Red and white things can't go, what should I say about WeChat transfer?

Now, due to work reasons, relatives and friends are not together all the year round, and some are not close relatives and too far away, so it is unrealistic to go home. So, if I give a letter, what should I do? Is direct transfer appropriate? Say what?

According to our local situation, there is nothing wrong with some people who can attend the funeral moving. I think the main family can accept it, and there is nothing unhappy. However, if people can't attend the funeral of the main family, if they just use WeChat to transfer money, no one will adopt it. Usually, friends transfer money to other relatives and friends attending the funeral, so that other relatives and friends can give gifts instead. Why is this happening?

According to our local situation, everyone who gives gifts has a "charge sheet" for future reference. Moreover, our local host family holds funerals or other banquets, and everyone has the arrangement of "sitting at the table". If the person who can't attend is a distant relative of the host family, then a seat will be arranged at the banquet. If it is a distant relative, no one is present at this seat, and the villagers will say that the family members are not sensible. If you just transfer money, you can't prove that you are "polite". I really can't go. If you drag someone else to help you with the ceremony, that person will represent you and arrange to sit in the "seat" to help you explain. There will be no impolite questions, not just money. This is called "replacement" gift, which shows your intention and that "you" have arrived.

The purpose of doing this is that you also "value" a family relationship and friendship, which proves that you have a "heart". Because for the main family, when you are sad, you need comfort, at least you have feelings. If poverty is only expressed by "money", then family relations are finished. Since we can't go, we are affectionate and righteous friends. Someone has replaced you as a "gift", which proves that although you can't leave and go back, it shows that you value this "feeling". It is much better to let your relatives and friends say something "comforting" for you instead of transferring money. Because the word "love" spoken by people is alive, the word "change" is dead, and a lot of feelings and etiquette are missing.