I am a hemiplegic patient with cerebral hemorrhage. For a year, my wife asked for a divorce. What should I do?

I had a stroke and hemiplegia when I was forty-five. My wife has been very kind to me for twenty years this year. When I first got sick, I slept at night. Massage my hemiplegic side as soon as I wake up. Under her careful care, I feel that I am still recovering and there is nothing wrong with my body. In my experience, the first three years are a period of rapid recovery. I have to pay close attention to rehabilitation exercise under the guidance of a doctor. My left arm is level 0. Once every morning and evening, tie sandbags to your right leg and climb stairs. I pull my left hand with a pulley. Now the left hand can lift 30 kilograms of heavy objects, which is almost invisible when walking. Last year, I went abroad alone to see my grandson for half a year. Individuals should keep an optimistic attitude and have the spirit of exercising perseverance. Now, both the medical level and rehabilitation equipment are many times better than 20 years ago. I can't give up on myself when others give up on you. I know people around me who are healthier than me, and I have burned a few.

If you lose your sexual ability and your wife needs it, let her go. She also has the right to pursue sexual happiness.

I have a male colleague in his fifties who divorced his wife after his only son died in a car accident. He married another woman 20 years younger than him and gave birth to a girl.

We often meet him to send his daughter to school alone, which is quite pitiful, but what can we do?

Although this male colleague is very talented, he is very thin and has been smoking and drinking for a long time, you know.

When the daughter was three years old, the young wife basically didn't go home on the pretext of going out to work.

His wife is living with others outside, and the unit leaders and colleagues are well aware of it. He is also very helpless. But at least they are far apart, so as to save him some face, out of sight, out of mind.

Actually, men in their fifties are not old. If they pay attention to maintenance and exercise, they can be as energetic as young people. For example, Xie Xian, a movie star, insisted on fitness, developed a muscular body at the age of 70, and married a model in her twenties, often showing great love and passion.

Otherwise, even if the beauty is willing to marry you, you can't stay.

In fact, people with cerebral hemorrhage are really poor, not only in life, but also psychologically. Tell me about my mother's experience at home!

My mother had a cerebral hemorrhage in the twelfth lunar month last year, and my father died the year before last. My sister and brother are both very young. My sister is 28 and my brother is 24. At that time, my mother fainted from cerebral hemorrhage and was rushed to the hospital, already unconscious. Later, she went to an expert and had an operation directly. Later, my mother woke up the next day after the operation. When she woke up, she was in great pain. She couldn't move or speak, so she broke her good leg. Anyway, it's the feeling of not wanting to live. We three brothers and sisters just cried, but our hearts were very painful, so we persisted in the hospital. At that time, my sister had just given birth to a baby for more than ten days, and I was still pregnant for eight months. My brother goes to work every day, so taking care of my mother's illness is just a burden for me. Three days later, I went to the hospital to recover. I take care of my mother during the day and my brother takes care of my mother after work at night. I am pregnant and push a wheelchair to accompany my mother to recover every day. Actually, I don't feel much about recovery. It's really my mother's psychology. I have to do ideological work for my mother every morning when I take over. I either cry or make trouble, and I will coax her to do rehabilitation every day, and so on until the day when the baby is born. My sister took over, and now she is much better and can take care of herself. What I want to say is that as long as she insists on rehabilitation, everything will be fine.

You said your wife was going to divorce you. I don't know how old you are. If you are over 50, I still advise you not to divorce. After all, most of the time has passed, and husband and wife have the obligation to take care of the sick party. Besides, it's only a matter of time before the disease is so serious.

My wife asked for a divorce. If you want to get through it, the divorce rate is so high now. Don't call yourself a hemiplegic patient. Aren't there many divorced people who are not sick?

Now let's not talk about who to blame or conscience. If she really wants a divorce, there's nothing anyone can do. You can't tie people to your heart. Let go when it's time to let go.

I can't help telling you that the marriage law stipulates that husband and wife have the obligation to help each other. Your wife has the obligation to take care of you during your illness. Even if you divorce, you should take proper care of your finances and property.

Finally, if you are a man, men should be manly, insist on treatment, do rehabilitation training and never give up. As long as you don't give up, there is hope.

Personally, since your wife has offered to divorce you, let it be.

Now the situation is, after all, you have hemiplegia because of cerebral hemorrhage, and you can't take care of yourself.

This means that the burden of supporting the family and taking care of you will be borne by the wife alone, and because of your illness, she can't satisfy her physically. She should be desperate for her future life, so she wants to divorce you. Although this is cruel to you, it is understandable, because she is a weak woman after all.

It doesn't mean anything to you that you don't agree to divorce. Your wife can sue for divorce in court on the grounds that the relationship between husband and wife is broken. Maybe the court won't divorce her the first time, but if your wife insists on suing for divorce the second time and the third time, the court will eventually divorce her.

What's more, if you don't agree to divorce, your wife will run away from home with other men, or stay at home, and often bring other men home in front of you ... What can you do?

So, buddy, since your wife has made up her mind, you'd better calm down and be with her, just like the lyrics of "There is a kind of love called letting go".

If you still love your wife, under the premise that you can't give her a happy life, let go for her.

I have read through this article, and I think there are still many good people in this world, and too few people are divorced because of illness and disability. This is disrespectful to the wedding smoke. Is the oath still meaningful? My second husband also had a brain embolism this year. No matter how many years after marriage, the two decided to be together. We can't abandon each other just because we are sick. What's the point of forming a family like that? If you find him after you leave, do you promise to be healthy for a hundred years? So I decided to cooperate with my child to take care of him and let him gradually build up confidence in overcoming the disease. With everyone's encouragement, he really recovered his old smile. I believe that the care given by family members is very important, and good people are safe all their lives!

How old are you? Do you have any kids？ How long did you get sick after marriage?

It's good that she can stand you for a year. Of course, an honest bitch wouldn't think so. Anyway, it's not her husband who is ill.

Theoretically, from the perspective of human nature and love for his wife, if he still loves her, he should divorce her. You refuse to divorce from the perspective of needing someone to take care of you, that is, you are just a very selfish person. In other words, when she married you, you were a healthy person, and she had no obligation to take care of a disabled person. It is not her bounden duty to take care of her when you are disabled.

Hemiplegic patients with cerebral hemorrhage should have lost the ability of self-care. She took care of you for a year before filing for divorce, probably because you have recovered hopelessly. If your wife is still young and strong, you have no reason not to divorce her. You should reasonably help her to go to court. You can not agree to divorce. For example, when a Christian gets married, he will ask you whether you will still love him no matter what his marriage is like, whether he is sick or healthy. Although this is just a good wish, the problem is that if everyone really does this, no one will get divorced. Although it seems ruthless. However, those who accuse your wife are just inhuman bitches. Just like someone accused Fan of running away, in fact, when it's your turn, you may run faster than him. Didn't the firemen run away when they met the fire? The host of CCTV asked him if you would blame yourself? He replied that if I go back to save him, I will also be a hero and be respected. Shave your head with a pole and burn both ends.

Husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster strikes.

There used to be a memorial arch called chastity memorial arch. Later, someone became a bitch, but someone else set up an archway for her, so she wanted to be a bitch and set up an archway. [Chastity archway] What does this mean? Actually, it means to make a woman [loyal to her life]. If her husband dies, she must also be a widow. My husband fell ill and became cerebral palsy. You can't get a divorce, but you must be widowed. Of course, if she wants to be a grass widow, that's her own business. However, if she doesn't want to be widowed, that's her freedom. Today, Judge Biao is still building a chastity memorial archway for them.

It's just a bitch who carries out moral kidnapping. Their slogans are deafening and extremely positive. But if we can stop hunger by shouting slogans, what else do we need to work for? As long as you shout slogans, everything will come true and everything will be there.

Degang Guo said to stay away from those who advise you to be generous, so as not to get you into trouble when being struck by lightning. what do you think?

Husband and wife are birds of a feather! When the time comes, everyone will fly separately, and everyone will go naked. There are too many things to figure out and talk about. ...

Veteran, seeing this question raised by the subject, I want to tell you a thousand words in detail! I don't know where to start, but my heart is like waves rolling, like a drift bottle on the Pacific Ocean, more like the green grass on the roadside being beaten by the frost in June, although it is thrilling! After the disaster, you can still reach the other shore, fluttering in the wind, and holding up the sun tomorrow with a normal heart! This is a contest between strength and confidence!

As the old saying goes! Knowing that there are tigers in the mountains, I prefer to learn from Zhang Haidi in the mountains! Whether you are bitter or happy, don't lose to ambition and dignity.

As a couple who eat in a pot and sleep on the kang, they should pay more attention to their sense of family responsibility. Respect each other, talk and laugh, live in poverty and have a sweet heart, but now, how many people can see through it! How many people can stick to the old dogma? Change the angle, people to the edge! Everyone has a little plan in mind. ...

As far as the feelings between men and women are concerned, selfishness and generosity, and giving and paying are equal! As the saying goes, twisted melon is not sweet. If you are sad, why not give up, get together and part, and let nature take its course to feel at ease! Since the fate is over, leave it alone!

It's just that I was born wrong Don't blame the wrong love, let alone learn the old love. I can't give you everything. You will accompany me to death!

One day the husband and wife are grateful for a hundred days, and a hundred days the husband and wife ocean deep! She can open her heart to you, think carefully and make up her mind. In fact, she also needs courage! You should push the boat with the tide, put an end to the pain of love debt and send blessings with a smile! May you get out of your misery and be happy every day.

Anyone who drinks this cup of love will get drunk! What is left for yourself is to face it calmly, God never shuts one door but he opens another, health is capital, adjust your mentality, fight hard, compete with the sun and the moon, and believe that your future is a rainbow! ! !

First, after you get sick, she will accompany you for a year. You should be considerate of her. It is very difficult to take care of hemiplegic patients. If you are over 50 years old, she is also in menopause, and she must be exhausted. Maybe she's angry, so it feels more comfortable to say it. Maybe you were unkind to her before, and she felt it unnecessary to do her duty for you.

Second, however, you should be strong yourself. You have to tell her that you will try to change yourself and stick to rehabilitation training. I believe that after a period of hard work, your body can become better. After that, you have to take care of her, buy food and cook for her. She has a headache. You must express your love. No matter how strong a woman's heart is, she can't stand your confession. Just try it.

Third, I know three people who are hemiplegic. A 60-year-old daughter accompanied her to do rehabilitation exercises. An 80-year-old man pushed a stool forward by himself. There is also a husband who is about 50 years old and is a colleague. After he fell, his face was deformed, but he was strong and kept exercising. Later, he met his wife and he returned to normal.

The point is not cerebral hemorrhage. Women generally don't dislike their children's fathers. It's good for you from onset to discharge. The point is, how did you treat your wife before? How helpless, pathetic, and. . . . Situation? If it were me. . . People who are bad to me are poor, lazy, evil and bad! I am poor and miserable, and I can't live any longer. . . . I am not your mother or daughter. . . To put it bluntly, you are a stranger, before. Because I love you, I tolerate you, I nag you, and I am talented. . . . Taking care of patients is thankless and often scolded. . . Let yourself be inferior to the landlord's long-term workers for the rest of my life. Long-term workers are still liberated and can resign and get paid. Why bother? It is really necessary. Life is really speechless. I still want to live. Is it worth it to you? One basket case, plus two old basket cases. . . . Don't serve me! Am I crazy? I'd better leave here early!