"A Mid-Autumn Festival blessing message, 15 years of marriage is gone", are middle-aged couples really as thin as paper?

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Su Shi's deepest love for his dead wife was "ten years of life and death, so I can't forget it". After his wife died for many years, Su Shi was still infatuated and felt sad when he remembered it, but in real life, too many couples, even if they can stay together, may not be able to cherish each other. Perhaps for men, what they can't get is.

For many men, marriage is confession, sacrifice and fulfillment. For women, it is often because of love, because they love this man, so they trust him and are willing to create a happy marriage life with him. The husband and wife have different ideas about the future, and there will be many contradictions after marriage. Once a man feels that he is responsible for the woman, then in his subconscious, he will identify himself as sacrifice and fulfillment.

Women don't understand what they did wrong. Why do men become like this? In fact, from the very beginning, their starting points were different. This kind of marriage is inherently dangerous. Unfortunately, many women disagree. They think that as long as a man is willing to marry himself, he loves himself, and he will be happy with him. Obviously, this is not the case.

After marriage, women who have high expectations for marriage are often disappointed with the greater their hopes. Widowed marriage and widowed parenting will crush women's expectations for marriage step by step, leaving women completely disappointed with marriage and men. Will women resist? No, she has been worn away by life. She dare not resist and is too lazy to resist.

Time goes by little by little. At the beginning, there were wrinkles on that young and beautiful face and a little white hair, but marriage is like sailing against the current. It doesn't mean that a woman is willing to bear all the hardships, and marriage will cherish you and be better to you. Sometimes, it is precisely because of your forbearance that the other party will hurt you.

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It never occurred to Xu Lan that this 5-year-old boy had the same general blood as his son, and his mother turned out to be his good friend for many years. Xu Lan felt that she was a joke. If she hadn't accidentally seen a Mid-Autumn Festival blessing message from her husband, she would still be kept in the dark.

Xu Lan and her husband have been married for 15 years, but their feelings are still loving except for the first two years. Later, they have been bumping into each other and often have conflicts because of some small things. Especially in recent years, they have already slept in separate rooms. Although Xu Lan is unhappy in his heart, her husband says that he is old, easy to wake up, and he is afraid of affecting Xu Lan's rest. Moreover, he is an old couple, so it is normal to sleep in separate rooms.

During these years of sleeping in separate rooms, Xu Lan's relationship with her husband is like that of neighbors. Except for the necessary greeting, they haven't talked about their worries for a long time, and Xu Lan has become increasingly anxious. As soon as her husband enters the door, Xu Lan will always find something to blame her husband. In fact, Xu Lan knows very well that she doesn't really want to blame him, but she just wants to attract her husband's attention, or even get him to scold her.

Even at this time, Xu Lan never doubted that her husband would betray herself, because it was because he was honest that she decided to marry him. As for why their marriage became like this, Xu Lan couldn't tell the reason. She didn't know what she had done wrong.

Later, Xu Lancai knew that her husband had already had another woman in his heart, and this woman was still his good friend, and they had a child.

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Although her husband is tall and handsome, Xu Lancai trusts her husband so much because he is dumb and can't talk and won't please girls. But Li Dan, Xu Lan's good friend, has always had an idea about Xu Lan's husband. If Xu Lan's husband hadn't chosen Xu Lan at the beginning, it is estimated that Li Dan would have been in trouble. When Xu Lan told himself about the couple's problems, Li Dan felt that his opportunity had come, so he approached Xu Lan's husband actively.

But she can only be the shady woman. Both men and women outside marriage are products of excessive desire. How can Li Dan be content?

She designed to get pregnant and try to take the upper position, but Xu Lan's husband said that there was an interest dispute between herself and Xu Lan, so you can't leave if you want to.

Li Dan is not reconciled. Xu Lan's husband can only comfort her, make her wait, and promise that he will marry her.

Time passed like this. Xu Lan didn't notice her husband's psychological activities because she slept in separate rooms with her husband. Moreover, Xu Lan always thought that the mode of getting along between them was the same as that of many middle-aged couples, so she didn't take her husband's strange behavior to heart.

Li Dan sometimes goes to their house for dinner in the name of Xu Lan's good friend. Xu Lan regrets it now. She doesn't understand why her husband should betray himself, and so should her good friend. What's more hateful is that the two of them combined to deceive themselves.

Li Dan is 1 years younger than Xu Lan. Li Dan keeps calling Xu Lan "Sister". Xu Lan never thought that Li Dan had a crush on her husband.

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Xu Lan can't forget the content of that short message. Opening their chat records, Li Dan looks considerate, and Xu Lan's husband looks like a pet wife. They call each other husband and wife, and Xu Lan's husband says that he can't spend the Mid-Autumn Festival with her, but there will definitely be gifts for the Mid-Autumn Festival, or a diamond necklace that Li Dan is obsessed with. Xu Lan is shocked and uncomfortable.

She remembered that her husband hadn't given her a gift for a long time, even if there wasn't an ordinary flower. Xu Lan had complained, but her husband just said simply, "What are you spending that money for?"

She remembered that in recent years, her husband said that he would accompany his clients every Mid-Autumn Festival, and this year he was seldom free at home.

She remembered that when they first started together, her husband was kind to herself, but later, with the birth of the child and various trivial matters in life, their feelings became speechless and even indifferent.

two people have been together for a long time, and they should love each other more. But in real life, many couples are middle-aged, and their relationship is becoming more and more indifferent, frivolous and vulnerable.

When Xu Lan asked her husband, he didn't ask for forgiveness, but calmly said that since Xu Lan knew, he didn't have to think about what to tell Xu Lan. The reason why he stayed at home for the Mid-Autumn Festival this year was to compensate Xu Lan. After the last Mid-Autumn Festival, the husband and wife would divorce each other.

Xu Lan still can't accept it, but her husband seems to be determined. When Li Dan brought the child to Xu Lan, Xu Lan knew it was irreversible.

when people reach middle age, the relationship between husband and wife should be managed with care. If the "old couple" is used as an excuse to avoid paying and not face up to their responsibilities, then such middle-aged couples, even if they love each other deeply at the beginning, will not be able to stand the test of time after all.

People's feelings will change with time, but whether the more you love, the deeper ocean deep, or the colder and thinner, the key depends on how you choose.

It's never the temptation of extramarital affairs that ultimately breaks up the marriage. It's often the problem that couples have been getting along with each other. After a long period of time, love has been exhausted a little bit, and the temptation of extramarital affairs has accelerated the speed of marriage breakdown. If we don't face up to the problems between husband and wife, but face them with an attitude of "everyone is like this", in the end, it's ourselves who will get hurt.