1 1 sentence teaches you how to comfort sad people.

1. Don't say: God won't make you more miserable.

If this person has a firm belief in God, this sentence implies a meaning: that is, if you can't handle this matter well, you must have no firm belief, not a devout Christian and so on.

Hypothesis: I know you must be very sad.

Don't say: I think all this may be the best result.

God, don't say that! This person who is immersed in grief does not think that everything is a good result unless her closest relatives can be resurrected.

4. Don't say: He has gone to a better place or is happy, and he is no longer in pain.

Suppose: you must miss him very much.

Don't say: I know exactly how you feel.

We always say this, but remember that even if you lose a loved one, everyone's life journey is different, so you can't fully know how others feel.

Let's put it this way: I really can't understand how you feel now.

6. Don't say: You will get well soon.

This is a hypothetical sentence, actually from your point of view, not your friend's point of view, because you don't want to see your friend immersed in pain any more, so you will feel better. But don't forget that you didn't ease her pain.

For example, as long as you need me, I will always be here.

7. Don't say: You should

Let's put it this way: mourn in your own way, and I will do my best to support you.

8. Don't say: She doesn't want to see you so sad.

Watch out! This sentence may cause the other person's guilt. Even if this sentence is true, it will only make others feel that they should not be sad, and they have not dealt with sadness in the right way.

We said: I know you are sad and miss her very much.

9. Don't say: Keep yourself busy, and you will get better soon.

This is a kind of indifference to the feelings of others. No matter how well-intentioned you are, it is really useful to say these words when others are sad, but remember not to use the tone of command.

For example, when I'm sad, it's a good idea to keep myself busy, but I don't know if it applies to you.

10. Don't say: It's time to cheer yourself up.

Everyone mourns in different ways, so maybe it's not time for her to pack up and cheer up.

1 1. Don't say: just say if you need my help.

For example, today is the day to throw garbage. Let me help you take out the garbage.

Remember what you should say and comfort your friends in sorrow. Not only will you feel better, but you will also help her out of her pain.