How to recover from a breakup?

In fact, there are several types of recovery situations. According to the nature of the breakup, it can be divided into: true breakup and false breakup; according to the relationship situation, it can also be divided into: ambiguous stage breakup; weak emotional foundation type Breakup; breakup with deep emotional foundation, etc.

Each recovery method is different and requires specific recovery based on the specific situation.

But no matter what kind of breakup it is, there are some mistakes that cannot be made. I will list them one by one for you today:

Type 1: Recover the other party through apology

This is a common way of thinking in human nature: break up - because there is a mistake - apologize if there is a mistake - the other party forgives - recovery is successful!

Typical method of operation without discussing the specific situation.

First of all, you must understand that apologizing is of no use. Basically any method you can think of is more useful than apologizing. Because an apology is a logical persuasion and cannot arouse an emotional reaction from the woman. If you really want to apologize, you can try sending flowers, small gifts, and using actions instead of words. The effect may not be better, but it will certainly not be worse.

In addition, apologizing is a low-frame behavior. You are in the stage of being broken up, and your girlfriend is angry when she accuses you. She is in a higher position than you. If you apologize again, it will only Your status will be lowered even more, and the subsequent situation can only be arranged by her.

Everyone makes mistakes, and it is normal to make mistakes. You just need to maintain a good attitude, be brave enough to bear the consequences of your mistakes, and be a man with an attitude. It is difficult for a normal person to become stubborn because of a small mistake. I want to break up.

Similar to the behavior of apologizing, there are also giving in, struggling to stay, kneeling, showing pity, etc. The reason why these methods do not work is the same, because these behaviors lower your level. The value a man should have.

The second type: Stalking to win back the other person

The reason why there is stalking behavior is also caused by the unclear logic of love.

After a breakup, the sadness in your heart fills your brain, making you want to have this woman again, so you contact her in various ways and pester her, which creates an illusion for yourself, as if She is still with you, and she can come back to you as long as you make a little effort.

So, for those who do this, please calmly consider the current situation: she no longer belongs to you.

Your stalking behavior may seem like redemption to you, but may seem like harassment or annoyance to the other person. The moment she breaks up with you, her idea is that she no longer belongs to you, and what you do will only make her more disgusted.

It still comes down to the value we are talking about. If you think about it carefully, apart from causing trouble to the other party, does stalking bring any value to the other party? Worthless behavior will only make her stay away from you, and it will be difficult for you to get her back.

Third type: Don’t blame the other person

The opposite of the above two is to blame the other person.

Maybe you quarreled over something and then broke up, and you want to get back together after the breakup. But you still can't swallow this breath: it's obviously her fault, but she still hasn't admitted it, so you go over to blame her, hoping that she will feel guilty and come back to you.

If you simply want to prove that you are right and she is wrong, then your strategy is successful. But if you want to save her, then what you do is just pushing her further and further away.

Similar to this type of behavior are blocking the other person, saying bad things about the other person's girlfriends, etc.; because you are very angry, you want the other person to know their mistake and then come to you to get back together.

Don’t worry, what you do will only make you regret more and more. For example, if you block her, then your anger subsides, and you want to add her back, you will find that the other party will not approve you. After finally passing you, you will find that her attitude towards you has plummeted, and the reconciliation The goal feels further and further away from you, and you still don’t know what’s wrong.

Here is a simple emphasis: To recover in this situation, you should not take photos with the opposite sex in an attempt to arouse her jealousy, because at this time you are not completely sworn off, you should look for the opposite sex. Taking pictures will actually make her tell you that you are a scumbag, and the relationship will be divided faster.

The fourth one: Don’t delay

We have also said that breakups can be divided into real breakups and false breakups.

If you encounter a false breakup and you fail to recover in time, it is likely to turn into a real breakup, so if you want to recover, you must be in time.

Some people may ask, if I break up for real, should I get it back in time?

Don’t delay your recovery at any time. Procrastinating for a day is a waste of a day in the relationship. Many people told me as soon as they came up: Teacher, I will freeze her as soon as we break up. If she doesn’t reply to me, I will delete it. Her contact information was completely disconnected. At this time, I always sighed silently: The situation was obviously very good, but it had to be so bad.

Why can't you delay? Because when you first broke up, your emotional foundation was the deepest. As time goes by, this emotional foundation will become thinner and thinner, which will give you subsequent recovery work. bring great difficulties.