losing in Moscow is the biggest hurdle in my life. I will take any service in my life.

She is a leading figure in women's table tennis in China, a soft and playful girl next door, and also a "big baby" for the jingles.

Some people know her because she was in tears when she lost her gold in the London Olympics. More people remember her and cry because of the joy of winning the gold medal in Rio Olympics.

Try to win in the arena and learn to face defeat in life. "People only see you fall and get up, but they don't know the road you walked alone. Life is one pit after another. "

She fell into it again and again, and her face was totally embarassed; Climb out again, smiling brightly.

Facing Xinhua News Agency's "New Youth", I listened to Ding Ning, the Olympic champion, talking about the road she had traveled in recent years.

The following is a record of the speech:

Hello, I'm Ding Ning, a new young man, a table tennis player.

Facing setbacks is a compulsory course since I joined the sports school at the age of 5. But this matter has not become a little easier because I am "experienced".

In p>21, in the team final of the World Table Tennis Championships in Moscow, I was the main force of the team. I lost to Feng Tianwei, and China finally lost to the Singaporean team.

I was 2 years old that year, and I was the main force of the women's team for the first time. My coach was relegated to the second team, and pictures of me crying after losing the game were everywhere on the Internet.

at that time, I thought this was the biggest hurdle in my life, but I was wrong.

not only is it a loss, but it is also a crushing defeat in the peak confrontation. For a long time afterwards, I closed myself up and didn't want to talk to anyone. I felt that everyone's encouragement, support and trust were sympathy.

I resisted training every day and played at sixes and sevens in many subsequent games.

One day, I called my mother in tears and asked her, "Why do I want to play table tennis? Why can't I be like other girls? "

I feel like a child who has lost his way in the dark. I keep looking, but I can't find my way home or the light.

After returning to China, every day's training is particularly painful. When I wake up in the morning, my first thought is: I don't want to go, and I don't want to pick up the racket.

but I said to myself, "I'm going to practice today, even if I don't practice tomorrow, at least I've taken a step forward today."

in this way, I walked slowly or quickly in the darkness of failure for several years.

In p>216, in the women's singles final of the Olympic Games, I met my opponent in 212-my teammate Li Xiaoxia. I won this time, and everyone said that Ding Ning should let go of the failure four years ago.

Everyone thinks that the gold medal in Rio Olympic Games is the node for me to overcome setbacks.

but if you ask me, it's hard for me to say at what point I walked out by myself.

I think this is the cruelest thing in the face of setbacks: people only see you fall and get up, but it's hard for you to tell others how long you have come between falling and getting up.

Many people say in your ear, "Never mind, Ding Ning, come on!" But you have to bear the repeated and persistent pain yourself.

It's like a cocoon trapped me. I don't feel like I'm using huge energy to make it burst in an instant.

In fact, I spent a long, long time, constantly pupating and pupating in the cocoon, once, twice, twice, three times, fifty times, a hundred times ... Suddenly one day, I found out, huh? It seems that this cocoon is loose.

The coach said, "Ding Ning, you should be like a rock." However, the outcome of countless competitions has been magnified with the attention of the whole country and even the whole world. Rock, which have so good when?

Many people say that the post-9s generation is self-generation, and they care more about happiness than honor. But I feel that our determination to fight for our country has never weakened, and the burden on us has become heavier.

whether you like it or not, your behavior outside the stadium has also become the focus. What you eat, what you wear and what you like may affect the choice of another young person or even a group of young people.

Today, I want to tell young people like me loudly a word of "anti-chicken soup"-don't worry, when you cross a pit, there is a bigger pit waiting for you ahead.

I climbed out of the pit in Moscow, and it didn't take long before I fell into the pit in London. Now, I climbed out, right? But in the future, I will definitely encounter bigger pits. For example, I am 28 years old. What shall I do after I retire?

can I be as comfortable as I am on the court? I never dare to be blindly optimistic about this matter.

In my opinion, life is one pit after another, and it is impossible for us to all jump gracefully and beautifully. You have to fall in and climb out by yourself. Most of the time, we can't climb out for a long time, and then we will deny ourselves.

but in fact, I especially want to say that the more difficult it is, the more I have to see my subtle efforts and changes. With this tenacity, you keep struggling, and one day you suddenly find yourself a different person, calmer and more powerful.

sportsmanship is much more than winning or losing; Like an Olympic champion, it's far more than just a gold medal. I am a post-9s generation, and I only believe that in the dark, don't stop, but look for the light by yourself.

The following is an interview with Ding Ning:

Q: Do you feel nervous and anxious when playing games?

a: I'm human, too. Although I have achieved a lot, I am also a normal person.

so I think all emotions are normal, you should accept them, and you shouldn't feel abnormal. As long as you are eager to win and win the championship, and you want to beat your opponent and yourself, you are bound to be nervous.

q: what is the ideal boyfriend type?

a: I don't think I have a fixed and ideal boyfriend type. This is fate, not what you want to find. I think both sides should have feelings for each other and feel appropriate.

q: are you a very independent person?

a: maybe I am the kind of person who can be very firm when making a final decision. But at the beginning of many things, I will ask everyone's opinions, whether parents or friends. I will synthesize some information given by everyone, and then I will calm down and think about it and make a decision.

You are not decisive from the beginning, and you think that this is the way to do it, or you are a person who completely follows your own ideas.

Q: Is "boyish" actually a "girlish heart"?

a: I don't know about the girl's heart, but I think my personality is actually very shy, but I just don't show it to everyone. However, people who know me very well will find that sometimes I am particularly shy and conservative.

q: what was the most important decision you made?

A:

The most important decision is to stick to this sport all the time, stick to it and never give up.

q: what was the worst time to cry?

A: The worst time I cried was the London Olympic Games in 12 years. At that time, not only did I cry miserably, but people all over the world saw my state on the court.

22 years old is still very young, and it is the first time to stand in the Olympic singles final. Looking back from now on, I did not do well in many aspects at that time.

Q: How close are you to Zhang Yining now?

a: I will still contact you frequently. She and Guo Yanjie were both big players of the Beijing team at that time. I followed them since I was very young. I think I learned a lot from them.

Besides, Sister Ning is my idol and has always been a person I admire very much in the field of table tennis. But now it may be different from the original, and the scope of communication with her will be wider and wider, and the topics will be more and more.

q: what will you do after retirement?

a: I have fulfilled all my dreams since I started playing at the age of five. I will think about what I should do in the future, or what I am interested in, and I have not reached a final conclusion yet.

It should be said that table tennis has given me good things, and I hope I can apply such spirit and ideas, including some experience in looking at or handling things, to what I will do in the future.

q: what is the origin of "big baby"?

a: I don't know why. When I was very young, there were some fans who were older than me, so-called "sister fans". They may treat me like a baby, so they gave me this name. Or because my nickname is "Ningning", which actually means baby.