Will you lend money to your friends during the epidemic?

In case of an epidemic, I will lend money to my friends. In real life, many people will be troubled by this problem, and they are afraid that their friends will ask them for money, because once they lend money to their friends, they may not get it back, or they may hold it for a long time to get a small part back, and they will not get it back completely after a long delay. Moreover, once their attitudes and emotions are not well controlled when they ask for accounts, friends will easily be at a loss.

As friends, I often borrow money from you when I need it. If it's time to collect debts, it seems that we are too impersonal and we don't have the courage to speak. We are more afraid that speaking out will hurt each other's feelings. As for not borrowing, of course, my own money is "saved", but it seems morally unreasonable for my friends not to help when they are in trouble. I'm also worried that their relationship will deteriorate from now on ... it's really nerve-racking to borrow money from others!

Of course, some friends insist on the principle of "borrowing and paying back" and even pay back the principal and interest. But to be honest, this kind of lending behavior is still a hidden danger-if he borrows money from you again and again, even if he can return it in good faith every time, it still shows that he has financial problems. Once something goes wrong, he will not even pay back the principal. This is not his original intention, but it is reality!

Then, what should you do if a friend borrows money from you in the face of human feelings, feelings and morality? The principle of a really smart person borrowing money is: it is better to give money to a friend than to lend money to a friend!

The so-called "giving money" has two meanings:

The first level is psychological significance: on the surface, it is to "lend money" to him, that is, to specify the repayment period and interest, but psychologically, it holds the idea that the money will never return, that is, a friend can pay it back, but not as a gift!

This attitude looks like the spirit of Ah Q, but it also has many advantages. The first advantage is that it will not affect the feelings of friends, and it will not be sad, unreliable and unpredictable because the other party can't afford to pay back the money. The second advantage is to abide by the principle of getting along with friends, that is, the "morality" of helping others; The third benefit is to sow a seed of "benevolence and righteousness" in each other's hearts. Don't underestimate this. This seed may germinate and thrive. Once a friend develops, he will make the most sincere return to you. Moreover, once you are in trouble, your friends will lend a helping hand no matter how difficult it is.

The second meaning is to really "give him" money. In other words, although your friend borrowed money from you, you showed that you gave it to him to help him solve his difficulties, and you didn't want him to pay back the money. Of course, we must pay attention to our language skills and not hurt our friends' face.

There are many advantages to doing so. The first advantage is that he is unlikely to "borrow money" from you again. After all, everyone is ashamed. If you give him money, he will be embarrassed to borrow it again! The second advantage is that you can also take this opportunity to say "I have tried my best" and give him a discount on the number of times the other person opens his mouth. In case the other party really can't pay back the money, or doesn't pay back the money at all, your "loss" will be minimized. These two benefits also take into account "love and righteousness" and plant a benefit in each other's hearts.