There is no "freshness" between husband and wife, just like "sharing roommates" It's a pity to throw away tasteless food.

Illustration | Still of Korean drama Lonely and Brilliant Ghosts

Some people describe the feelings of middle-aged couples, especially the pure friendship between the opposite sex, because even if there is no cover, it will not interest the other party.

The original intention of marriage is to combine because of love. However, after many years of marriage, how many couples really still have love that moves each other? Very few, I'm afraid.

Huo Siyan plays Li Nan and her husband, Wu Xiaojiang, who are middle-aged couples who don't communicate. It stands to reason that Li Nan is beautiful and has a good figure, but why would Wu Xiaojiang rather chat with the network anchor than touch Li Nan?

To put it bluntly, it is actually because Wu Xiaojiang betrayed love. Besides Li Nan, he has a regular partner, and there is more than one. For most middle-aged men, after years of marriage, even the goddess has become a female nerve, which has no attraction. How can girls outside be energetic?

Managing marriage is a science, and many people don't understand how to keep each other's love fresh and how to make marriage interesting all their lives.

I still remember that Sun Li and her husband Huang Lei had a hot search for the interaction in the variety show Desire of Life, which once became a marriage model advertised by many young people.

When many people agree that love will eventually become family ties, Huang Lei definitely tells you: My wife will not become my family. She is my friend, confidant, lover and lifelong lover.

So how can this relationship last?

In fact, the method is very simple, that is, whenever and wherever, please remember to treat her as a young girl, love her, care for her and be considerate of her. You know, women will become more beautiful and moving after being nourished by love.

A woman who is devastated in her marriage and finally becomes an annoying "yellow-faced woman" is mostly because she has never met someone who really loves you.

People who really love you are unwilling to sleep separately from you, will not refuse to communicate with you, and will not remain silent to you. Men who regard their partners as sharing partners and their homes as family hotels suggest that you either stay away from them or make them interested in you again.

In a movie played by Xu zhēng, he gave many reasons for divorcing his wife: wearing the same clothes at home every day, eating the same posture and eating the same food every week made him feel bored, so even though his wife took good care of the family, he decided to leave.

The love defeated by life is actually "we thought that once we get married, it means that everything is guaranteed, but we didn't know that the marriage life has just begun, and we may go to the point of divorce at any time with a little carelessness."

My friend is 35 years old and has been married for ten years. The child has already gone to primary school. She didn't divorce her husband, but she wasn't intimate. They have been sleeping in separate rooms since the child was born three months ago.

A friend and her husband met on a blind date and got married after talking for almost three months. They got married purely for the sake of marriage, and their emotional foundation is not deep. In addition, after giving birth to the child, the friend's figure is out of shape, and the child cries too much at night. Her husband proposed to sleep separately for the time being, on the grounds that he was not energetic at work during the day.

At that time, they discussed that when the children could walk, they would move back together and then go to kindergarten. Now that my daughter is in primary school, my husband still sleeps in the guest room and refuses to move back.

Before giving birth to a child, my friend was a beautiful girl with a good figure, but after giving birth to a child for a few years, her waist grew a big circle and her skin became dull because she didn't take care of it. I also reminded her to control her diet and pay more attention to her image, but it was ignored every time.

To tell the truth, if I were her husband, I wouldn't be interested in seeing this ugly woman around me.

Sometimes I actually feel sorry for those women who obviously have husbands but are always unloved. It seems that time has changed the so-called love, but on closer examination, it is actually a constant life that defeats our enthusiasm.

To tell the truth, I have just graduated, and I have also experienced a period of sharing life, so I still have a say in sharing this topic.

But the suite we rented has three rooms, in which five men and five women live.

At first, everyone's feelings were good. Usually, they will cook together after work and go for an outing together on weekends, but with the influence of more and more trivial matters, their feelings have changed unconsciously.

The most contradictory thing is how to divide the sanitation work in public areas. Whoever gives more oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea gives less, there are always some people who love to haggle over every ounce and don't let them suffer a little. At this time, it is clear who is good and who is bad.

But at that time, although everyone lived together, they would argue, but fortunately there was no relationship between them. To put it bluntly, if you are uncomfortable, you can move out at any time, and if the housework is unreasonable, you can have a meeting to re-divide the work. There are many solutions.

However, the so-called "shared life" of middle-aged couples is not just like men and women living under the same roof, because there are many times more contradictions among families, children and even the elderly.

Men are fine, but they just need to deal with things at work, while women have to undertake most or even all of the housework besides work. The key is to be hard-working and thankless.

A word from her mother-in-law and a complaint from her husband can only be swallowed up. After all, my husband chose it himself, and this kind of life is his own consent. Unless you decide to change your life, you can only muddle along.

It's really hard to think about it!

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