A polite refusal

Euphemistic and polite refusal is sometimes due to various reasons. In life, there will always be things that others ask for help and they don't want to do, and many people are embarrassed to refuse. Let's share the polite refusal and related information below.

Polite refusal 1 If you want to refuse others in conversation, the first refusal should be reasonable and acceptable to others. Secondly, we should carry forward and turn around, avoid directness and reduce the unhappiness and disappointment caused by refusal; Finally, learn to consolidate your position.

1, refuse to be reasonable.

How to refuse others is an art, and the key point of this art lies in how to make others feel reasonable and reasonable, and then make others more acceptable.

A person's life is spent in constant acceptance and rejection. If you refuse to use appropriate methods and skills, it will be easy to hurt each other, cause resentment and dissatisfaction, which will lead to the breakdown of interpersonal relationships and put yourself in a very passive position.

Even if you don't fall into a serious situation, the contradiction caused by refusal will make the other party very uncomfortable.

2, after the first turn, avoid direct.

Sometimes the requirements put forward by the other party are reasonable, but due to the limitation of working conditions, they cannot be fully met in time. In this case, refusal can be in the form of "affirming first and then denying", so that they can get some spiritual satisfaction and reduce the unhappiness and disappointment caused by refusal.

On the other hand, it is also good to avoid saying no directly at the beginning, but expressing sympathy and pity, and then honestly stating the reasons that you can't accept, gaining the understanding of the other party and letting the other party give up the request.

The powerful weapon of refusal lies in the other party itself.

In the process of seeking how to politely refuse others, we should realize that the powerful ideological weapon of refusing others is often in the other party or our own words. In communication, when they are at a disadvantage, in order to find a turning point and strengthen their position, they still need to find an excuse to refuse.

At this time, if you can use the other person's words flexibly and tactfully to refuse, you can make the other person no longer need to insist, thus achieving the purpose of euphemistic refusal.

Rejection must be because the other person's request is beyond his ability or extremely disgusting. When he can help others, he will lend a helping hand, so as to continuously expand his interpersonal circle and enrich his network resources.

If you can follow the above principles when rejecting others, congratulations, you have been able to politely refuse others.

Decline 2 1 politely and keep a concise reply.

If you want to refuse others, it's simple and direct. You can use phrases, such as: "Thank you for looking up to me, but now is not the time" or "Sorry, I can't help you". Try to emphasize "no" with body language, but don't apologize too much.

Step 2 quote famous sayings or proverbs

When you want to refuse others, you can express your meaning with a famous saying or proverb. The advantages of this method are obvious, which can save a lot of explanation time and make the language more vivid.

Step 3 provide alternatives

When you can't help others, you can find other ways to replace help after explaining the reasons. Ordinary people will have a psychological compensation. If the solution they come up with is not ideal, but they have tried their best, it will also reduce their disappointment to some extent.

4, humorous and relaxed, witty and implicit

We must have principles in everything we do, and we must never do anything that does not conform to the principles.

If someone asks you for help, it is not in line with the principle, don't promise. It's called sticking to principles. But at the same time, pay attention to the way you speak. Flexible strategies should be adopted according to the people and environment at that time.

Politely refusing your behavior is a direct expression of your attitude.

When your behavior is inconsistent with your language, most people will believe you.

In feelings, the best way to refuse a person is often not to say "no" verbally, but to remember that when you say no, you have already refused the other person.

This happened to me at school.

Qiqi is a good-looking girl, whose real name was spit out in the school post. While accepting his pursuit, the other party said Qiqi was a female "sea king" (referring to people with many spare tires).

Kiki in the post is the girl in our dormitory next door. In fact, she is not bad, but naive about love.

She always thought that those people were her pursuers, and they had the right to decide who they were with and were qualified to accept each other's gifts.

Moreover, in her opinion, she has said that she doesn't want to fall in love, and those people are still chasing gifts, which is a willing thing.

However, although Qiqi really refused, it was never reflected in his behavior.

Yesterday, I told others that I didn't want to fall in love. Today, I can receive necklaces from others. Yesterday, I told others that I knew nothing about him. I'm going out to see a movie with my partner today.

No matter who encounters this situation, they will think it is still possible, so it is inevitable to continue to pursue it.

When facing feelings, I am most afraid of people who don't do what they say, because if you don't say what you say, others will easily misunderstand your meaning and do things according to their own understanding.

After all, people who really like you are unwilling to let go of any possibility.

Therefore, for feelings, when you really want to reject someone, it is never what you said, but what you did after you said it.

All "keeping your distance" can play the role of refusal.

I really like a sentence from Xi Jue:

"Keeping the distance between different identities skillfully in an appropriate way is the essence of maintaining any kind of social relationship."

Whether your refusal will hurt another person, and how to learn not to lose grace and grace in the process of refusal, the key is to keep your distance.

Just like Fan in Ode to Joy, although she has been in love, Chen Yizhi has not given up the idea of pursuing her.

However, Fan's attitude towards it has always been simple and clear.

Chen wanted to send Fan home. Fan said to pick her up after work, and subconsciously pulled away. When Chen gave Fan a gift, Fan declined every time. Even if he has no choice but to accept it, he will return the money to Chen later.

Fan in love, so to speak, didn't give Chen any chance. She knows that she is responsible for her feelings, and she also knows that keeping her distance is a silent refusal.

It is precisely because of Fan's "ability to carry clearly" that even though she has a boyfriend, Chen Ye has been poaching people.

Moreover, when Fan He officially broke up, Chen became more persistent in his pursuit, and Fan began to seriously consider him at this time.

In "Qi Pa Shuo", I remember Chen Ming saying, he said, "It is simply the rejection of the highest emotional intelligence."

When you can't simply say "I don't like it", it really doesn't matter, because simply distancing yourself from the other person is also a way to refuse, and even the effect is better.

Just like when someone asks you out, you are embarrassed to refuse. You can always tell the other person that something is inconvenient for you, but if it really doesn't work, you can not reply.

After a long time, that person can understand you no matter how slow he is.

More importantly, when you don't respond to each other in your feelings, no matter how enthusiastic you are, you will give up because you are tired.

At this time, your purpose has been achieved.

So, when you want to refuse someone, but don't know how to speak, you can try to keep your distance from them.

Because the best way to politely refuse someone is to keep your distance.

Your actions represent your thoughts.

Those who are sincere to you will understand what you mean and will not embarrass you again; That insincere person will give up sooner or later because he is tired.