Where does the anxiety of women in love come from?

Women's anxiety in love is actually their own psychology and lack of security.

Psychological insecurity is a sign of self-distrust. When one's environment/people have changed and can't control the response, it's easy to lose a sense of security.

Women will also become insecure, sensitive, suspicious and uncertain because of insecurity.

I have a friend who is very lively and lovely, and has a very good relationship with girls, not to mention boys. She always says that she doesn't believe in love, and she can always amuse lovelorn girls/boys with sharp words. Of course, she also said that she is a tease, showing her life every day, which makes us all love and hate. Of course, many boys like my friends, but none of them can.

Later, a friend took part in a club activity and met a boy. Because they often communicate together, they gradually get along well.

Originally, she lived a natural and unrestrained life, just like she couldn't find the north-south direction in an instant after talking about love. When she gets up in the morning, she always says good morning to her boyfriend, and she doesn't forget to bring her favorite food to her boyfriend when eating. Even when shopping for clothes, she always goes to high-end men's clothing stores, and she always thinks of her boyfriend at the first time. I can't stand it! After a long time, she slowly spoiled her boyfriend to the extreme, and it was difficult to take her contribution for granted, and naturally she would not take the initiative to pay anything for her friends.

My friend didn't get anything in return for her boyfriend's efforts. Later, she found that her boyfriend's mobile phone was ambiguous with other girls. She wronged her boyfriend and thought that she didn't do enough and didn't walk well enough, thus losing herself. ......

On each other, but the most important thing is to love yourself first. If you take the other person too seriously, you will gradually become unconfident, sensitive and suspicious, and you will feel inferior, become more and more anxious and gradually lose yourself. ......

In fact, the anxiety we show in love is actually what we give ourselves. This kind of anxiety is just a kind of psychology and a feeling for you.

The sense of security is also for yourself!

When you lack anxiety in love, you should find out why you feel anxious, or read more books on emotional psychology to find the answer you want to know.

In love, you must maintain your independence, improve your value and charm, enrich your spare time, do what you like, and clearly transfer yourself to other things.

Face your insecurity, find the direction of your fear, face it and solve it.

Sometimes, the more you need or want something, your subjective consciousness will take the initiative to ask for it, but when you desperately want it, the farther away you are, just like the sand in your hand. The tighter you hold it, the faster it will run away.

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