I haven't contacted for a week, and finally I sent my boyfriend a WeChat and SMS to say goodbye, but he didn't reply. I called him the next day and asked him if he had seen it.

But I want to emphasize that it is easier to forget than to look back; For a person, what is terrible is not people, but people's thoughts. This is especially true in love! If a person pays attention to the result in love, you will never be happy. People always say that people should learn to enjoy themselves! Then why can't you do it? In fact, the reason is very simple, that is, when a person loves another person, he can't bear to lose her (of course, nothing is absolute). This makes people pay attention to the results rather than enjoying the process. This can only be normal! I can also be divided into two kinds in love, one is realistic romanticism and the other is romantic romanticism. Realistic romantics are what people often say: people who are not good at expressing love, value future love and want to make each other happy through their own efforts. This means making each other happy through the material world! Realistic romanticism ignores the people around him, thus making the other person feel that he only values his own work and does not value himself. People who are with such people should learn to understand him. After all, he is also trying to make you happy. Some people will say: that's not what I want. What I want is that he always cares about me, supports me and chats with me. . This is a call for happiness! But for the realistic romantic, he only wants to pay, and he can do anything as long as you are happy, but he ignores the inner things. He values the future, and his happiness is based on material things, which is his shortcoming. Strength is to ensure your future life. If you choose him, you must choose everything about him when you fall in love. If you love him, you should love everything about him. Romantic romantics, needless to say, all know that they are people who pursue fashion and romance. For them, happiness in the present is more important than happiness in the future. It is wrong to pursue romance and ignore the existence of reality. If falling in love is not romantic, who will say! However, what is romance and why not? For me, romance is based on reality. While pursuing romance, we should pay attention to the emergence of problems and solutions, rather than blindly pursuing romance. If you want to be romantic for a long time, you must learn to use romantic life and deal with problems with reality. Of course, you should also consider what you want to do in the future, instead of putting your goals in front of you. Romanticism The advantage of romanticism is to learn to enjoy and learn to be spiritually satisfied. The disadvantage is that you ignore reality and value the future. The combination of the two can make it very convenient for you to deal with problems. As for how, my thoughts are as follows: First, when falling in love, we should pay attention to our emotions and thoughts, and both sides should establish trust institutions. For example, we can make an appointment to exchange our voices and opinions on time, find reasons and solutions for each other, and enhance mutual trust and understanding. The second is to deal with the problems found while pursuing romance and be humble to each other. Don't think of a small problem and ignore it! Not small is not big. Third, we should exchange ideas about both sides and the future, find their similarities, cultivate their similarities, and solve and understand their differences. The fourth is appropriate separation. Proper separation is also a kind of love, which can enhance your love. Of course, too long and too often may be counterproductive! Long-term together will ignore many problems, and proper separation will find many problems. At this time, the mutual trust institution will play a role, and there will be a better foundation and conditions for analyzing and solving problems. Of course, this should be based on mutual trust, dare to admit it and be modest. Recognition and humility are not loss of face, but love. If you really love someone, you will love her regardless of face, and you will do the same when you find problems. Fifth, the two should aim at being together for a long time and jointly build your love house. Love is a combination of the two, and both are indispensable. The withdrawal of one party will break the house of forgetting love. Therefore, both parties need to work together. As long as you really love each other, the cornerstone of this house of love will be built. Problems and problem solving, their emotions and ideas are the bricks to build a house of love. What kind of love house you want to build depends on how you use those bricks. Sixth, there should be no problem with thinking! Say what? As long as we love each other forever, there will be no problem. But what about reality? Problems arise from reality, so we should treat and solve them with a realistic attitude. It is not easy for them to fall in love. They should trust and support each other, understand and tolerate each other. Love is eternal, and so is the moment of love. Seventh, sense of responsibility: as a person, not only should be responsible for yourself, but also learn to be responsible for others. The world is not just your own, but everyone's. In charge of a hundred things, responsibility is the premise of mediation: only those who are responsible will be responsible for you. The same is true of love, a person who makes people feel safe, others will choose you. Eight is happiness! Whether you feel unhappy together depends on whether you love each other or not. People who love each other will have a sense of pride and happiness together. They always want to be with her and feel that they can't live without her. Of course, we must also distinguish whether this is love or dependence! The lack of human heart can also lead to the lack of love. However, since it is the lack of people's heart, we should pay attention to people's heart and know what we are thinking, live high, how to live and how to live. In fact, in everyone's mind, the key is what you use to understand and what you use to live. The success of a relationship lies not in whether it is still holding hands, but in the quality of the relationship. Many times, holding hands does not mean success, and breaking up does not mean failure. The key is to see whether you have completed two important psychological tasks of love in this relationship. Do you know your own needs better? Have you learned to love others? The opposite of love should not be hatred, but forgetting; Then why do some people's love turn into hate, but they won't forget it? That's because they lack confidence in love ... We need to complete two important psychological tasks in love: First, we should know ourselves better. In addition to the concept of self-awareness, the self in sexual love can be presented more completely and clearly. Second, cultivate the ability of our lover. Learn to love from being used to being loved at an early age. There are three benchmarks to see whether a man is a good man: responsibility, respect and stability. Being responsible means that he can be responsible for what he says. Respect means that he can respect his other half, which is what we usually say. You have established a "partnership" with him, and you are equal. In addition, he should be an emotionally stable person. Some people are prone to ups and downs, and it is difficult for such people to maintain a long-term relationship. These are just benchmarks for a good man. If the conditions are raised to elite men, we can also sum up the so-called "half-hearted" benchmark. First of all, the initial heart is happiness. He should be a cheerful person himself, which will make people who get along with him feel happy. The second heart is caring. Caring is considerate, which is easy for all girls to understand. The third heart is empathy. What is empathy? It is the ability to put yourself in others' shoes. Empathy is the source of respect and the most important ability for couples to solve conflicts. There are two meanings. The first meaning is sincerity. Sincerity is sincerity, and sincerity is the basis of responsibility. The second meaning is kindness, that is, being able to interpret the behavior of couples in a kind way. This is very difficult for many people to do when they get along with each other. For example, if the other party is late accidentally, it will start to blame the other party with a malicious interpretation, and you don't care about me! Someone buys a stock that keeps losing money, just like facing an irreparable marriage. Whether to sell it or not bothers all the costs he spends on things, such as time and money, just like whether to get a divorce. When these costs cannot be recovered, they are called silent costs in psychology. Why we don't want to leave an unhealthy marriage, why we don't want to give up a worthless stock, because we don't want to admit that these silent costs can never be recovered. The emotional needs of boys in love are as follows: First, their own abilities are affirmed. He often cares whether anyone deserves respect. Second, talent is appreciated. Maybe some of his hobbies and talents don't work at all, but you still have to learn to love and respect. Third, efforts are appreciated. His dedication to you and this relationship needs to be appreciated. The emotional needs of girls in love: First, they are often concerned. Although it is a daily nagging, please be patient. The second is repeated affirmation. She may ask you again and again if you love her. In fact, she just needs affirmation again and again, and you need to give her confidence. Third, ideas are respected. The way to make love last forever is to make a three times three preservation plan. Three times a day, three minutes each time. Plan three a, first attention, concentration. In our daily life, I often think that the best gift we can give others is time, put down all the work at hand, turn off the mobile phone and listen to each other attentively. Secondly, affection is nonverbal communication, that is, body language communication. It's okay. Give each other more hugs. Third, admire and appreciate each other. Every mature woman has a naive little girl, and every naive little girl has a naive little question mark. That is whether I am likable or not. At this time, you need to learn to praise each other. Of course, it is also a good choice to praise each other's looks and figure. Or her ability to take care of the family can not be ignored. Of course, every mature man has a very naive little boy, and every naive little boy has a ridiculous little question mark, that is, am I looked down upon by others? No matter how mature a man is, this little question mark still exists. Learn to give him affirmation. Nothing is more touching than love. If you feel that there are some incomplete places in your present life, it is probably that you haven't finished this homework yet. In fact, love is regular. If you follow these psychological and emotional needs, there will be no regrets when we say I love you to each other for the last time.

I hope I can help you. If you are satisfied, please adopt it. If you are not satisfied, keep asking. I wish you happiness!