Essay about parents educating their children

A brief discussion on how parents communicate with their children

Parents are their children’s first teachers and are very important to their children’s lifelong development. However, many families criticize more than praise, prohibit more than promote, blame more than encourage, belittle more than appreciate, threaten more than inspire, command more than discuss, indulge and pamper more than correct guidance. Under this background, it has resulted in a common phenomenon in today's society that parents are unable to communicate with their children. According to expert research, the quality of communication directly affects the growth of children. Take a look at the circumstances under which your children grow up:

First, children who grow up with criticism will be prone to complaining about others in the future;

Second, children who grow up in hostility are likely to be aggressive and aggressive in the future;

Third, children who grow up in ridicule are likely to be passive and withdrawn in the future;

Fourth, children who grow up with encouragement will be more confident in the future;

Fifth, children who grow up with praise will be more likely to love others and themselves in the future;

Sixth, Children who grow up with recognition will be more likely to grasp their goals in the future;

Seventh, children who grow up with kindness will have more care for others in the future.

How can we create true spiritual communication between parents and children?

1. To establish prestige and pay attention to precepts and deeds.

Parents must first pay attention to their own cultivation and establish prestige in the minds of their children. This is the basis for sincere communication between parents and children. I would like to ask, can a parent who doesn't like learning and only cares about his own eating, drinking and having fun, a parent who doesn't know anything about everything, has bad conduct, vulgar behavior, is selfish, and doesn't respect the elderly, can he cultivate good children?

2. Create an atmosphere and pay attention to parent-child education.

Most parents use busyness as an excuse to neglect parent-child education. Parents' parent-child education should be in front of their children's physical and psychological development, and they should devote themselves wholeheartedly to their children's education, continue to learn, and improve their parenting skills in order to win their children's respect and love. Parents can read the same book with their children and read with them. This is not only a formal "parent-child" activity, but also a "parent-child" at the ideological and spiritual level. Parent-child reading allows parents and children to experience the harvest and happiness of reading together. This is a bridge for parents and children to communicate with each other.

3. Criticize less and praise more so that children can have self-esteem and confidence.

Appropriate praise is the stimulant and lubricant for communication between parents and children. This is also key to communicating with children. Praise and encouragement make children progress, while criticism and complaint make children fall behind. Never look at children with a magnifying glass. You must know that there are no perfect children in the world. No matter how perfect children are, they all have their own shortcomings. Of course, the child's key shortcomings need to be corrected, but we must pay attention to maturity, choose the best place and time, give the child opportunities when communicating, be subtle, shorten the distance, ease emotions, and be able to advance and retreat. In short, the premise of educating children is to understand them. Appreciation can lead to success, and complaining will lead to failure.