A close colleague is leaving, and he is reluctant to leave. How to adjust?

My close colleague resigned. Do you want to resign with him? I believe this is an idea that many people will have. I've been in this situation before, and more than once. But the worst time is not because my colleague resigned, but because my colleague is ready to resign. It happened to be the end of the year, which directly caused a wave of resignation.

At the end of the year, people pay more attention to the year-end bonus, because after getting these bonuses, in a sense, it is equivalent to Bai Piao getting some salary, which also indicates that a new year and a new job are about to begin. Just at this time, an old employee with good popularity was ready to resign, and some bad emotions spread, which led many people in the unit to have the idea of resigning. Moreover, many people actually resigned in the end, which caused great trouble to the unit.

But in fact, after I contacted these colleagues for a period of time, they didn't find a better job, because most of them were from naked resignation, and only the colleague who made up his mind first was better. After all, he made complete preparations and decided to resign after careful consideration.

Therefore, I feel that my feelings are not important when my close colleague resigns. It is important for them not to be influenced by these emotions, otherwise it is easy to create a lot of unnecessary trouble for themselves. We should pay attention to the following points:

1, my colleague resigned, and I also want to resign. Is it because my work is really unsatisfactory or because I lost this colleague?

2. Colleagues are in a bad mood when they resign. Is it because they are in trouble at work, or is it just a loss?

3. Did my colleague quit because of work or because he had better arrangements?

I think for a mature professional, there will always be changes when colleagues around him stop and go, and there will naturally be emotional fluctuations in their hearts, but they should be rational. Work is your own, not shared with colleagues. It doesn't mean that your colleague resigned, so you can't do this job any more, and you shouldn't do anything inappropriate for it.

In fact, it doesn't matter if a close colleague resigns. As long as the relationship is really good enough, he can keep in touch privately. However, if it is only a superficial relationship, and the other party does not meet or contact after resigning, then this relationship is really bad and there is no need to feel lost.