No matter how many marriages you have been through, it's hard to meet a woman who really loves you. What's it like?

My friend's cousin is 33. She has been married three times and is going to divorce recently.

A friend is anxious about her cousin, three marriages and two children, all of which make it difficult for a woman to walk freely in her feelings.

But her cousin can't help it herself. Marry one unhappy, marry another unhappy and finally marry another unhappy.

Marriage is the joint efforts of two people, and there will be a happy harvest.

So if one of them doesn't know how to face his marriage, it will be difficult to be happy.

Some marriages are unhappy because men don't know how to be responsible for their families, while others are unhappy because women don't know how to be satisfied in marriage.

There is a woman whose marriage path is doomed to be unsatisfactory, destined to go through many marriages, and destined not to meet a man who really loves her after many marriages.

Just like this cousin of a friend, the reason why she is divorced and unhappy again and again is actually her own problem.

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My friend's cousin Chen married her first husband at the age of 24.

At that time, Xiao Rui's parents didn't approve of her getting married so early, but Xiao Rui, who was young and impulsive, insisted on getting married and lived with a man early.

At that time, Xiao Rui's idea of marrying her first husband was simple. The first husband was eight years older than her, with a house, a car and savings.

She thinks that her life will be easy and there is no need to work hard when she is married.

In fact, at first, Xiao Rui had a good relationship with her first husband. After marriage, she can go to work if she wants, and stay at home if she doesn't want.

However, she is very clingy. She needs the company of the man she loves when she is idle at home. When she is not around, she has to call and send messages. If she texts back and forth later, she will suspect that he doesn't love her.

After having children, she became more extravagant. Men are not allowed to have any entertainment after work every day, and must go home to accompany her and her children after work.

If he has too much contact and work with any female colleague, he will quarrel with her and try his best to contact her and insult others.

Later, Xiao Rui's first husband was really tired of her, his feelings for her became weaker and weaker, and he wanted to run away from her more and more.

I really have a new lover outside and abandoned her.

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Xiao Rui was only 28 when she divorced, and she took a girl with her. Although divorced, she soon met her suitor.

The man is also divorced, and the child is returned to his ex-wife who is four years older than Xiao Rui. She cares about taking care of her.

After dating for five months, Xiao Rui married him with her daughter in her arms.

The second husband's financial conditions are also good, and he is also very kind to Xiao Rui and his children.

The only drawback is that people are too busy, and the nature of work often requires business trips. This is also the reason why he divorced his ex-wife and often couldn't take care of his family.

After marriage, the man stayed with Xiao Rui for two months, and then he began to get busy. Sometimes Xiao Rui often misses him. He is in a meeting and on his way to talk about customers.

At first, Xiao Rui remembered that she couldn't be too clingy, but slowly, when men were often very busy and came home late from work, Xiao Rui's doubts came back.

A man goes to see his children every week. Xiao Rui suspects that he has broken up with his ex-wife, so he follows him.

When a man and his client talk about work and socializing after work, she will follow him. When he goes home, she will also check the phone and check WeChat. They often quarrel because his client is a woman.

Xiao Rui once secretly wrote down the phone number of a female client he was talking about and called him to curse his family.

Xiao Rui is actually just afraid that she will be abandoned because she loves her too much, but her surveillance, her suspicion and distrust, and his unreasonable pestering will make a man feel depressed.

Divorced less than two years after the second marriage.

04

In fact, every woman who loves a man wants to be bored with him as much as possible, hoping that he only loves himself and is not tempted by other opposite sex.

But a normal relationship needs mutual trust, because love is willing to give each other space, instead of using love as an excuse to limit and doubt each other and affect each other's normal work and life.

A year after the divorce, Xiao Rui met another unmarried man her age, who actively pursued her.

Xiao Rui is very excited and yearns for the life with him. She felt that her life had finally come to an end. This time, she really didn't want to get divorced.

After getting married, Xiao Rui soon became pregnant and gave birth to another girl with her third husband.

Xiao Rui thinks that having children will make her feel stable, and she won't say no to her like her second ex-husband.

The third husband works in general and sometimes works at night, but the salary is not bad, which ensures the daily life of their family of four.

Xiao Rui, with two children, can't work. The daily task is to coax Bao Xiao, pick up Dabao and do housework.

Although she has no worries about food and clothing, she is still unhappy and dissatisfied.

She always thinks it's not good for her husband to work at night. There are men and women in the workshop, and spending a night together will inevitably lead to problems.

Xiao Rui forced the man to change his job. There is no night shift in this job, but the supervisor is a woman.

Xiaorui is not happy again. Every time a man answers the phone of the supervisor, Xiao Rui will be questioned.

After two years of marriage, they quarreled countless times because of Xiao Rui's nonsense and suspicion.

No matter how men swear, promise and explain, Xiao Rui will still have all kinds of doubts and cries next time.

A few days ago, because the man was praised by the supervisor on WeChat, Xiao Rui made another mistake and returned to WeChat to scold the man's supervisor.

The man couldn't bear to insist on divorcing her.

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Love is exclusive and unique, but love should have trust.

Love should stick to each other, but there should be room for self and self-pursuit.

A good relationship and marriage are independent of each other, but they are also tired of each other. The independence mentioned here is not only economic independence, but also ideological independence.

Try to love someone, but also remember to enrich yourself and have your own life and pursuit.

Instead of devoting yourself wholeheartedly, losing yourself will bring depression to the other party and make you lose your mind.

A woman can't think independently if she has no confidence in her feelings. She loves to lose her mind, make trouble without reason, and make the other person feel stressed and bound.

Then she is destined to be abandoned, destined to be unhappy, destined to walk into marriage and abandon it with marriage, and destined to meet a man who can ignore her suspicion.

Such an unconfident, suspicious and irrational woman is doomed to have ups and downs in her marriage, be sad and meet someone who really loves her.

The best way to keep a person is not to sweep away the opposite sex around him, but to enrich himself and make himself excellent and attractive, so that men will naturally not change their minds.

It's best not to doubt and interfere excessively with one's work and life.

Give the other person respect and give him proper space, and he will be willing to stay in the comfortable and warm love you give.