Should I give it to him?

Problem description:

My boyfriend wants to have me, but I'm still at school. I am very distressed. I don't know if I should give it to him. I'm still scared. I'm afraid what should I do if he doesn't want me after giving it to him?

Analysis:

I think it's better not to give it to him.

Not a virgin complex, but respect for yourself.

If you think giving it to him is your love, give it to him.

If you think that not giving is your love, don't give it to him.

Look at the following story. The name is if I can start over, I will cherish myself.

What you should love most in life is yourself. The most important thing to respect is yourself.

In 2000, I went to Nanjing from Suzhou to go to college. A year later, I found my junior high school classmate Yu Xia in the school cafeteria. At that time, his back was turned to me, and the boy next to him said, "There is a beautiful girl watching you behind you!" " "When he looked back, we smiled at each other, and naturally some greetings were inevitable. He asked for my mobile phone number when we left.

Later, Yu Xia often came to see me. One day, he bought 99 roses and sent them to my dormitory. My name is written on the ribbon of the flower. My vanity was immediately greatly satisfied. Actually, Yu Xia is not the kind of boy I like. But then everyone fell in love. The girls in our dormitory often chat about sex, which makes me curious. So I promised to be his girlfriend. On Valentine's Day after the Spring Festival that year, Yu Xia took me to an aerial party. We had a crazy time. After coming out, there is no bus. Yu Xia said, live in the hotel. At that time, many students rented houses and lived together outside, and the girls in the same dormitory often told me about opening a house. I know what it means to promise him. But his soft grinding and hard pulling still softened my heart. After entering the hotel, I crept behind him like a thief, and everyone around me was watching us. We opened two single rooms, but before long, he came to my room. We started kissing and didn't let go for a long time. Later, his hand slowly slipped down from my chest. ...

The first feeling is not as wonderful as described in the book, but I am still curious. After the incident, I also asked strangely, "Hey, why didn't you bleed?" "Who knows if I am your first man!" Yu Xia is somewhat dissatisfied. Suddenly I felt so wronged that I cried loudly. He comforted me. The next day, we went shopping again, talking and laughing. He also bought me a suit.

When I get close to my skin, I feel that Yu Xia is one of my relatives. Actually, I'm not very interested in things between men and women, but I always accommodate him. At that time, my monthly living expenses were in 800 yuan, and so was Yu Xia. But this 1600 yuan disappeared after 10 checked in. We can't afford a room, just on the grass, in the self-study classroom. Just like in the movie, women look around and men are in a hurry. ...

In the summer vacation of 2002, I often felt very tired and weak, and I always had no appetite to eat. Later, I began to vomit. I think I may be pregnant. Yu Xia accompanied me to the hospital for examination, and the results were positive. At that time, my tears flowed downwards, a little happy, but also confused.

Lying on the operating table, my tears never stopped, and the pain made me shout. After the operation, Yu Xia held me pale and promised: "I will definitely marry you!" "At that moment, I was very moved and decided not to marry him.

At that time, I always felt irritable, especially easy to get angry. Yu Xia couldn't stand it, so I made a few complaints. Seeing him like this, I yelled with a black face: "If you can't stand it, get out!" Said, and also picked up a pair of scissors, cut our engagement Yu Pei in half, Yu Xia trembled with anger and made a dash for the door. But after he left, I missed him very much and sent him many short messages, but he seldom replied. The doctor told me not to drink cold water or eat cold food. But after Yu Xia treated me like this, I suddenly became masochistic. I texted him that I had eaten cold food, and his message only had two words: I know. I asked him to come to my house to accompany me, but he ignored me. I finally made up my mind and sent this message: "Are you coming?" If you don't come, I'll kill myself! "He finally came, this day, a week after my abortion. In order to save his heart, I catered to him regardless of my body. I think sex may be our emotional bond ... so we made up again. That summer vacation, we decided to rent a house outside after returning to school.

At the end of the summer vacation, I lied to my family that school started early, asked my family for a sum of money, and came to Nanjing two days early. After finding a house, I bought new sheets and ashtrays, waiting for Yu Xia to come back. At that moment, looking at the small rental house, I felt at home.

At first, Xia Yu came every day, but before long, he came because we lived far from school. Even if he comes, he will bring a lot of dirty clothes. I am willing to help him wash them. I have begun to recognize myself. In the past, Jiaowa, who was around her parents, actually did housework for men like housewives. A month later, he came only once for more than a week and didn't spend the night with me. He finished and left. Suddenly, I feel like a machine.

On the National Day of 2002, when I had no money, I went out to work and helped a brand of mobile phones to promote sales. 10 days, earned 600 yuan. With money, I invited Yu Xia to Xuzhou for three days. But when he came back, he suddenly broke up with me and said, "I have no feelings for you"!

I am desperate. My heart hurts like a broken one. I slept in the empty room all day with long hair. Feeling more and more unwilling-so love for no reason, break up for no reason? So, I tried to seduce Yu Xia again, but he was unmoved. Now, I'm completely dead. That night, I took a lot of sleeping pills. The girl I was with took me to the hospital and informed Yu Xia. After gastric lavage, Yu Xia arrived. He said, "since you don't want to break up, let's live like this!" " But when I got up the next morning, he said, we can't do this anymore. From then on, he either didn't reply to my text messages or said viciously, "I'm warning you, leave me alone!" " "

Faced with such a summer rain, I gradually gave up. After the winter vacation in 2003, there was SARS in Nanjing, and the school sent a letter to my family, saying that if it was inconvenient, there would be no need to go to school at home. During that time, I was still thinking about Xia Yu.

But by chance, I met another boy. His name is Lin Bin. He is also a college student in Nanjing. He is my high school classmate. He studies better than me, goes to college better than me, and looks like my favorite type of Alec Su. It was love at first sight when I saw him again. I thought at that time, why not meet him earlier.

Lin Bin is very kind to me, too. He also knew Yu Xia and my relationship with Yu Xia, but he still chased me enthusiastically. I didn't refuse him, nor did I promise him. Thinking about Yu Xia's attitude towards me, I have no confidence in men.

In September, Yu Xia told me that he was going to study in Russia and wanted to see me one last time. At that time, I had agreed to be Lin Bin's girlfriend, and I knew what the result of meeting Yu Xia was, but I couldn't help going. Yu Xia, who was originally indifferent, seemed a little jealous and said, "If you are like Lin Bin, I will never talk to you again!" Seeing him like this, I couldn't hold back again and said, "If you don't let me fall in love with Lin Bin, then I will wait for you to return to China!" But he said, "No, it will take five years. No one knows what will happen in five years. "

That day, he rode a yellow motorcycle to see me off, staring at the back of his departure, thinking that this man would disappear in my life in the future, and I was a little sad. I changed my name when I got back. I think I was dead before. ...

On the National Day of 2003, Lin Bin and I stayed in Nanjing for three consecutive days. For three days, we didn't step out of the hotel. I prefer Lin Bin, but I feel depressed and need to be free. ...

Then we rented a house outside and started living together. We stayed together every night, and even discussed getting a marriage certificate quietly in July this year. With Lin Bin, I feel surrounded by happiness. I have completely forgotten who Yu Xia is. I feel that after a detour, I have found a happy harbor. Lin Bin works very hard. He is going to take the postgraduate exam. He studies late every day, and I intend to take good care of him and be the little woman behind him.

During that time, I still kept in touch with Yu Xia. He called and texted me, but I never answered the phone or returned messages. One day, I found a message from Yu Xia on QQ. He said that he would go abroad today. Seeing this message, my mind went blank, leaving only the image of Yu Xia. I called his home at once, but no one answered. Seeing that I was unnatural, Lin Bin came up to me, saw the news and said, "If you want to call, call!" After hearing what he said, I suddenly woke up and rushed out to look all over the world, but I couldn't find Yu Xia. I went back to the rental house in frustration. Lin Bin also a feeling of tightness, only gave me a look and said nothing.

At the beginning of June, 5438+February, 2003, I came home and found myself pregnant again. Call Lin Bin and tell him he's worried, too. He'll come back with me. But I know he is taking the postgraduate entrance examination, and the time is tight, so I said it can be solved. But when I came out of the operating room, I felt so lonely. I used to be accompanied by Yu Xia, but now I am alone. ...

After the operation, my mobile phone stopped, and I couldn't get in touch with Lin Bin, but I thought he should call my home, but I got a call from him three days later. After the phone was recharged, I sent him a short message: "Don't you care about me?" But he found a lot of reasons, and I couldn't help sending a text message asking, "Do you still love me?" He replied, "I don't know. There was a time when I cared about you very much, but when you went back, I found that I didn't love you! " His short message made me cold all over. Although wearing an electric blanket, I still feel my body shaking. I fought back my grief and asked him if he wanted to break up. He said, whatever.

After I returned to Nanjing, I sent a short message to Lin Bin, but there was no reply. I was really desperate. At school, I like being alone and having no friends. In the past, I could use various excuses to find Yu Xia, but I was afraid to face Lin Bin, because I seemed to admire him a little.

During this time, my mind has changed a lot. I like to sit in the back and listen quietly. I don't want to have any more vigorous love. I just want to finish college quietly. On many nights, I often think that if I can start over, I will choose to cherish myself. ...