Your boyfriend ignores your countermeasures, and he always ignores you alternately.

After understanding, I found that the boyfriend's "no news" actually accounted for a very large proportion in the fuse of the quarrel.

There are many girls who can't wait for a reply after sending messages to their boyfriends, so they are anxious and in a worse mood.

When I was in contact with my boyfriend, I found that the other party didn't care at all, as if I didn't take my anxiety and sadness seriously at all, and I didn't care so much about this relationship, so the conflict was on the verge.

In fact, I find that such girls are often simple, emotional and have a kind and soft heart.

Not only did they not convey their feelings, but they made boys misunderstand that they were "daughters" and "difficult to serve" ... This was both wrong and distressing.

Today, we will systematically talk about the correct way to deal with your boyfriend's failure to return your information.

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Send a decent and mysterious message

Albert Mehrabian, a psychologist, once pointed out that there are three elements that constitute face-to-face communication: language, tone and nonverbal behavior.

I don't know if you have this experience:

When I woke up, I saw 20 missed calls or 50 unread messages on WeChat.

What is everyone's first reaction at this time? Of course:

"What's the matter? ! "

When you found out that these 20 missed calls and 50 unread messages were sent by your girlfriend, telling you that she was bored at home alone, what was your inner reaction?

This is also the reaction of men when they see your serial phone calls and long WeChat messages.

Of course, sleeping is still a trivial matter. If the other party happens to be under great pressure, it is necessary to complete the proposal to the customer; I finally waited for the game of my favorite team. I just finished talking with my brothers. I was in a good mood and planned to ask you out for dinner. As a result, I picked up the phone and saw a series of questions:

"Why do you ignore me, and which woman to chat with? What are you doing? ……"

At this time, even if a man loves you again, he will feel that he has been poured cold water and his heart is uncomfortable.

What information does he want to see most at this time?

"Honey, I sent you a message and you didn't reply. Are you busy? Pay attention to your health, remember to eat, and contact me when you are busy. "

● This news first gave the man a step down. No matter what he was doing just now, you gave him a reason-"Busy".

Secondly, show your consideration and remind him to take care of himself.

Finally, the most important gentle knife-remind him to contact you after he is busy.

Then, put down the phone, watch a play, read a book, or do something else to keep yourself busy. When he is finished, he will contact you naturally.

Some students raised their hands and asked:

"What if he hasn't contacted me after waiting for a long time?"

At this time, we should consider the following question.

02

How to express your needs during the period of love burnout?

There is a long-standing period called love burnout period.

During this period, the two sides have lost their original freshness, and the intensity of contact will also drop significantly.

During this period, girls often feel insecure, and if they are slightly negligent, they will start to worry about whether the other party has changed their minds. Therefore, it is their favorite thing to "bind" each other with information and try to contact each other.

However, if you use the wrong method, it will often be counterproductive.

For example, one of my students recently felt that life lacked interest and sent a WeChat to her boyfriend at work.

Woman: "Guess what color shoes I wear today?" Man: "I don't know, Huang?" Woman: "Have you ever noticed me at ordinary times? Where are the yellow shoes? " Man: "That white?" Woman: "What's your attitude? Can you pay more attention to me? ! Talk to me. Are you so impatient? Say you don't care about me, you really don't care! " Two people had a big fight.

In fact, the real purpose of this student is to hint at his dress today, to let his husband take him out on a date at night, and to have some fun and guess. As a result, there was a quarrel, and the date naturally fell through.

If she had changed her way, things might have been completely different.

Woman: "You left early today. Are there many things in the company? " Man: "Well, a lot." Woman: "Oh, it's so hard, but you are so hard that you don't have time to look at my new clothes!" " "Man:" It's the same when you go back at night. "Woman:" Don't wait to go home (coquetry expression). There is a restaurant in XX, which is very difficult to book. Today, we finally have a table. Let's go together when you get off work! "Man (seconds back):" OK. "You see, praise the man's hard work first, and then arouse his curiosity-wear new clothes, and then throw out the demand and go to XX restaurant for dinner.

In this way, you not only gain interest in dating, but also enhance your feelings and give a man a better emotional experience, and he will love you more and more.

When you care, you should know the "heroic feelings" of men. What they need most is your respect and understanding when they are working hard outside.

Students who are really not sure what to say, remember the universal formula I compiled for you:

Praise his professionalism+arouse his visual curiosity+precise demand = a woman that men can't refuse. Don't say eat the restaurant you want to go to. You may see your circle of friends say that he will secretly place an order for you!

03

What should I do in the face of a man who disappears into thin air?

If the person who sent the text message disappears out of thin air, it is likely that there is something wrong with the chat content, which makes him lose interest or feel unable to reply. That is what we call "talking to death."

Faced with this situation, we have two solutions.

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Take the initiative and make yourself interesting.

● The first thing is to do what he likes: if he likes football, you can accompany him to talk about football; He likes games, so play games with him.

It's best to cultivate two people's hobbies, which will not only get twice the result with half the effort, but also make you have fun.

Secondly, from each other's perspective, it is easy to guide each other to express their ideas. For example, if the other person is busy at work, you can ask him humorously:

Woman: Did you make a lot of money again today? Have you exhausted my dear again? What do you want to eat? I will satisfy you at night!

For example, if the other person wants to go out for dinner, you can say:

Woman: Did you go out to eat delicious food behind my back again? Drink less ~ if you drink too much, be sure to let me know and take you home. Be safe and don't get drunk.

Here comes the point. Knock on the blackboard and take notes: besides confidante, confidante is the key for men to like confidante.

Can understand him, can understand him, the important thing is never to blame him. Only in this way, he will feel very accomplished and attractive, and he will want to talk to you more actively.

● Finally, spread less negative energy: complaining too much about trivial things in life will make boys feel like your mother-in-law and sprout the idea of trying to escape.

Girls who love sunshine and smile positively will make men want to be close to you.

2

Hold your horses and take him down with a gentle knife.

It is still a tense working day. Your boyfriend has been busy all day. He took out his mobile phone and looked at it, but you didn't send him a message abnormally.

At this time, he will start to wonder if you are angry with him, and even feel a little anxious.

When he thought of ten thousand reasons to complain and question you, you suddenly threw out a sentence:

"My dear, you finally finished. Are you tired? Do you want to go to bed early? "

At this time, the man's affection for you must be doubled, because instead of blaming him, you showed understanding and respect.

This kind of tolerance and understanding can cause his inner guilt and make him eager to compensate you.

Let's recall that if you do something wrong at work and think that the boss will deduct your salary, the boss will comfort you instead:

"It is good to try my best. When everyone makes mistakes, keep trying. I am optimistic about you! "

When you hear this, do you feel guilty and want to work harder and make some achievements?

A gentle knife is the most deadly. Without complaining or being angry, the other person feels guilty. In this way, sweet words are used instead of blame, which not only comforts one's mind, but also won't make the other party a "sweet burden".

I recommend you to use the "gentle knife" more, because this is a natural advantage of women, and most men eat soft and don't eat hard. I believe you will try again and again.

There is another situation that girls can't accept most.

04

He didn't return my messages, but commented in someone else's circle of friends.

If he is not busy, he is still hot and cold to you, and even chatting with others is more enthusiastic than talking with you, then he probably really doesn't like you that much.

In addition, I often emphasize that you should shift your focus to self-investment and self-improvement.