Reveal the secret! Four manifestations of boys wanting to break up

Reveal the secret! Four manifestations of boys wanting to break up

A girl said that her boyfriend has been particularly cold to her recently. They had a big fight the other day, but they made up. She thought the quarrel was over long ago. But recently, her boyfriend stopped talking to her. They used to exchange all kinds of things on WeChat every day, even if they drank saliva, he would tell her.

No matter what she says now, it will take him some time to reply "I know" or "haha" or throw a bunch of emoticons. The fixed sentence pattern of "good night, I love you" has become such pleasantries as "good night", "Ann" and "hmm". In the end, I didn't even bother to reply to her. She sent him a message, but he didn't reply for a long time. Every once in a while, she sees him making friends. Or, he simply said that he was too tired and went to bed first.

She couldn't stand it, so she asked him directly: What's your attitude now? What do you want? He doesn't think so every time: "There is nothing wrong with me, but you are too sensitive." Finally, she couldn't accept his persistent indifference and proposed to break up and end the relationship, and the other party had no intention of saving it.

In fact, women are as sensitive and accurate as radar to the signal that men don't love her. Many times, from the first second a man doesn't love her, she knows, but many times a woman is unwilling to admit the truth.

Many times, men are not good to you and don't want to break up with you for only one reason: they are afraid of taking responsibility for hurting each other. Therefore, men always use many methods to force each other to break up first, so that his guilt will be much less. If you persist at this time, you will always get hurt. Actually, you know very well whether a man loves you or not. The same is true of men who break up with cold violence. Get to know it early and put it down early.

The first stage: he is suddenly busy or suddenly disappears.

He is suddenly very busy, occasionally sending you text messages, making phone calls, and treating you in some ways that are more friends than friends. Chatting will not be as sweet as before, the original "I'm back!" " It became "I'm back". "As for the baby, don't want to. Hugs and kisses will gradually decrease. After a while, you feel that he is not as enthusiastic about you as before, and you start asking him why he has been doing this to you recently.

At this time, men won't tell you directly that I don't really love you that much or that I have fallen in love with someone else. They usually say, "No, I'm tired recently" or "I'm under a lot of pressure". Then I told you not to think. Then there will be a period of relaxation, and then you will have a relapse. Or some people will disappear more directly, which is a direct escape, and break up directly without looking at the following steps.

The second stage: if you don't take the initiative to contact, he won't contact.

Many people experience the first ditty in the first stage. When he shows indifference to you, he will show some signs of improvement after being questioned by you.

But don't imagine that your feelings will be better than before after "baptism", and it is even impossible to return to the level before the cold violence. He will drive you crazy by other means, and he will suddenly stop contacting you. At this time, he will also answer the text messages you sent in the past, and he will also answer the phone calls you made in the past. But I will never take the initiative to contact you unless necessary. Good morning and good night are gone every day.

Men always think that in this way, women will understand that this is a breakup. But in fact, women always hesitate when they deny that the other person doesn't love them. Because they always don't believe that the sweetness before will suddenly disappear overnight.

So the woman's thoughts at this time will be endlessly crazy: does he not love me? How did this happen to us? But he still cares about me. But why don't you come to me with a series of question marks to make women lose themselves gradually, and their mood fluctuates greatly, and their focus shifts to this relationship.

Stage 3: When you start to say, let's break up.

Women can't stand men's indifference, so they usually try to see each other's sincerity by breaking up. At this time, the woman's mentality still wants to save, not really want to break up.

Usually people who use cold violence at this time will struggle to say "no" or "give me another chance" In short, they will use all means to keep you. He won't let you leave. At this time, your mood is a little better, and you feel that the other person still cares about you. However, people who are cold and violent just hold on to your mood.

They will treat you better in the future, and you will feel that the other party is back. However, at this moment, he just apologizes to you, and it won't last long.

When you return to normal, he will repeat the third stage, not contacting you, and make it worse. For example, if you send a text message, it may sink to the bottom of the sea. If you call, you may turn it off directly.

The last stage: you have completely lost yourself. When you have gone through the previous stages, basically your whole mentality is already very poor. The emotion is so strong that you wander back and forth between breaking up and not breaking up.

In the end, you still can't accept this kind of relationship with or without, and take the initiative to break up. At this time, men will choose silence and will not stay. Because he thinks that it has been reconciled before, and he thinks that what you proposed this time is not that I want to break up, so it is not my fault that we broke up.

Whoever breaks up first in a relationship is more stressed. Boys who break up first may be accused of being "ungrateful and unlucky"; If one day you regret it and think you broke up first, I'm afraid it's even more annoying. Use cold violence to force the other side to retreat.

In real life, many men no longer love each other, and they all like to disappoint women with cold violence and take the initiative to break up. They know that the last thing a woman can stand is being treated as air by her lover. Therefore, if women always disappear because of busy work, frequent overtime, business trips and other reasons, they will naturally collapse, quarrel and break up.

All they have to do is nod painfully, and it will be done. People who usually break up in this way are afraid of commitment and have no sense of responsibility. So they choose to escape, they don't even have the courage to break up, and these people are extremely inferior. Maybe if one of them really has legs, it can speed up the process of breaking up.

Generally, after the silence period, if you ignore them, they will come to you and say, I'm sorry, something like redemption but ambiguous. The root cause is that they are not sure whether they can love you in the end.

I have been thinking, how can there be such a big gap between men's courage to pursue confession and cowardice to escape breaking up! Or do they think women have too much self-esteem? Some psychologists have suggested that the psychological damage caused by cold violent breakup is much more serious than that caused by normal breakup. Different from physical violence, the mental injury caused by cold violence is invisible and intangible, but it is precisely because of this that this injury is more difficult to heal.

Cold violence, although I have not experienced it personally, I will never accept it. Men with a little sense of responsibility will tell each other in advance when they don't love each other, instead of dragging each other all the time. I think the responsible way is for two people to find a place to sit down, and both sides will talk about their problems and ideas and see if there is any chance to remedy them.

If so, let's try again; If not, let's be happy separately. Instead of always running away, running away is a very low-level practice. In the matter of breaking up, in fact, many women's only hope for men is aboveboard, at least there is something for women to give up early.

No matter dating or falling in love, no one and no one must be old together. Enjoy the time together, say goodbye when you leave, and don't delay the next time. After all, everyone is an adult and needs respect and a little sense of ceremony-don't treat breaking up as a secret love, thinking it's just your own business.