My girlfriend is always cold and violent to me. What should I do?

"Cold violence" is no less harmful than physical violence. When suffering from cold violence for a long time, you will doubt and deny your emotions and feel insecure about this relationship, which is a kind of mental trauma.

If your girlfriend is "always" cold and violent to you, the more you appease her, reason with her and coax her, the more she wants to escape, ignore you and be cold to you. Then I suggest you be a little cold to her, separate yourself from your girlfriend for a certain distance or time, do your own thing with peace of mind, reflect on what is wrong, and communicate when she calms down.

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First of all, analyze the reasons of girlfriend's cold violence: 1. When you meet a problem that she thinks can't be solved, she can only escape; She thinks she has control over her feelings, and you won't leave her, so she has the courage to control you in this way.

People who love cold violence have a characteristic that "you are hot and I am cold, and you are cold and I am hot". When she sees that you are calm, if she still loves you, she will panic and be psychologically unbalanced. When she is willing to communicate, she will naturally come to you. Of course, if she doesn't come to you at all, there is no need to struggle to maintain this relationship.

So when she comes to communicate with you, it shows that her mood has stabilized. She can buy some snacks she likes and find a restaurant she likes to eat. Say it together: 1. Be sure to tell her clearly that "you don't like being cold and violent, but these are just three things." If there is a cold war, how painful your heart is. " Let her understand the possible serious consequences of cold violence, so that she can't do it again. 2. Take the initiative to tell her the results of your reflection during the Cold War, communicate effectively, find the crux of the problem, and make a way that both sides are willing to change. When she sees your attitude, the relationship will naturally be reconciled.