What if you are unhappy after marriage? What kind of marriage should I let go?

Married life is trivial and many things will happen, so we should adjust our married life. Some people are increasingly unhappy after marriage. If we don't feel the motivation to move forward, we must choose to give up.

What if you are unhappy after marriage?

1, more communication and more trust

Whether in love or marriage, communication is always one of the best ways to solve problems, and understanding and trust are also indispensable elements in feelings. Two people, no matter how big or small the contradiction is, want to solve the problem, they must communicate. If you feel that there are any contradictions and worries between you in your feelings, don't hesitate to speak out directly, because hiding them in your heart will only make you more and more unhappy and may lead to emotional crisis. Therefore, if a woman becomes more and more unhappy after marriage, she must do it well! At this time, the best way is to find a time when you can all calm down, open your heart to each other and tell each other your troubles and dissatisfaction with each other. When the other party offers reconciliation or apology, accept it. Communicate with each other more and give each other more trust, so that the two people will continue and have less unhappiness.

2. Improve yourself from the inside out

If a woman becomes more and more unhappy after marriage, she must do it well! Women must be willing to invest more for themselves, in order to remain attractive after the baptism of years and seize men's hearts. By improving yourself, you can not only grasp each other's hearts to a certain extent, but also make yourself feel satisfied and fulfilled. It is said that there are no ugly women in the world, only lazy women. There are many women who, after marriage, devote themselves to their families, completely forget to treat themselves well, and feel that they have given everything for their families, so they deserve more love from men. But this is actually your wishful thinking. If you want a happy marriage, you can't focus all your attention on your family. Don't forget to be kind to yourself, do something that interests you, learn to dress yourself properly and improve yourself from the inside out. When you are good enough and attractive enough, when you are already a bright eye that cannot be ignored, you will become confident and happy, and your feelings will be greatly improved. In marriage, it is better for a man to see you at any time, and he will keep his initial love for you unchanged.

3. Create a little romance for each other.

Life needs a sense of ceremony. Many women will feel that after marriage, the two people have become inseparable families. Romance and surprise during love, and even occasional small gifts, are no longer needed. But the woman who thinks like this is really wrong. Living too quietly will only make them more and more tired and unhappy. Marriage needs novelty, and occasionally creating a little romance for each other will make your relationship more harmonious. Therefore, if a woman becomes more and more unhappy after marriage, she must do it well! You can cook a table for him on the anniversary or his birthday, prepare a delicate gift, let him feel your intentions and inject a little color into your marriage. When you see him satisfied, I believe your unhappiness will be swept away. And everything you do for him will get a response, he will remember, and he will prepare surprises for you on important days to make you more and more happy. You know, feelings will actually heat up in such mutual giving, full of sweetness!

What kind of marriage should be let go?

1, the two sides are extremely lacking in trust.

In some families, both men and women are romantic. Every day, I have ulterior motives and make excuses not to go home. Although everyone knows that the other party is making up excuses to deceive people, they don't expose each other and seek happiness. This kind of married life has no flavor of marriage at all, and the family has lost its meaning of existence. It is better to give up early and make plans early.

2. One party is extremely irresponsible to the family.

Marriage and family need the painstaking efforts of both sides to be happy. If one of them only cares about his own enjoyment, he will treat his family as an ATM and then go out to gamble, take drugs or have sex. The only purpose and thing to do at home is to ask for money. With a little money, I went out to "enjoy a happy life" and never changed my mind. It is a relief to give up such a marriage early.

3. Marriage with escalating violence.

Domestic violence has become a poison in marriage. If one party treats the other with domestic violence, and the domestic violence is escalating, it is better to end the marriage as soon as possible. It is often reported that a family member was beaten, bound, confined, mutilated or otherwise physically, mentally and sexually injured and destroyed. The means are cruel and outrageous. There are even cases of disability and death.

4. An inactive marriage must be abandoned.

What is an inactive marriage? In my opinion, there is obviously a big problem between the two parties to the marriage. Instead of communicating well and trying to solve the problem, the two people muddle along and continue the problem in an attempt to whitewash the peace. Or one side actively wants to solve the problem, and the other side faces it with silence or hysteria and refuses non-violent communication. This kind of marriage belongs to inaction marriage, and it is also a marriage that I think must be abandoned.

Become unhappy after marriage. Why?

First, the influence of unnatural heterosexual friendship on marriage. The so-called unnatural friendship of the opposite sex is the most common way of blind date and face-to-face blind date. This way is euphemistically called introducing friends, but in fact, the two sides have long hidden their motives for marriage, and they continue to communicate with each other by relying on superficial conditions such as youth, beauty, economic foundation and social status. After the meeting, if both sides are satisfied, they should make a quick decision and form an alliance with Bai Shou. If both sides don't like it after commenting on the head and taste, it's over. The acquaintance between the two sexes is not just drawn by the introducer. Some still take the initiative. For example, some men will summon up the courage to confess to beautiful women, and some timid women may be overwhelmed with fear. Will also be moved by the sweet words of men, and exchange feelings from now on, playing hot; There are even some people of the opposite sex who are far apart. They can travel thousands of miles and fall into the arms of a stranger just by relying on the sweet words and photos exchanged in short messages! Excuse me, where did a pair of opposite sex who have never met come from? Where does love come from? They are like actors on the stage, forcing themselves to act and recite their lines! Generally speaking, all kinds of unnatural marriages are based on superficial conditions such as beauty, economic or social status, and the personalities, interests, hobbies and habits of both parties are unknown. It is expected that such a couple will have psychological estrangement after marriage.

Second, I feel uneasy about my married life. Once men and women get married, they usually leave their parents and start a new family. Because life before marriage depends on parents, life after marriage is at a loss. A man's expectation of a new life and his sense of parting from a free and single life are intertwined, which makes him upset. This woman has a strong sense of unease about her new life. On the one hand, she is exhausted from being busy preparing for marriage, on the other hand, she is uneasy about leaving home.

Third, after marriage, * * * is not used to living together. From living alone to living together, couples are not adapted to many aspects at first, such as living habits, housekeeping methods, sex, as well as their work, thoughts, personality, interests, health and so on. These all have a process of mutual adaptation and adjustment. To complete this process, both husband and wife must abandon the self-centered lifestyle.

Fourth, after marriage, both parties saw the true face of Lushan Mountain. When in love, both sides tend to idealize and idolize each other, ignoring or downplaying each other's weaknesses and shortcomings. Men regard women's willfulness as charm, while women regard men's domineering as strength. After marriage, the shortcomings of both parties are exposed and psychologically disappointed. In addition, when in love, both parties pay attention to hiding their own shortcomings, which creates an aesthetic illusion for the other party. Once you get married, you are no longer self-disciplined. For example, the man used to like alcohol and tobacco, but he always restrained himself in order to please the other party when he was in love, and it was only exposed after marriage. So both sides feel that their expectations have failed.

After marriage, both sides lost their sense of urgency and struggle. I feel that a beautiful vision is cherished and fascinated when it is not realized, but once it is realized, it often feels less valuable than imagined, which is a kind of rebellious psychology. Men and women in love are eager, sincere and hard to get married. Once they really get married, both parties lose their sense of urgency and struggle, which is an important psychological background for the contradiction between husband and wife after marriage.

Sixth, the routine of married life. Love life is entertaining, and most of them use stretching forms such as watching movies, visiting parks and making love under the moon, which makes people feel relaxed and happy. Married life has changed from entertainment to production, and I am busy with housework such as buying food and cooking, washing clothes and folding quilts, which is very boring.

If married life becomes a routine of "going to work, eating and sleeping", day after day; Month after month, the feelings of both sides will be indifferent, and it is easy to project dissatisfaction on each other, thus kicking off the struggle.

Seven, the interpersonal relationship after marriage is complicated. The interpersonal relationship between men and women before marriage is relatively simple, and many social activities are done by parents. After marriage, interpersonal relationships are complicated. A wife should handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and when she returns to her mother's house, she should handle the relationship between her elder sister-in-law and sister-in-law. Husbands should also treat their parents-in-law with courtesy and strive to win the favor of their elders. What annoys the husband especially is that between the wife and the mother; Once there is a contradiction, the husband is in a dilemma and worried.

Reasons for unhappiness after marriage

1, lacking enough care and respect.

Marriage is a matter for two people. If one person works hard and the other person is indifferent, such a marriage will not be very happy. Only by showing enough care and respect to the other party can one feel the happiness and warmth of life. If a man wants to play a good husband in marriage, the responsibility is great. If they only have no wife in their hearts, then this wife will not feel any respect and happiness, so the life after marriage is also unhappy, which has caused many women to be unhappy after marriage. In fact, such men are not uncommon in daily life. Their indifference to their wives has brought great harm to marriage, and also made women feel incomparable pain after marriage.

2. Lack of disposable money.

Many people think that two people can't talk about money all the time, but money is very important. Without money, nothing can be done. So women should be as economically independent as possible.

3. Lack of satisfaction.

Whatever you do. Mentality is very important. If you say that your husband is very kind to you, and then you really want to make trouble, and you still feel that your life is very bad, then such a person will be happy to wait. Life is the same. With the same marriage background and living conditions, some people can live happily, while others are always troubled. The reason is that the latter's mentality has a big problem. As the saying goes, contentment does not necessarily bring happiness to people, but people who don't know how to be content will definitely not get happiness.