Time is silent, and flowers bloom for a while.

Time is silent, and flowers bloom for a while.

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The gentleness of water sample and the persistence of stone sample are our nature as teachers. "If you don't leave, I will live and die together!" This is not only an oath of love, but also the eternal love between teachers and students.

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On September, 2065438 1 day, a little boy stood timidly behind his parents, showing half his face, shrinking timidly, and his eyes were full of melancholy. The first time I saw him, I felt a little distressed and vaguely worried, not knowing what kind of child I would face.

After more than ten days of military training as a freshman, I paid special attention to him (classmate Cao) and found that the clothes he was wearing were a little strange. The weather was hot and he was training hard, but he was wearing two clothes. His coat is half shorter than his underwear, his trousers are half shorter, and he is wearing a pair of old sandals. At that time, I thought it was because his family was poor, so I didn't care too much.

On the day of the military training report performance, the students were all in high spirits and eager to try, but he came over and told me that he didn't want to attend. Looking at his inferiority complex, I said: I'll give you the mobile phone, and you are responsible for taking pictures! But he said he didn't want to and turned back to the classroom. At that time, I didn't criticize him severely, nor did I force him to take part in group activities. But I found him naked, poking around in the corridor outside the classroom and peeking at the lively playground below. I think, in fact, he really wants to participate in group activities, probably because of his inferiority complex, but he doesn't want to be an outsider.

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"Teacher, I want to change my position. Cao moumou is so disgusting. He spat, rubbed it on his hand and sucked it back into his mouth. " A girl came to complain. Another girl echoed: "Yes, he stinks, his schoolbag stinks, and there are often earthworms and the like." At this time, more students gathered around to talk to me: "He has a knife!" " ""He has a lot of medical waste needles in his bag! Another child told me: "Teacher, he made many cuts on himself!" " "After listening to the child's words, I was shocked to the extreme, pretending to be calm and comforting my classmates: don't isolate him, don't stimulate him, care more about him, pay attention to him, help him and understand him. To this end, I specially set up a class problem inspection team, listed Cao as a key concern, and also reported the situation to the school. Choosing a suitable time, I had a formal heart-to-heart talk with my classmate Cao.

Obviously, he was very wary of me and didn't tell me the truth. For the wounds on the needle and hand, he explained this way: the needle was picked up with rags, just for fun; The scar on my hand was scratched by accident.

Faced with this situation, I can only try to communicate with his parents, but I didn't find anything unusual from their conversation. I just learned that the children's family is average and rented near the grain depot for their children to go to school. The child's uncle is a graduate student, so parents think that the child should have the genes to read good books, and have high expectations and strict requirements for him, but ignore the child's tolerance.

The real education is actually to give children enough encouragement and love when they encounter setbacks, so that they can have a good development space.

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As soon as I entered the classroom, some students told me that Cao had brought a puppy into the school, and the puppy was running around in the classroom, which scared my classmates to scream.

When I found my classmate Cao, he had driven the puppy to the corner at the end of the corridor. I watched the dog shivering and curled up on the cold floor and said to him, "Don't bring the dog into school, take it home after school, and don't freeze it to death!" " "

Unexpectedly, just after entering the classroom in the afternoon, a classmate with a frightened expression came to tell me: Cao said that he killed and dismembered the puppy himself and put the dog's tail and legs in the schoolbag. I was no less shocked than the atomic bomb.

Immediately, I called my classmate Cao to the office to ask, but he talked coldly about the process of killing dogs, as if telling other people's stories. I carefully observed that there was no change in the expression on his face, except that he occasionally clenched his fist or rubbed his hands. I really can't understand his coldness and cruelty. I patiently enlightened him to respect life, fear life and obey the rules, but found little effect. He just pretended to listen to me and nodded mechanically. However, this talk has achieved some results. I learned that his father often beat him and often quarreled with his mother.

I decided to communicate with the father of the child. Father Cao on the other end of the phone was not surprised by the child's cruelty. I had to take the initiative to ask about their family situation. At this time, he has been saying that the child is spoiled by his grandfather, that her mother can't educate the child at all, and that he is often not at home ... In short, everything is someone else's fault, others don't understand anything, only he is right and knows everything. I'm telling Cao's father not to deny his grandmother, grandfather and mother who grew up with him, and not to speak ill of other people in the family in front of the children. Only a United and harmonious family atmosphere can ensure the healthy growth of children. I also suggest that they take their children to see a psychiatrist. Obviously, they didn't listen to my advice and didn't realize the seriousness of their children's psychological problems.

After that, I tried to contact my parents many times and invited them to school to discuss how to get along with their children and share some tips, but it didn't have much effect.

Teacher Hao Bin, a famous psychologist, once said: "Family education is the foundation and starting point of the whole life education." In fact, family education is very important for children's growth, and parents' words and deeds will directly affect their growth.

Solve a riddle

Soon, I received a courier, but I never set the school as the online shopping delivery address. Who will deliver it?

When I opened it, I found several boxes of chrysanthemum tea and a letter to leave. I opened the three-page letter, which was originally sent by my aunt from Zhejiang. His aunt told me that Cao said he was grateful to see my teacher; He also said that I love him and tolerate him like her mother; Like his aunt, he can think from his point of view, think for him and listen to him.

The letter also mentioned that Cao's father often abused Cao's mother, and sometimes Cao's father would take it out on his children and beat them up. Once, father Cao broke his mother's child and the child was knocked unconscious. He just squeezed his hand viciously, hurting himself in the middle of the night, and then wrote in his diary: "When I grow up and have strength, I will kill you!" "

At this point, I finally understand. Such a family will undoubtedly bring the shadow and trauma of childhood to the children's hearts.

I tried to convince Cao's father again, but he denied everything and turned a deaf ear to the advice of taking the children to see a psychiatrist. As a teacher, I feel powerless and can only do my best to care for my child, so that he is no longer lonely and has a warm heart. Since then, I often communicate with my children through qq. On one occasion, my child actually wrote to me and called me "Thank Mom". The mother of the child called me and told me that the child would be in a hurry to get to school when he came home for lunch. Even in the scorching sun, he would rather play on the roadside for an hour or two, waiting for the school to open, than stay at home for another minute.

At that moment, I thought, since I can't change his family, I will try my best to let my child find a home that warms his heart at school and in class.

A favorable change

As soon as I entered the third grade, several new psychology intern teachers came to the school to give mental health tests to all the children in the school. In the initial test, I didn't find out how much psychological problems Cao had. I'm a little nervous. I specially consulted several college students. I gave them a detailed introduction to the child's situation and asked them to do another detailed examination. They agreed. In order to take care of Cao's psychology, I specially sent another group of students to review with him, saying that it was to complete the tracking data in the intern teacher's report. Because of my white lies, this targeted test has really detected that the child's psychological problems are already very serious. Closed self, shrinking communication, withdrawn personality, cold-blooded humanity, cruel means, self-harm and suicidal tendency. ...

I must wake up his parents and join me to save the child's life and soul. I went online to learn the relevant knowledge. I think I must confront his parents again with real data, scientific theory and sincere feelings. I passed the test report to his parents and earnestly advised them to respect science and care for their children. This time, my father finally rushed back to his hometown from Zhongshan, Guangdong, and took his children to the Fourth People's Hospital of Guangyuan City (mental health specialist hospital) for examination. The doctor told them that the child was already moderately depressed and asked them to be hospitalized for observation. Helpless, the child's family was poor, and the parents didn't know enough about mental illness, so they didn't need to be hospitalized. After the examination, they took the child back.

After returning to school, I suggest that children live on campus and live together for a period of time. Living on campus makes children no longer lonely, but the pressure of study in grade three makes them nervous and anxious. Sometimes he talks to himself, sometimes he smiles inexplicably, and sometimes he cries. I can only communicate with parents again and again, and parents finally suspended their children.

A year later, I enthusiastically helped my child contact the third grade. After a year's adjustment and rest, the child's grades in the class were stable, and he was admitted to Cangxi Middle School on 20 19.

When I graduated from the third grade, my child's class teacher called me and told me that Cao must see me. It turns out that Cao wants to take a photo with me. He said to me, "Teacher Xie, when I was in your class, I dropped out of school and didn't take a photo with you. I'm leaving school this year. I must take a photo with you. This is my graduation wish. Thank you, thank you mom! "

At that moment, he smiled!

At that moment, I smiled

At that moment, I also cried!

Listening to the child's "thank you mom", my heart is extremely soft. I know this child really regards me as the most important part of his life. Since then, I have been concerned about the growth of my child, including keeping in touch with his parents. As soon as the child encounters a problem, he will tell me what he is happy about. Some time ago, my child called me and said, "Mr. Xie, we are a sophomore, and we have to choose a Chinese class representative in our class." I raised my hand! Because thank you, you are my Chinese teacher, I want to be your pride, I will work hard! " As an ordinary teacher, nothing makes me happier than the growth and progress of my children!

Yes, if what I do is to save a child's life; What I want to say is that as a teacher, I have finished remolding the children's minds. Time is silent, and flowers bloom for a certain period! I believe that as long as there is love in the heart, light in the eyes and moderation in the hands, the campus must be a paradise and garden for children's hearts!

Xie, a teacher at Cangxi Siyuan Experimental School.