Should girls take the initiative to send messages

Should girls take the initiative to send messages

Should girls send messages voluntarily? If she is single and meets a boy she likes, it doesn't matter if she can chat happily. If she is unhappy, there is no need to take the initiative. Below I sorted out whether girls should take the initiative to send messages.

When a girl meets someone she particularly likes, should she send a message 1 1.

If you happen to be single and meet a boy you like very much, you can chat on WeChat first to see if you can be together. If you have a good chat, you can also try to ask him out.

When you meet someone you particularly like, take the initiative to find out if he is interested in you. In feelings, knowing each other's meaning in time can also save time and not waste beautiful youth time.

2, two people are in a cold war relationship, you can also have the cheek and take the initiative to attack.

One thing in love is taboo. Don't let a person who loves you take the initiative for too long, and occasionally let him be sweet.

When two people quarrel and the relationship is cold, boys don't have to coax you every time. When you are angry, you can also reflect on who is wrong, and then you can talk to each other casually. If the other person comes to coax you and gives you a step down, you must not make trouble without reason.

3. When you both feel a little tired, girls' proper initiative can warm up your feelings.

For example, if you think he doesn't contact you actively, then you can contact him actively. If active contact has not improved feelings, you can consider meeting him and see what is going on. If he doesn't take the initiative and you don't take the initiative, your relationship will break down in an unknown way.

Any relationship needs a person to be more active and then guide the direction and development of this relationship. Initiative means giving. Perhaps in the early days of a relationship, the one who pays more does not ask for anything in return, but only seeks happiness for each other. But over time, everything will change.

People who take the initiative for a long time will become more concerned, and they will also hope to get the care and care of each other, hoping that each other can take the initiative.

Sometimes, if a girl takes the initiative, it will be cute.

Should girls send messages voluntarily? Firstly, it is never a problem to send messages voluntarily. The crux of the matter is that you sent a message on your own initiative and he didn't reply to you for a long time. Will your mind explode at this time? I think most people will know this. There is no doubt that a person we care about finally got up the courage to send him a message, but he didn't reply for a long time, which will lead to many problems. For example, is it because I posted it wrong? Why didn't he reply to me? Is it because he will never talk to me again? The more you think about it, the more pessimistic you become. At this time, your mentality will be unbalanced, and you will keep sending it to him and try to send all kinds of content. Just to attract attention and get him to reply.

I once met a girl who sent messages for three months without receiving any reply, including greeting and expressing her feelings for the purpose. In my opinion, this is really extreme. So if your brain doesn't explode, of course you can send a message to any boy.

As a girl, why on earth should I take the initiative to send messages to boys? This question is very important. Many girls are prone to explosion because they don't know why they want to send it. Some girls never explode because a boy doesn't reply to her news. Why? Because some girls send messages to a boy, not because the boy can't hold back without finding a girl, but because he didn't find me, I can't see the current situation between me and him clearly. Since I care about him, I will try to get his inner thoughts indirectly and judge my position in his heart by actively chatting with him and replying to my content. My position is good, I will continue to associate with him, and my position is medium. I will try again. If the position is too low, I will leave wisely.

Yes, you don't need to ask a person directly what he thinks of you, just have a brief chat with him to get a general understanding. Moreover, the purpose of chatting with each other is always for your own good, so that you can stop suffering and feel more at ease. Make yourself comfortable. This is the most correct purpose. Absolutely not for courtship, but to let him know how much you love him. Trying to get more love from the other person by letting him know how much you love him is full of purpose, sex and control, and it doesn't work at all. So we send messages again to get information and want to know our position in his heart.

So if he doesn't reply for a long time, what news can you get from this move? Send him a message, but he won't answer. There are roughly the following possibilities: he is busy and has a dream to reply to you. So in this case, do you just need to give him a little more time? Most practices have proved that many girls are very blx. We have met many girls. If they don't reply for five or ten minutes, they will sit still and cry. This is a sign of poor empathy, assuming that others are as idle as themselves. Really, many people are busy every day, and there is really no way to reply to the news in time. It is the best way to calm girls down at this time. Aren't we just sending messages to see where we are in each other's hearts? Isn't it just to see how soon he will reply to our message? Since you are observing, what are you worried about? Under normal circumstances, boys will reply, and this attempt is successful. After two or three times, the girl will have psychological hints, and he will definitely reply to me. It's only a matter of time. This is the information and security we get through chatting.

But if 24 hours have passed and he doesn't reply, it means that he is not busy, but really doesn't want to reply. What if he really doesn't want to reply? The first possibility is that he really doesn't want to talk to you. What should he do at this time? There is no way to leave with dignity. A person who doesn't want to talk to you, no matter how many messages you send, you are not attractive to him, and he doesn't even want to take care of your face when replying to your messages, which shows how disrespectful he is. You just need to stop sending messages and leave quietly. If you have a wonderful life in the future, through the circle of friends, he will naturally feel your attraction and will naturally take the initiative to find you.

If you don't reply within 24 hours, there is a second possibility. He doesn't know how to reply to your topic. Maybe he doesn't want to talk about emotional problems, or maybe he doesn't need to reply at all. At this time, you need to try again and say a very relaxed topic, such as have you eaten, or are you here? If you still don't get any reply after the second attempt, please retreat, he doesn't want to talk to you. If you reply, it can only show that your position in his heart is not high, but you still have room to work hard. So if he replies, how do you judge your position in his heart? It's simple. Look at the content of his reply. If his tone is considerate, he will reply quickly. And he also extended the topic on his own initiative. Congratulations, which means he cares about you. You can continue to talk to him about anything you want. He didn't take the initiative to find you before, maybe he was waiting for you to find him, or maybe he was too timid and needed some encouragement from you.

If there is no tone, but all your questions are answered, you can see that you are distracted. Please don't explode. Because the chat of straight men is not straight in tone and expression, it is their most commonly used way. Have a good talk with him and ask more questions. If he can answer, he will even ask you. Congratulations, he is sincere. If the reply is not satisfactory, it is not careless at first glance. He may just reply to you politely.

Change your mind, and you won't be unhappy in love. Why are you more depressed when people don't reply to you? Don't you need to care for the dignity of girls? Don't act like a madman in front of each other. I want to break up today and make up tomorrow. Will you be happy with such a big contrast? Don't think this is forced by boys. Just because you don't know how to observe. When you just passively wait for him to send a message, all this has been foreshadowed to a certain extent. Where was your vigilance at that time? Why did you choose a boy instead of you? You take the initiative to send him a message. If he doesn't call you back for two hours, you will deduct one point for him, five points for him if he doesn't call you back for five hours, and five points for him if he doesn't call you back for 24 hours. Tell him to get out of here. Isn't this very conventional logic? Stubborn, unwilling, and finally others live well, you are not only ugly because of depression, but also waste your time. Is it really worth it? So, please learn to observe gracefully at any time and send him a message actively. It will not be elegant, but the performance of your thinking explosion after you take the initiative is truly elegant.

Should girls take the initiative to send messages? 3 Recently, many people in the background are asking the same question: Will girls take the initiative if they like someone? I have also talked to many girls about this topic in private. Actually, there is no standard answer to this question. In my opinion, initiative has little to do with gender. If I really like it, I tend to encourage initiative, although I may not be able to do it myself.

In reality, many girls always feel that taking the initiative is terrible.

"Whoever takes the initiative first loses. Too active, the price is falling, and there is no sense of security ... "In short, most people have many concerns, such as inferiority, fear of rejection, and fear that they love more than each other. So many people would rather miss it than take the initiative to take a step forward.

Those who pass by will regret it too late.

It is said that love has nine sorrows, whether it is reality or movies, because it is not active enough, because it is not brave enough, and there are many love tragedies caused by hesitation and retreat. Anyone who has seen Please Answer 1988 knows that the most regrettable couple in it is Gou Huan and De Shan. Obviously, there have been many intersections and opportunities, but Gou Huan never said "I like you" to Deshan.

Until Gou Huan finally drove to Deshan, he kept encountering red lights: "If I hadn't been stopped by that damn traffic light today, I might have stood in front of her like fate. My first love is always stumped by that damn opportunity. "

In fact, even if it was a green light, even if he stood in front of Deshan first, maybe the ending would not change. Because in those moments that he once thought were not perfect, Azeri had already stepped into the heart of Virtue.

Everything is missed, and there are traces to follow.

"Without a specific threshold and deadline, no one will wait for you forever."

It's not a traffic light, it's not an opportunity, but countless hesitations. In fact, when you are waiting, you have missed many "perfect" opportunities. Not long ago, a reader shared his story with me, which deeply touched me.

He said: There was once a girl who had a very good relationship with me. He likes her and she likes him, but they are tacit. Finally, the girl couldn't help but ask him: how come you never say you like me?

He replied: I want to catch up with you when I am better. Later, they never contacted each other again, until one day the girl took the initiative to contact him: "I'm getting married."

He realized that he had really lost the girl.

The feelings that have not yet bloomed have withered.

After listening to this, I can't help thinking: When is the best time to express my love?

Now it seems that I suddenly understand that no matter who I meet, he is the right person. Whenever you start, it's the right time. If you choose to start.

People who don't take the initiative will always set up many obstacles for themselves, seriously.

"If TA wants to find me, I will take the initiative." You care, but you pretend you don't care.

In fact, I can understand the insecurity of people who are afraid of taking the initiative. They will unconsciously regard love as a competitive game about winning or losing. Whoever takes the initiative first loses, and whoever shows love first means that he loves much more and is more likely to get hurt.

But is the person who missed it because he didn't say it the big winner in love?

In reality, there are many girls who obviously like each other, but they always give people a feeling of rejecting others, but in fact this is just an appearance, and temporary indifference is just an instinct of self-protection.

I think many girls should take the initiative to the person they like. People who say they won't take the initiative have a great chance of not meeting people who want to take the initiative, because when they like someone very much, they can't get cold.

The only regret may be the way you took the initiative, so that the other party could not notice your liking. In fact, there are many ways to take the initiative, not just to say like it. For example, some girls don't send messages on their own initiative, but if a boy sends one sentence, she can go on to say five. In fact, this is also an active suggestion. After all, people who don't like it are too lazy to watch the news.

When I was a student, many girls approached the boys they liked by asking homework and came together by asking questions. Their active way is to find various excuses to get close to each other. Of course, the one mentioned above is the luckiest one, and most of the rest are regretted because of the other person's indifference and "Uh-huh, oh …".

Therefore, initiative is not unilateral insistence, but one side throws an olive branch and the other side happily follows. Just like tug-of-war, you can only continue if both sides come and go.

Yesterday was the first anniversary of Lao Ke's marriage with his wife. They had to stay at home because of the epidemic. Even so, I didn't forget to abuse the dog and sent a bunch of sweet photos to the dead in the group.

They met in high school and have known each other for nearly 10 years. At school, they were both plain-looking, with average grades and average looks, but they saw each other at a glance.

Lao Ke said that there are not many absolutely correct things he has done in his life. One of them confessed to his wife after the college entrance examination. He said that his pockets were empty and he was uncertain about the future. All he can do is catch her in front of him. Out of procrastination and self-protection, we always have cognitive dissonance: "I don't deserve him, wait, wait, wait until I become better."

It's like you spent a semester studying hard, and someone always scored higher than you in the final exam; When you try to be better, you find that someone is more suitable for her than you.

When time passes, it is the past. In the end, there was nothing left but regret.

I should say a lot now, and I won't have a chance to say it after I miss it.

There is a word in medicine: prime time.

After injury, timely cardiac resuscitation within 4 minutes can generally save lives; After more than 8 minutes, the success rate plummeted to 5%; More than 16 minutes, it is basically in vain. It's no use waiting until everyone has left. What you can do is to cherish it while it is still in front of you.

Liu Wen once said in Adventure Life: The most important thing is not the place, nor the scenery, but who you are with at this moment.

What really fascinates a person is never money or appearance, but responsibility, details, singleness and preference.

"Life is not like cooking. You can't wait until everything is ready. "

If you like someone, tell him now before the memory turns into regret. Come on, everyone, don't be cowards!