How to speak when giving gifts and asking for help

Since gift-giving is an art, it has its own established rules. Who to give, what to give, and how to give it are all mysterious. Never give it blindly, indiscriminately or indiscriminately. According to some successful gift-giving experiences and failed lessons in ancient and modern China and abroad, we should at least pay attention to the following principles:

Li and Li are related, and the ceremony is beneficial after the ceremony. Knowing this, it is easy to ask public relations.

As the ancients said, those who wear people's clothes worry about people's hearts. It means that when you wear other people's clothes, your arms will be filled with other people's troubles or worries. In other words, if you accept a gift from others, you have to do something for others. Therefore, if you want to ask for help, you must first learn to give gifts to others.

Of course, inviting people to do things, giving gifts well and using proper methods will make everyone happy. If the delivery is not good, I feel good when I am transferred back. Therefore, it is necessary to master the skills of asking people to give gifts.

You can't cram for gifts. It is best to give gifts on holidays, or on the birthday of the other party, or when the other party is sick. This is justified, so that the other party can't refuse, and its purpose is easy to achieve.

Ask for gifts with strategy. Sometimes it's better to give something that the other person likes than something that the family likes, which can strengthen the other person's good impression on you. More importantly, this way of giving gifts to your family sometimes leads to a qualitative change in your friendship with the other party, resulting in unexpected effects, thus establishing a close personal friendship.

Ask people for gifts, don't be blind and reckless, press me with courtesy, be sure to understand each other's interests, make targeted and clever arrangements, so that the other party can easily accept gifts, and things will be relieved.

In today's commodity society, "Li" and "Li" are linked together, and they are often interrelated. It has become a general rule of business public relations that "ceremony" precedes "ceremony".

Gift-giving is a lubricant for enterprises, partners and customers to maintain good relations. Compared with other public relations means, gift feeding has clear directionality and good rate of return, so the annual expenses for gift feeding often account for a considerable proportion in the annual public relations budget.

The public relations departments of many large companies have special storage in computers to record the identity, status, hobbies and birthdays of some major public relations people. On holidays and other suitable days, there are always routine or special gift-giving behaviors to consolidate and develop one's contacts and establish and improve one's business status.

● Ask for gifts and food gift boxes, buy beautifully packaged high-end food pens and pen gift boxes, buy pens, CDs and DVDs of well-known brands, and see each other's hobbies. High-energy moon cakes, Christmas trees and other festive gifts are sent to supermarkets or bookstores with coupons with a face value of not too small. It is suitable to send cash on corresponding festivals, depending on the occasion, occasion and close relationship. Gift books are expensive and beautifully packaged. Brand clothing shirts, complete sets of famous brand suits and other gifts. Celebrity calligraphy and painting send bonsai, root carving and famous flowers according to each other's hobbies. Confirm that the other party likes Tang Sancai, Cloisonne and Embroidery, and choose the most distinctive local products.

● Public relations gifts

pen

Choose a famous manufacturer and print out the name of the company that gave the gift.

desk calendar

Exquisite workmanship, not too much publicity for our company.

Pocket calculator,

Engrave the logo of our company.

Manufacturer of printing company brands and briefcases.

clocks and watches

The name of the gift company is printed on the wine.

If the company is a wine producer, such a gift will be more popular.

diary

Buy a thick and beautifully printed notebook and print the company name.

Small folding knife

It is best to choose famous brand manufacturers, such as Swiss knives.

glass

Glass made of crystal or engraved with exquisite patterns will be welcome:

The jacket or suit company is the best manufacturer of this dress, and the gift will be more meaningful.

Speech skills of giving gifts to leaders

Gift-giving skills:

1. Borrow flowers to offer Buddha.

If you send local products, it can be said that they are brought by people in your hometown, and some of them are given to each other for tasting. There were not many things and I didn't spend money on them, so I didn't buy them on purpose. Ask him to accept it. Generally speaking, the recipient is afraid that your refusal with too strong a purpose is expected to ease and will accept your gift. For example:

honey peach

Jiading bamboo carving

Songjiang perch

The second step is to sneak into Chencang

If you send something like wine, it is better to say that someone gave you two bottles of wine and asked you to have a drink with each other. This bottle of wine will be given as a gift, and the relationship will be closer, and there will be no trace.

3. Borrow a horse to lead the way

Sometimes you want to give a gift to someone, but the other person has nothing to do with you. You might as well choose the birthday and wedding day of the giver and invite several acquaintances to send gifts to congratulate you, so that the recipient will not refuse. When you know that this idea is your idea afterwards, it will certainly change your opinion and achieve the purpose of giving gifts and friendship with everyone's help. This is the best policy.

Replace trees with flowers.

Mr. Zhang has something to entrust Mr. Liu to do, and wants to send some gifts to settle it, but he is afraid that Mr. Liu will refuse to refute it in person. Mr. Zhang's wife is very familiar with Mr. Liu's girlfriend, so Mr. Zhang used his wife's diplomatic means to invite her to visit with a gift. Success in one fell swoop, ceremony finished, and things finished. It seems that sometimes the direct attack is not as effective as the indirect drill.

5. Let's talk about borrowing first

If you send something, you might as well say that you left it at home and let him use it first and buy it later; If you give money, you can take some flowers first and return them later. As long as you don't urge him to pay back the money, it will always be a gift, and it will also reduce the psychological burden of the recipient, and the purpose of your gift will be achieved.

Seize the opportunity to lay eggs

A subordinate owed his boss and always wanted to repay him, but there was no chance. One day, he came across the calligraphy and painting embedded in the boss's mahogany frame, which felt like rubbings and didn't match the elegant furnishings at home. It happens that his uncle is a famous calligrapher in the country, and he has the calligraphy and painting he sent at hand. He immediately brought the calligraphy and painting and put it in the frame. Not only did his boss not object, but he liked it very much, and the purpose of giving gifts was finally achieved.

7. Bridge by road

When giving a gift, you can tell the recipient that you bought it at ex-factory price, wholesale price and preferential price, and charge the recipient some fees symbolically. The effect received is generally the same as giving a gift. Because the recipient paid the money, he felt at ease when collecting things, and had no worries.

After entering the house, first talk about how good his home is, how good the location is, the furnishings, furniture and so on. Then he will say what you are doing with something. You can say that the leader has worked hard for a year. During this year, he gave himself help and promotion at work, and didn't buy any good things or Chinese New Year gifts. Then say some wishes, and I can give more support in my future work. Please feel free to say anything after entering the room. It's New Year, say something happy and festive. Don't say those useless things. You can talk about recent work problems and work prospects for the new year. Say something that will make your leader happy and at ease, and he wants to hear it. Let the leaders rest assured, how to ensure.

Since we're going to his house, of course he shouldn't be at home. If there are old people and children in his family, remember to greet the old people first and pay more attention to their parents' health. If the old man and the old lady want to be modest, you should praise him. Everyone wants to hear about their parents' health, but pay attention to their words. Then say that his children, if their children are still young, boast that their children are more intelligent and more important! ! If his child is still at school or 20 years old, he must give a red envelope. This is necessary. You have to give them both. You decide how much you want, but you must give them red envelopes. If you go to school, if you are tired of studying, buy books and buy yourself something to eat. Wait a minute. Usually you can have it. It's for children. But remember, when the money is leaving, give it and leave quickly.

Gift-giving skills

I used to live too simply, trying to change my life and maintain my contacts. But I really don't know how to give gifts, how to deal with different people, what to give, how to give them, how to treat each other's reactions and so on.

No one in this world is too rich. That's what the so-called "people who don't give gifts" mean.

But master the following skills:

1. If you can give money, don't give gift certificates or anything like that.

Don't send it to the office if it can be delivered to home.

If you can deliver it at night, don't deliver it during the day.

4. If you can send your wife, don't send yourself.

If you can give gifts willingly, don't advertise everywhere.

6. Don't have one more person if you can have one.

7. If you can give a gift, you must try your best to achieve your goal.

Talking skills when giving gifts

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Some people are always unnatural and uncomfortable when giving gifts, and their hearts are always pounding, which makes them embarrassed and embarrassed to meet each other in the future. No wonder some people regard giving gifts as a big chore and are very reluctant to do it. In fact, this is mainly because the psychological barrier is too great. As long as the method is proper and psychological barriers are eliminated, giving gifts will not make people so embarrassed.

Don't be used as a precedent.

Someone has visited many people who are good at giving gifts. After some consultation, ask them what to do if they are embarrassed or afraid to accept gifts. Most people say that the best way is to say "just this once, it won't happen again" with sincerity. Nine times out of ten, the other party will accept this sentence.

Shoot the horse first.

Give a gift to a gentleman, not him, but his wife. There is a simple reason. Give your gift to his wife, and she will be happy to accept it. So she will soon be your ally, and her husband will not be willing to be your enemy. In fact, when you give a gift to his beloved wife, he will have an inexplicable sense of pride and will appear extremely relaxed and happy; Even though he was extremely unwilling to accept it, he had something to say in front of his wife and had to smile. This makes full use of three psychological characteristics: first, the psychological advantage of husband and wife's love; Second, make use of women's vanity; The third is to use the compatibility psychology of loving couples.

Remember for life

Most people are snobbish, and people are always eager to curry favor with those successful people with power and influence. However, there are exceptions. Some people were fired for making mistakes. He used to be bold and knowledgeable, so there were many flatterers and gifts. But after being dismissed, my former friend became a stranger overnight. At this time, you can use his birthday present. He will be very grateful to you. Once he succeeds again, he will not forget you.

When a person is frustrated and far away from Maicheng, you can easily become a friend in need by giving him a small gift. This is an important psychological tactic to win others. Don't miss this opportunity.

As a third party

In interpersonal communication, people tend to be wary of each other and constantly monitor their words and deeds, but they are often willing to believe that they can also take advantage of this psychology when giving gifts to third parties outside the office.

For example, a female employee sent a few bottles of wine to the manager in the name of her husband to express her gratitude to the company manager for taking care of her, and the manager accepted it. On the other hand, if a female employee gives a gift directly in her own name, the other party may feel disgusted and alert that "you must want something" and "you are buttering me up", and most of them will refuse to give a gift. As a gift, "whose house is somebody else's" and "whose house is somebody else's" are all gifts, and it is best to be a local product of "hometown". This has three advantages: first, the other party is not easy to refuse; Second, it can evoke each other's yearning for their hometown; Third, taking this specialty as a topic can cause the two sides to have the same language and get close soon. Giving gifts to "hometown people" provinces can be said to be a common gift-giving skill. What kind of expression is it? "It will be sent home, no matter who it is, it will make the other party feel particularly cordial and the gift-giving effect will be very good.

As a "younger generation"

A gentleman works in an important department and has great power, but he is honest and never accepts gifts. When delivered to the door, he either refused or "returned the gift at the same value". So most people who come to give him gifts are embarrassed.

A shop assistant visited his house and said, "Director, your son is about my age. He is much happier than me with a healthy father like you. A few years ago, I didn't understand my father and didn't do my filial piety. As a result, dad got sick. As a junior, you don't expect your elders to be rich and powerful, but you just want them to be healthy ... Director, you are over 50 years old, so you must pay attention to your health. Otherwise, your son will be very sad! These supplements are even a little filial piety of the younger generation. Please pay attention to your health. " After listening to his words, the director was very moved. Finally, he not only accepted the gift, but also left a deep impression on the young employees.

The clerk didn't have the right to see the director give gifts, but according to his father's actual situation, he gave gifts on the grounds that the younger generation wanted the elders to be healthy, and put himself in the position of the director's son, thus touching the director.

How to ask for a gift?

Since gift-giving is an art, it has its own established rules. Who to give, what to give, and how to give it are all mysterious. Never give it blindly, indiscriminately or indiscriminately. According to some successful gift-giving experiences and failed lessons at home and abroad, at least the following principles should be paid attention to: 1, and the gift weight is appropriate.

Generally speaking, the gift is too light and meaningless, and it is easy to be misunderstood as looking down on him, especially for people who are not close. And if the gift is too light, it is more difficult to ask others to do something, and the chance of success is almost zero. But if the gift is too expensive, it will make the recipient suspected of accepting bribes, especially for superiors and colleagues. Except for some people who love to take advantage and are courageous, ordinary people are likely to decline politely, or even if they accept it, they will pay it, or they will find ways to repay it in the future. Isn't this forcing people to spend? If the other party refuses, your money has already been spent, and it's useless to keep it, which will cause a lot of trouble. As most people often say, "spend money to find guilt", why bother? Therefore, the choice of gift weight is based on the premise that the other party can accept it happily, and strive to do more with less money; Spend more money on good deeds. 2. The interval between gifts is appropriate.

The time interval of giving gifts is also very particular, and it should not be too frequent or too long. The giver may be well-off or eager for success, so he often delivers big bags to his door. Some people think that such generosity will definitely win the favor of others, but when you think about it, it is not. Because your frequency of giving gifts is too purposeful. In addition, reciprocity, people must return your favor. Generally speaking, it is appropriate to choose important festivals, celebrations and birthday gifts. The giver doesn't seem abrupt and empty, and the receiver feels at ease, killing two birds with one stone. 3. Understand customs and taboos

Before giving a gift, you should know the identity, hobbies and national habits of the recipient, so as not to cause trouble when giving a gift. A man went to the hospital to visit a patient and brought a bag of apples to express his condolences. But it happened that the patient was from Shanghai, and the Shanghainese called him "Apple" and "Dead".

The same sound. Isn't it a curse to send apples? Because the giver didn't know the situation, he broke up in discord. In view of this, gifts must be considerate and avoid complications. For example, don't send bells, because "bell" and "end" are homophonic, which makes people feel unlucky; It is boring to send a poor painting and calligraphy to intellectuals with high cultural literacy; Giving Muslims an image of a pig as a decorative design may make people jump out.

Gift-giving skills

Gifts are the carrier of feelings. Any gift expresses the special intention of the giver, or returns, or asks for help, or contacts feelings and so on. Therefore, the gift you choose must be in line with your mind, and let the recipient feel that your gift is unusual and precious. In fact, the best gift should be a meaningful and thought-provoking gift chosen according to the other person's hobby, with extraordinary quality but not obvious. Therefore, when choosing a gift, we should consider its ideological, artistic, interesting, commemorative and other factors, and strive to be unique and unconventional:

1. Gifts should be between practical and impractical. For an elegant person, a book may be better than anything, but there are fewer and fewer elegant people. However, gifts are gifts after all and should not be practical.

2. Don't buy "useful" gifts. This advice is especially applicable to men who only know how to buy household items for women they like. Practical gifts not only have no imagination, but also have no brains. You should remember that you are giving a gift to a person, not to this family.

3. Choose the packaging carefully. Gift giving is different from personal use. Good content is important, and good form adds luster. The principle of giving gifts is to choose beautiful packaging as much as possible.

Knowledge of gift giving

Giving gifts is a very simple thing, but at the same time it is a science. In fact, the knowledge of gift-giving is mainly to solve three problems? First, why give gifts? Actually, the reason is very simple. There are two main types: one is asking for help; Second, communicate feelings. Second, what gift? Mainly: First, understand the preferences of the recipients and their families. Generally speaking, in addition to the recipient himself, we also need to consider the preferences of his family. Making the family happy by giving gifts will naturally improve the satisfaction of giving gifts. Second, consider the timing of giving gifts (the choice of festivals or dates), which directly affects the choice of gifts. Third, how to give gifts? Mainly: First, we should consider more reasonable reasons for giving gifts, such as some help or support given by others, which should be expressed in words to remind everyone that giving gifts must be good at expressing gratitude to others. Second, we must be cautious about returning gifts. If the other party returns more than one gift, it is more appropriate to choose one.