How to reply to the ambiguous information of male boss

My female, 34 years old, works in a public institution. Recently, I was troubled by one thing: being bullied by a male leader for four years. When I first came to this department four years ago, the male leader sent me a long yellow joke message. At that time, I hesitated whether I should reply to the message. Finally, out of fear of revenge, I symbolically replied a message. From then on, I became his "prey". Whenever he is mentally empty or drinks, he will miss me, hug me, kiss me and make excessive demands on me. I keep refusing. During this period, we also had a sweet feeling of peace talks and love. I know he likes me but doesn't really love me, because when he is unhappy (I don't follow him) or doesn't like me, he tramples on my dignity in the name of a meeting. I haven't been able to get out of this predicament, because I want to keep my job and it's not that easy to leave. Many times, he is also good at taking care of people. After all, he is 15 years older than me and looks at me like a lover. I admit that sometimes I feel in love with him, and sometimes I hate him very much. He is very realistic, a typical rich reinforced concrete middle-aged man. I don't want to do this anymore. I also have a happy family, and now his feelings for me are getting stronger and stronger. What should I do? -The reader wrote to Su Qin to reply: If you really only hate him. it is quite easy to do so. In this era of open media and transparent information, more and more people suddenly start to be cautious about their words and deeds, because if they are not careful, they may wake up one day and suddenly become a well-known "celebrity". This kind of interest, even if you reveal it to him once, he will not dare to harass you unscrupulously for four years. You didn't. In your heart, there is not only a lot of hate for him, but also a lot of love. He looks at you like a lover. It seems to have brought you back to your twenties. Whenever he is unhappy, he tells you that he wants to hug you and kiss you. Maybe at first, it turned women off. Over time, men's practices will inevitably make women move. A man's persistence always wins a woman's heart. In the past four years, his harassment made you feel that you were in love. This shows at least one thing: this man is patient with women. On the issue of substantive physical relationship, although I am also anxious, I am not in a hurry. A little. You have a crush on him. This male boss, who is nearly fifty years old, wants to find an office lover. In order to pass the boring time at work, it can also relieve the pressure at work. I believe he likes you. But you should know that not all "likes" can make your life better. Some like traps and obstacles. Don't dwell on its tenderness, because when you stop for it, a bad ending will really come. Just like this leader, once you don't agree with him, he will find fault with you at work. Let's stay away. Although you cherish your immediate job opportunities and work under him, I'm afraid it's hard to make great progress. He is your direct boss, has strong intentions towards you, and is also very vindictive. You are willing to deal with him in the name of "love", and he will not give you a hard time. If one day you refuse to "fall in love" with him, it's hard to say what he will do next. If you dare not confront him head-on, at least consider changing departments. A man of this character will not fail if he tries to get a woman. If that day comes, the happiness of your present marriage will be gone forever. This loss is even greater.