What are the traditional customs of Yichang people getting married?

To be engaged/engaged (to [somebody])

In the old society, marriage was arranged by parents, following "parents' orders and matchmakers' words"; Pay attention to the "correct match" and believe in the date of birth. There is no rush and no gram in the eight characters. If both parents agree, they can get engaged. When engaged, the man prepares a banquet and invites prestigious relatives to accompany the media. The woman wrote "Geng Xu" (birthday) on red paper and put it in the worship box. The matchmaker gave it to the man, which is called "sending eight characters". The man makes clothes according to the size provided by the woman, and the matchmaker gives them to the woman as a token. There are also "blood basin betrothed" and "finger belly for marriage".

daily paper

After obtaining the consent of the woman, the man will formally inform her of the wedding date, which is called "reporting the day". A few days ago, according to the date of birth of both men and women, the auspicious day of the zodiac was chosen. The man wrote down "Dragon Brand" and "Phoenix Letter" (that is, the notice of the wedding date) on red paper and sent it to the woman's home together with the gift money prepared according to the woman's requirements.

Carry a dowry

Two days before the wedding, the man went to the woman to move the dowry. Women wait for wine, and money is enough. Money is wrapped in red paper, and the amount varies, but gifts should be given to those who lift curtains, clean toilets, footbath (commonly known as "small business") and hold keys. The woman puts the dowry in the living room in advance for people to watch, which is called "Ming dowry". My aunt was sewed by a "Quanfu person" (a woman with two children) and made a bed by a "Quanfu person". Before the bride enters the room, the groom should choose a child to sleep with. This is called "pressing the bed".

Pick up the bride (in a sedan chair) for the wedding.

The man sent a sedan chair to greet the bride. Before handing out the sedan chair, you should incense the sedan chair and set off firecrackers. Holding my mother, I lit three red incense sticks and looked around in the sedan chair with a mirror, which was called "Look at the sedan chair". Then lock the bridge and deliver the sedan chair. The wedding procession waved whips and gongs all the way. When you arrive at the woman's door, you must post a post to call the door; The woman repeatedly asked for "money" until she was satisfied.

The day before the bride's wedding, please ask the concierge to "open the eyebrows" (twist the hair off her face with a shoe line). Dress up before getting on the sedan chair. There is a red embroidered square silk on the top of your head, which is called "hijab". Lin Shangqiao cried bitterly and called it "crying marriage".

Bride's sedan chair doesn't come and go by the old way. It takes a detour when going and a shortcut when returning. Constantly changing people in the middle; No parking. Welcome guests to the door, hold a "back to the horse" ceremony, drum music, endless joy.

(of the bride and groom) salute to heaven and earth.

The sedan chair entered the room and the cannon played music. Lead the mother to open the car door and lead the bride out. First, worship heaven and earth, then worship the family god, ancestors and parents, and finally the husband and wife worship and enter the bridal chamber. The groom first presents gifts to the bride, and then takes off the bride's veil; The husband and wife sat side by side on the edge of the bed, drank a cup of tea and a glass of wine, and then the groom went out to entertain the guests. After the guests left, the groom went back to his room, and the bride poured tea to pay tribute to the groom and presented gifts in parallel. Rich families invite students to give gifts, and they are also willing to give gifts. Generally, it is divided into four ceremonies: reporting ancestors, returning to burial, stepping on the hall and worshiping dawn, among which stepping on the hall is the most lively. Huangpi's debut song is unique and included in China Folk Songs Integration.

(of relatives and friends) teasing the newlyweds on their wedding night.

After the bride entered the room, she began to make trouble in the new house, which is also commonly known as the "vegetable bride". Men, women and children can laugh and play with the bride. Put some red dates, beans and peanuts in the clothes, mix them with neem trees, pour them into the new house, and sprinkle them on the bed and the bride, which is called "spreading the account" Then, everyone sits or stands, chatting or joking with the bride.

Four words and eight sentences ",or ask the bride difficult questions, or ask the bride and groom to do something to show their affection for her. In short, all kinds of jokes are played late into the night.

(of a newlywed wife) going to her parents' home with her newlywed husband.

On the third day after marriage, the bride's brother went to the groom's house to pick up the parents and girls. And send it back to the groom's house before sunset that day. When the bride returns to the groom's house, she has to walk on a "bridge" made of benches or wooden ladders when she enters the door. This is called crossing the bridge. You should "worship the flag" after crossing the bridge. The so-called "flag" is the door curtain tied to the tree. These are all farce, for the afterlife after marriage.

Second, the custom of marriage.

Simple marriage between men and women, called "convenient marriage", is very popular among the poor or remarried.

child bride

Commonly known as "daughter-in-law". There are two reasons for child bride: first, the woman's family is poor and there are many children, so she sends her daughter to her husband's family as a child bride; Second, the man's family is poor, and the son can't book a relative. First, he treats a girl as an adopted daughter and becomes a daughter-in-law when she grows up. Child brides have a low status, so it is common to be beaten and scolded. Marriage is called consummation.

Huitouqin

Also known as "exchanging relatives". Both men and women are poor families and have their own children, so they are in a dilemma, so they find a matchmaker to make up and exchange marriages. This kind of marriage, the dowry is meager and the banquet is simple.

Marriage is when my brother dies and my sister-in-law matches my brother, or my brother dies and my sister-in-law matches my brother. Most clan rules regard concubinage marriage as "incest" and prohibit it.

(of a man) marry and live in her mother's house.

Commonly known as "recruiting a son-in-law". A woman without children is afraid of breaking fireworks, and her husband will come in to carry on the family line. The wedding is presided over by the woman, and the children born after marriage generally take their mother's surname.

Recruit a husband and adopt a son

When a woman dies, she doesn't want to be widowed. When she has a fortune, she recruits a suitable man to support her family and raise her children.

A wedding ceremony in which the groom pretends to kidnap the bride

Grab a widow or a girl who is dissatisfied with her engagement by tough means, and get married hastily. There are also men and women who love each other. Because of the opposition of the woman's family or clan, they have to secretly make an appointment to "rob" relatives.