I failed in the exam twice in a row. What should parents do? The teacher has sent a text message to sign it.

How can we eliminate excessive anxiety and tension in exams?

First, decompress yourself and don't expect too much from your exam results.

Second, you should be fully prepared and have an answer. Only with solid basic skills can we have strong self-confidence and not be nervous during exams.

Three, the use of correct examination methods, we must first easy and then difficult, and gradually adapt.

Fourth, relax and keep a good attitude.

Fifth, don't care about the subjects you have passed, and don't let the scores of the subjects you have passed affect the exams of future subjects.

Relax moderately during the exam, pay attention to nutrition, and don't burn the midnight oil.

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Reward if you do well in the exam, and keep it a secret if you don't.

Statement 1: "I will be very happy if I do well in the exam. I can't wait to tell my mother to show off in front of her and ask her for a reward;" If you don't do well in the exam, don't tell her. Keep it a secret. "

Statement 2: "Some parents expect too much from their children. If they don't do well in the exam, they will be angry and scold us, which will bring us great pressure; " Some parents are educated and know that we have worked hard. Although they don't talk about us, we will feel guilty instead. "

Statement 3: "I think the exam is only a staged test to see if I have mastered what I have learned, but my parents think it is a great thing." If I do well in the exam, I will get a generous reward. If I fail the exam, I will be served with a bamboo pole. I feel so nervous. " We swim in the sea of homework every day, and we are beaten if we fail the exam. It's really bitter! "

Statement 4: "People who are nervous about their studies and always bury themselves in their studies will be confused, thinking about problems is easy to make mistakes, and of course they will not get good grades." If I don't do well in the exam, I'll be miserable. My parents will contact me with various cram schools and say,' Who let you fail in the exam? ! '"

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Is it complaining or helping to analyze?

Attitude 1: You can't succeed if you don't fight!

Peter didn't do well in the last unit exam, and his father beat him up. He also said that if he didn't do well in the final exam, he would be severely beaten, which made Peter nervous before and after the exam. He said that if the papers were handed out and his grades were not good, he would hide them.

Attitude 2: Cancel the reward.

Chenchen's family took incentives for the exam. For example, it is stipulated that 50 yuan will be rewarded with money if she scores 100, and she will be taken to travel if she does well in the final exam. Chen Chen is looking forward to traveling, but she didn't feel very well in the exam. She said gloomily, "Although my mother took the exam once, if she didn't do well in the exam, the reward would be cancelled. This is actually a punishment."

Attitude 3: Complaining and sarcasm.

Ouyang Lieping is smart and lively, and is a piece of reading material. However, I didn't do well in the exam, not because I couldn't, but because I was careless. His parents have been accusing him. Ouyang Lie said: "My parents usually laugh like flowers when they see the high marks on my paper, regardless of my study. If my score is low, it will be cloudy soon. My mother especially likes to dig at me and say,' Do you think you are so stupid? ! As if I wasn't born to her! "

Attitude 4: Analyze make-up lessons.

English is Yue Yue's strong point. I failed the English exam this time. Mother held back her anger and read the paper: the basic questions and composition were not good, and found that many after-school exercises were not done in her usual homework. So, my mother honestly summed up Yue Yue's exam. She first affirmed the subjects she did well in the exam, and then focused on analyzing the English she failed in the exam, analyzing where she was wrong, which knowledge points she didn't master and which were caused by carelessness. I was convinced by what I said.

Experts teach the road

Don't let study become a burden.

Play, easy to play bad consequences.

Examination is only to check the learning effect of students, and it is a means to check and fill the gaps in the process of knowledge learning. I can't bear the expectations of parents for exam results. When parents pay too much attention to their children's grades, it will naturally produce something like "hit!" Excessive behavior of "not fighting weapons"

You know, beating is easy to have bad consequences: in order to avoid being scolded by parents, children have to lie, not to say that there is no exam, that is, the test paper is not issued. In order to convince parents, other lies will be fabricated. This dishonest behavior hinders the formation of children's good moral quality. Some students even steal the scores on the test paper, imitate the parents' signatures, and sneak into the teacher's office to change the answers ... In addition, children are afraid that lies will be found, and they will be punished more severely, and they will be on tenterhooks all day, and their mental health will be affected.

Some parents make a wish for their children before the exam: what to do if they do well in the exam … what to do if they don't do well in the exam. In this way, it has caused certain psychological pressure on children, but it will affect their play.

Examination is not the only measure.

As for the views on scores, experts believe that in the general comprehensive examination, children can get about 85 points, indicating that children fully understand the content of learning. Therefore, parents don't have to worry that their children can't get full marks, nor can they force their children to get 90 points in all subjects. If you force your child "before class 10", it will only increase his mental burden.

Parents must understand that examination is not the only measure to evaluate all the abilities of children, but also their ideological and moral qualities, practical skills, communication skills, organizational skills, and especially their non-intellectual abilities. It cannot be displayed in the inspection results. Moreover, the failure of one or two exams will never affect a person's life. In fact, every student hopes that he can get good grades in the exam, and he will feel uncomfortable after failing it.

The principle of family education is "four more and four less"

The ancients said, "A few dozen are not as good as one prize." The parents of the juvenile class of the University of Science and Technology of China have the knowledge of "four more and four less" in counseling methods: l. More active guidance and less forced intervention; 2. Explain more suggestions and less reprimand and abuse; 3. Encourage more praise and less criticism; 4. More words and deeds, less empty preaching.

Parents should not get angry when their children fail in the exam. They should first excavate and praise their own progress, then point out their own shortcomings, classify the problems and put forward the direction of improvement. Never magnify your child's shortcomings and ignore his progress, which will lead to stage fright in future exams. No matter what your children get in the exam, you must not give up, you must not show disappointment and sadness in front of them, and you must not sarcastically say something that hurts their self-confidence. You know, the children themselves are very sad because they didn't do well in the exam. Once the child's self-confidence is gone, the nature of the problem will change, from a learning problem to a psychological problem, which is more serious than failing the exam, and parents will regret it then. For children who fail the exam, parents should find out their progress in learning, praise their children with these "progress", and sincerely help them build up their self-confidence and let them feel that their parents will always stand with them.