My ex-boyfriend texted me that I had an affair. He was so angry that he bought me lipstick that he didn't send it together the next day, but he didn't add me to WeChat?

Hello, your question is known. Your question is actually very simple. Your boyfriend is just insecure and doesn't trust you. Maybe your usual style makes him feel that you are not single-minded, which reflects from the side that his emotional intelligence is not too high and he has a strong desire to control you.

In daily interpersonal communication, we often come into contact with some people with strong desire for control. With such people, you will feel uncomfortable, oppressed, uncomfortable all over, and want to stay away from each other. Control desire, a psychological term, refers to the absolute domination of something or someone to a certain extent, and no accidents or other mistakes are allowed. For people, it means absolute possession of her, and it is not allowed to be against you in thought and behavior. Too much control is usually due to inner inadequacy and helplessness. They don't want to admit that they are weak and fragile, but want to gain psychological balance by controlling others and prove that they are a strong and superior person by controlling others. In fact, the desire for control is to meet their lack of psychological needs.

In short, anyone who thinks that he is 100% in a relationship is easy to leave the responsibility of the relationship to the other party, which is easy to form control.

Why do you ask me to meet what requirements?

What does achieving mean to me? What do you mean you can't reach it?

What are you afraid of?

Are you afraid that I will look down on you and dislike you?

If I don't listen to you and do what you want,

Do you think I don't love you? Will leave you?

To help the controller face the feelings he doesn't want to face, his attitude must be sincere and acceptable.

Because it is not easy for others to let their guard down, you need to give them a strong sense of security and break through their guard step by step, which requires patience and courage.

But only by letting him face up to his own problems is the real solution to the problem.

I wish all my friends a free and relaxed life!