I sent a message to my boyfriend after breaking up, but I didn't reply. Why didn't the news return to you after the breakup?

It's like watching the rivers and lakes in the past.

From now on, the end of the world will be you.

The moon is also you. "

When two people are in love, they always exude the sweet taste of love. Sometimes, they are so sweet that they are bored.

No one expected that after breaking up, he/she would be so heartless, without news or phone calls, as if everything was telling you that his/her life had nothing to do with you from now on.

You are miserable, you are sad, you think hard, and you don't understand why you love him/her so much, but he/she is so kind to you. Finally, because of love and hate, I thought I was blind at first and fell in love with such a heartless person.

Is the person you love really a heartless person? If so, is your sweetness and beauty together false? If not, how to explain the state of not returning messages or answering phones after breaking up?

In love, after a period of contact, two people will inevitably have feelings, because both sides have invested a lot in this relationship, so after breaking up, both of them will be sad and painful, because both of them have been hurt by this relationship, but why does one of them become heartless?

In fact, this is because he/she has opened a "psychological defense mechanism" to avoid being hurt by the same person and the same thing again.

To give the simplest example, there is an old saying in China that once bitten, twice shy. If bitten by a snake, we will subconsciously respond to things like snakes, such as well ropes, such as fear and avoidance.

This is also a truth in love. After breaking up, not only you but also he/she feels hurt in this relationship. In order to avoid being hurt by you and this relationship again, he/she will enter the stress reaction period after breaking up, and he/she will reject you in a heartless manner to protect himself and let him/her get through the stress reaction period as soon as possible.

Therefore, if he/she reacts to you very MoMo after breaking up, and even makes you feel that he/she is heartless, it's not that the other person doesn't love you and has no feelings for you, but that many of your thoughts and actions make the other person feel that he/she has no love in the process of love. After a long time, the other party will become disappointed and finally break up with you in despair.

Maybe you will say, no, after we broke up, I apologized to him/her, begged him/her to keep him/her, and even bought him/her gifts and things. After all this, if he/she really still has feelings for me, why does he/she still ignore me or even black me?

It's actually quite simple. You didn't use the right method. Think about it from another angle. You fall in love with someone who has been hurting you, disappointing you and making you sad. During this period, you used many methods to try to make the other person understand your heart, but found little effect. Until the end, you don't want to chat with him/her, and you don't want to be with him/her, because you don't want to make yourself so sad and miserable.

After breaking up, the other party sent you a long message apologizing, bought you a gift and even came to see you. How would you react? You will think, why did you go early? I won't be so stupid again. Let me get back together with you and let you hurt me again.

If the other party doesn't give you this chance, it's no use breaking up. There must be a way, then look down:

First of all, you should make him/her feel that you are harmless. For his/her sake, you won't hurt him/her again. Of course, you won't tell him/her directly, "I won't hurt you again." If you say so, it's not that he/she is stupid. It just means you're stupid. If you don't know why you can't say it directly, then think about how to prove that you are not mentally ill in a mental hospital.

Secondly, if you want to break his/her psychological defense, you must rebuild trust and let him trust you again.

Finally, rebuild the sense of security and comfort. Everyone has his own methods and skills on how to rebuild. My method is very simple. Do you want to know?