Why is it that you are still unhappy to exercise and read books every day after lovelorn?

Because you haven't really come out of lovelorn, it's just a way for you to keep fit and read books every day.

After being lovelorn, we feel unhappy, which is largely an addictive state. Your brain is addicted to love. If you want to be happy and satisfied, you need love to make up for and fill this deficiency.

Love is because it makes people happy and forget everything, but it falls apart because it avoids unbearable withdrawal symptoms. From the pursuit of fast to escape pain, love is addictive like drugs.

Some researchers have found through brain imaging technology that showing lovelorn people "photos of the opposite sex" will lead to the activation of brain regions related to drug addiction, which means that the pain caused by lovelorn love is likely to originate from the same brain mechanism as the pain of drug withdrawal.

The study also found that after lovelorn 18 months, this activity will basically disappear. In other words, it takes 18 months for the brain to get out of lovelorn, which is longer than the time required for detoxification!

After lovelorn, although the two have become strangers in reality, the brain changes much more slowly. Therefore, we are still heartbroken when we receive the text message-the brain stubbornly thinks that this will be the beginning of another intimate contact, but it is followed by the failure of hope.

This prevents dopamine from continuing to secrete. At the same time, because in the process of love, the nerves have adapted to the excitement and pleasure brought by this chemical in love, once the secretion is insufficient, it will bring unpleasant withdrawal symptoms.

People who are lovelorn need to endure painful withdrawal reactions. To get out of lovelorn, we should not only get used to a vacant position around us, but also change and reorganize neural pathways.

It may only take a month to establish reflex and nerve connection to connect him with dopamine release, but the learning regression and nerve change are much longer.

Especially in the process of fading, there is irregular reinforcement, then this fading will be slower-the contact after breaking up may become an obstacle to fading. Therefore, it may be better for you to cool down in isolation before IQ regains the highlands.