What do you do when you make a request to others but they always don't respond to you?

Recently, I represented a French red wine, so I found many friends who wanted to talk about cooperation on WeChat and found an interesting phenomenon. That is, some people will readily tell you to agree to cooperate or refuse directly, while others will say to think about it and give you an answer later. These reactions are normal. It is strange that some people are silent. No matter how many times you ask if you are there, several days have passed and you have been silent.

I really don't understand what these silent people think. Whether you are willing to cooperate or not, the minimum etiquette of being a man is that others talk to you, and you have to give others a feedback! Some people may say that people in China have a better life. These people may feel a little embarrassed to refuse you directly, so they have kept silent.

But I really can't agree with this idea. In today's society, everyone who does business stresses efficiency. On the contrary, I think if you don't want to cooperate, you can simply refuse me, which will be more polite than keeping silent all the time. Because in this case, I got a clear answer. As long as you cut off my thoughts, I won't bother you again and again. Everyone is crisp and neat, and there will be no endless troubles.

But if you keep silent, I won't know your situation. Are you too busy working overtime to reply to me? Or are you too busy with the children to talk to me? Or what happened, suddenly lost contact? Still unwilling to cooperate but embarrassed to say it? I have been guessing out of thin air at this end of the phone, and then I will ask you if you are there every once in a while. I wonder how you feel. Anyway, I think this feeling is uncomfortable, and it's quite abrasive. It hurts me more than your direct refusal.

To be honest, I think this kind of person can't reply unless there is an accident. It's really rude and selfish. You cherish time like gold, and you don't even have time to reply to others with a "yes" or "no". How can you count the time spent by others? Should people wait for your reply as dirt?

Therefore, in this respect, I appreciate the style of foreigners more. They can say whatever they want and do whatever they want; But at the same time, if you want to refuse, say you don't want to do it. Yes or no is clear at a glance and will not be dragged blindly. Compared with some so-called good-looking China people who are wasting other people's time at the same time, they are more honest and therefore more efficient. In fact, this also reflects a person's emotional intelligence value.

Moreover, how you treat others now is likely to lead to others treating you the same way in the future. After all, whether you want to cooperate or not is a trivial matter in itself. Acceptance and recognition are normal. No one will hate you even if you politely refuse. But your silence may hurt others, but it will change others' consistent view of you.

So, finally, here, I want to advise you, if someone uses your mobile phone to send WeChat or SMS in the future, and you don't want to do anything, just refuse him! Because it saves each other more time than silence, and it will be more polite!

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