What should you do if you are harassed by friends of the opposite sex? How to deal with being harassed by the opposite sex?

People in today’s society are more impetuous, especially some male friends, who always eat from the bowl and think about what’s in the pot. Even if they have a wife or girlfriend, they still want to flirt with girls. It is precisely because of this that there are so many people who cheat. So what should girls do when faced with harassment from the opposite sex? Let’s take a look below.

1. What to do if you are harassed by the opposite sex

When it comes to sexual harassment, Clinton comes to mind, but if we use some of his previous behaviors to define "sexual harassment", there is nothing to discuss. We can take the sexual harassment behavior identified by Ms. Ling Yun in the 6th issue of "Family Doctor" as a standard. Almost everyone has been sexually harassed. Who has not rubbed shoulders with others in public places, who has not shaken hands with the opposite sex, and who has not heard one or two "dirty jokes"? If this really counts as sexual harassment, you might as well live a sealed life, otherwise as Mr. Lu Xun said, the air you breathe will still have a masculine smell!

Last year, there were about twenty of us hanging out together, and I was the only unmarried woman among them. Maybe everyone felt that my presence required them to maintain a gentle manner at work, so after they found a reason "I am studying medicine", they started telling some "dirty jokes". And I didn't feel humiliated or embarrassed when I listened to their jokes. Because the person telling the story is someone else, not you, so what is there to be angry about? On the contrary, some of the jokes are so funny that I laugh so hard that I have to admire the wisdom of the inventor.

But when it actually happened to me, the situation was different.

One day, we were touring the ancient city of Lijiang, Yunnan. After the tour, we found that it was not the meeting time specified by the tour guide and we were tired, so we ate a snack each at a snack bar at the gate of the city. A bowl of Yunnan jelly, ready for the next stop "food and grass go first". Unexpectedly, the next activity was to eat, and the meal was a buffet that had been ordered. I felt like I couldn't eat at all, but the money had to be included in the travel expenses, which made me very embarrassed. I frowned and said what should I do if I couldn’t eat it. The tour guide was very familiar with us since we were together every day, so he just walked around because he said he couldn't eat. I said it casually, but let me first declare that I didn’t have any idea when I said this. The tour guide put his hands in front of his chest in a funny way and said, "This is where you want to go." I felt very embarrassed at the time and turned around and walked into the restaurant.

Lying on the bed in the hotel, I thought about what the tour guide had just said, and imagined how to respond best to him at that time. Slap him and make him talk nonsense. But is it worth it? Besides, that gentleman is too tall and I can't reach him even if I want to hit him. Crying and fussing? Why was I crying? Although I felt a little uncomfortable at the time, I didn't feel that the other party had any malicious intent and that it was not worthy of a "fight with swords" or a big cry. If you really do that, you will simply not be able to go on the trip for the next few days. It will be awkward for everyone to accompany you. You really think something is wrong. After tossing and turning, I still felt that turning away was the best choice. Maybe the tour guide said that because he was familiar with us and didn't hold back. Maybe he regretted it as soon as he said it? Sure enough, in the subsequent trips, we still got along very friendly and harmoniously. He never made similar jokes to me again, and I never lost the respect he should give me because of the calmness he showed.

Later, I read in the newspaper that a host of Hong Kong Phoenix TV said that today’s sex programs and sexual content appear in the name of medical treatment and health, because the current concept is not acceptable yet. Talking about sex in the name of entertainment. He believes that the entertainment component of sex should be raised higher. In fact, when people laugh when they hear a pornographic joke, the laughter has nothing to do with evil desires or obscenity. I think this is quite reasonable. On the contrary, those who are overly sensitive to the speech and behavior of the opposite sex may be because they often think about sex and think that others are also full of sexual thoughts like them. As soon as others say something, they will immediately Expand the association.

This is my idea, maybe not mainstream. Even though what I say may make some people angry, I always feel like a normal and happy person regardless of what others think.

2. What to do about sexual harassment in the workplace

1. Refuse harassment in a smart way

In the face of some verbal sexual harassment, women must learn to reject it in a clever way , such as adopting an avoidant attitude, or stating that one already has a boyfriend, or using humor to resolve it, the sensible person will restrain himself. When facing some tough bosses, you need to show your inviolability as early as possible, be honest about your principles and attitudes, and never tolerate them.

2. Avoid being alone

Don’t stay alone in the office for too long with members of the opposite sex, especially your boss. Try to choose a place where there are other people. Due to affection, it will be difficult for the other party to do anything. Move your feet. Be cautious about unprovoked invitations to cocktail parties or banquets, and be sure to go home as early as possible and drink as little as possible to prevent others from being emboldened by drinking, and end up making yourself miserable.

3. Collect evidence

For some persistent harassers, it is necessary to actively collect evidence of harassment in private, such as recording their provocative words, etc. On the one hand, you can use this To blackmail the other party and ask the other party to restrain their words and deeds, on the other hand, it will also facilitate legal assistance in the future and protect their own interests as much as possible

4. Seek help

Under normal circumstances, sexual harassment The perpetrators will not have only one goal, but many female colleagues choose to endure humiliation rather than seek help for the sake of their own reputation and career. As the saying goes, there is strength in numbers. After being harassed, it is best to join forces with other harassed colleagues to resist the sexual harasser.

5. Resist the report

This is an unbearable choice when everything else has failed before. It is appropriate to use violent behavior to stop the other party's sexual harassment and use verbal threats. When the other party wants to attack you When the situation is unfavorable, you should shout for help. When the evidence is conclusive, report to the superior department and put pressure on the other party.

For those who are harassed in the workplace, they are often at a disadvantage, such as those who work at the grassroots level, have immature workplace experience, have weak personality traits, etc. The harasser is completely different. They are usually in a dominant position in the workplace. The difference and disparity in status and power often makes most of the harassed people dare not speak out against the harasser. Usually, most of the harassed persons do not respond clearly when they are harassed for the first time due to their personal interests and work interests, and tolerate the other party's intrusive behavior, which gives the harassing party an opportunity to take advantage of it. It is this attitude that sends a signal to the harassing party that he lacks the courage to refuse. Therefore, it further encourages and strengthens the harassing party to commit another violation.