How to be unselfish

Join a team. Any team can, really. Join the current sports league, join the welcome Committee of your community, or become a member of the extracurricular French club. No matter what activity you choose, being a member of a team will help you see the importance of cooperation and that many individuals need to balance each other to succeed; Being a member of a team is very important for correcting selfishness, so joining a team is a good start.

As a member of a team, it is not easy for you to put your own needs above others. For example, if you join the volleyball team and serve well, you won't achieve much if you don't know how to pass the ball and how to cooperate with other players.

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Empathy. Whether you imagine what it's like to be someone important to you or speculate on the inner world of the lady you met in the supermarket, empathy will make you more self-aware and less selfish. If you are arguing or arguing with someone, don't just consider what you want from this situation, but also consider the feelings of others. Only in this way can you understand the starting point of others.

Imagine if your wife has just come home from work after a busy day, but you want her to cook you a special meatball dinner; Think about how long she's gone. Why can't you prepare dinner today?

For example, you are fighting for the last piece of pie in the local bakery. Think about it. Why does the other party want this pie so badly? Can't you give in?

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The needs of others are more important than your own. A typical selfish person always puts himself in front of others, pursues the first and ensures that he can get what he wants. Then, in order to avoid this selfish behavior, you can start thinking about what your children, friends or other important people may want, even if what they want may be contrary to your needs. When you are in a dilemma, think about how to make the other person happy instead of satisfying yourself.

If the person you care about really wants to watch his favorite baseball team play the finals, but you want to go to the movies, let him have his wish this time.

Having children will make people less selfish. If you have children, you should take care of their needs as much as possible before they can stand on their own feet. In other words, even if you are hungry, you should feed them first; You are too sleepy, so you must read them story books to help them fall asleep.

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Remember that you are not the center of the universe. You see the sun rising on one side of the horizon and setting on the other side, but that doesn't mean it's going around you. Everyone on the earth is equal, and everyone's needs, desires and desires are equally important. Ask yourself, why is it so important to get what you want and get all the love and attention, while others, including your brothers, sisters and colleagues, have to put aside their own needs and watch you win alone?

Let others enjoy the spotlight. Let others get what they want. If you don't get what you want every time, you will be happier when you get it.

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Stop using others. As we all know, selfish people will openly and shamelessly use others. You know, if you have a friend who gives you a lift to go to the post office with you because you don't want to go alone, or introduces you to her uncle to help you find a job ... Then, when she needs your help to get through a lovelorn period, you suddenly disappear for several days, or you are too busy to send her an apology message. If you have this selfish tendency, you should pay attention to maintaining the balance of interpersonal relationship, which requires both gain and pay, not just your unilateral acquisition, proximity and blind acquisition.

If your friend has helped you three times in a row, it's time for you to stand up and do something in return.

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Learn to compromise. Stop thinking about what you want from everything, but think about how to let other people concerned get what they want. If you can come up with a compromise that will make everyone happy, a way for all of you to reach an agreement and make most people moderately happy, that would be the best. Compromise is a kind of ability, which can not only help you succeed in friendship and interpersonal relationships, but also make you succeed in your career.

When you want to solve a problem, think about whose desire is stronger. If you and your boyfriend are choosing a movie to watch, and he desperately wants to watch World War Z, but you have no strong desire for your choice, let him have it.

If you find that your position is not so firm, why not reach an agreement that is beneficial to others? This time you compromised, and in the future conversation, you may turn the tables and benefit you. In the final analysis, it is up to you to choose which battle is more important.

Before reaching a compromise, make sure everyone has a chance to express their views. This will help you understand everyone's point of view in a comprehensive and balanced way before making a decision.