Du Jiang revealed the truth of marriage: true love is not spoken, but made. Do you agree?

After the variety show "Romantic Travel of Wife" was broadcast, the marriage of Du Jiang and Huo Siyan in star couple was frequently searched in Weibo.

In the program, Du Jiang wrote a romantic letter for Huo Siyan, which is also called a textbook love story.

Later, netizens named Du Jiang "boyfriend is husband", which means that they have always loved each other.

However, it looks perfect and envies other people's sweet marriage. Later, Du Jiang exposed himself, but he felt very guilty.

Why?

It turned out that, in his view, he did too little for Huo Siyan:

"Actually, I'm ashamed. Everyone said that I wrote a very romantic letter, but the direct actions of other husbands also touched me. Wife, I will not only write romantic sentences for you, but also do romantic things for you. "

Although this is only Du Jiang's modesty in front of the camera, it also tells the biggest truth in intimate relationships:

Love a person, not just talk.

The actual action that really pays can witness true love and verify sincerity.

A happy marriage depends not on words, but on actions.

Someone in Zhihu asked, What are the life experiences that the earlier you know, the better?

One answer won more than 50 thousand praises, including one thing:

A man depends on what he does, not what he says. Love a person, she is sick, accompanying her to see a doctor, buying her medicine, or even pouring her a cup of hot water is better than a bunch of verbal greetings. Love is a detail, but also an action.

In marriage, love never depends on words, but on actions.

In the first issue of Battle of Love, a couple fought on the field.

And the reason is because my husband always just talks and does not do it.

His wife has vomited many times, and it's almost eleven o'clock at night when she comes home after working overtime.

As a result, after entering the door, I found shoes and socks left by my husband everywhere on the living room and bedroom floor.

Even the bowls she had eaten were lying in a mess waiting for her to clean up.

Sometimes under his own chanting, the husband either agrees to do it or doesn't act at all;

Or barely get up for work, but with a mobile phone in one hand and a mop that is not even wet with water in the other.

Even when she is not feeling well, her husband still waits for her to do everything.

In such a day, she didn't feel the slightest love, completely lost confidence in marriage, so she had the idea of divorce.

When asked about her husband's advantages, the wife replied:

He sometimes says some flashy "good words".

In this regard, Tu Lei reminded male guests:

Marriage is not based on easy talk, but on long-term behavior and dedication.

It is true that two people live together and occasionally say sweet words to nourish their marriage, but if they just say nice words and never do anything, it will only destroy the marriage.

After all, life is alive, not to say that marriage is run by practical actions, not lip service.

In a beautiful marriage, all the deepest feelings and true love are often hidden in the most ordinary and tiny details and actions.

Whether it is sharing housework, taking care when you are sick, hugging when you are sad, or understanding and helping each other in the process of raising a baby, it is the most frank and firm beauty in marriage.

Cai Kangyong has a saying very well:

"There is an inescapable principle for two people to get along, that is, everything you do for each other moves her and makes her realize that you love her, which will help you get extra points."

Love should be felt with heart and expressed with action.

No amount of illusory sweet words can compare with the sureness brought by words and deeds in the subdivided life of daily necessities.

In marriage, the more actions a man takes, the more love his wife can feel and the greater the possibility of a happy marriage.

People who "do it" directly often have you in their minds.

Venus once said that a passage resounded through the network:

If a man is distressed by your crowded bus and complains that you don't eat on time, he will come home from work in rainy days and tell you to pay attention to safety. If he is sick, he will send a funny message to coax you. Please ignore him!

Then stay with the person who can drive you, accompany you when you are sick, take you to dinner, pick you up after work, and tell you, "Don't be stupid, come home with me."

In the Internet age, the cost of expressing love becomes very low. You don't need to climb mountains or even make a phone call. You just need to move your finger gently on the screen to convey your love and express your thoughts.

It is easier to say love than to do it.

Read such a story:

The girl accidentally cut her finger, and the boy was so nervous that he immediately flew out to buy a band-aid for the girl.

But he was speechless and gestured for a long time, and the waiter didn't understand what he really wanted to buy.

The boy anxiously took out his knife and scratched a hole in his finger without hesitation.

People who really love you may not say a lot of things that love you, but they will do a lot of things that love you.

Because the world of adults has long passed the age of listening to love.

Adult love is no longer a feeling of heartache, no longer a promise, but something that is actually done for each other.

Only the love that is implemented and infiltrated into the life of food, clothing, housing and transportation is the most grounded and reassuring.

I saw a poll in Weibo before and asked: What can boys do to get extra points?

In the answer, compared with the three options of "polite and educated", "gentle and polite" and "refusing ambiguity", the number of people who choose the option of "responding to everything they say" far exceeds others.

The further you go, the more you really find that what makes people feel more secure than "I love you" is that everything responds.

Just like when I said the sky was full of stars, you immediately bought a bunch, I said I wanted to eat hot pot, you immediately went with me, I said I wanted to go to the movies, and you bought tickets without saying anything. ...

Behind the direct "hands-on", it is not flattering, not humble, nor does it mean that the other party is obedient to you, but it shows your attitude and proves your position in his heart.

Because I have you in my heart, I will do many seemingly trivial things for you.

In feelings, what everyone wants is nothing more than a wholehearted attention and concern.

Even the quilt corner in the middle of the night, or the small surprise in the festival, is a kind of mourning that is firmly remembered.

There is a saying: don't look at how ugly the ram barks, but at his ability to cross the river, not at how eloquent a man is in front of you, but at what he has done for you.

We are all ordinary people, and we don't need any big events or affairs to prove a relationship.

In those years when the water was flowing, every little gesture you made inadvertently was enough to interpret a love, witness a heart and see through a person.

As the hot comment in Netease Cloud Music said:

I am a vulgar person, seeing mountains is mountains, seeing the sea is the sea, and seeing flowers is flowers.

Only when I saw you, the sea of clouds began to surge, the river tide began to surge, and the small tentacles of insects scratched the whole world.

You don't need to talk, I and everything in the world will run to you.

A man who is willing to pay for love is worthy of your kindness.

The song "Green" sings: If you love me, say so; if you love me, don't do it. I take sweet words as your love for my body.

In a relationship, it's not terrible to have someone sweet talk with you. The terrible thing is that you mistake all the sugar-coated cannonballs in the text for the appearance of true love, and you have been paying by mistake.

At any time, don't trust the giants who talk big and the dwarfs who act.

Only a man who is willing to pay for you deserves your sincere delivery.

I once saw a user in Weibo, who often baked all kinds of delicious food for her husband while eating.

During the festival, you will also get a beautiful gift for your husband, accompanied by some heartfelt love words.

Under her Weibo message, people often feel envious:

Such a wife is too good; Her husband is so happy.

On one occasion, this user could not help telling his own story.

After reading it, people realized that it was not her husband who should really be envied, but herself.

Her husband doesn't talk much, but he devoted his love to her every bit of daily life:

When two people are in love, her husband will come to see her by train for more than ten hours when she only says "I miss you"; Will put her favorite drink under the cotton-padded coat in winter, cover it and hand it to her to drink; When she is too lazy to wash her face, she will gently remove her makeup with a cotton pad. ......

After getting married, she was worried that her passion would fade and her husband would not care about her so much.

But it turns out that she thinks too much.

Far from decreasing, her husband's love for her is stronger than before.

When she was pregnant, her stomach was too big to bend over. Every night, her husband squats in front of her and washes her feet.

When I have a child and know that I sleep lightly, my husband will take the initiative to sleep near the child, because the child loves to move at night and is afraid of waking her up.

Sometimes children cry in the middle of the night when they are sick, even if their husbands have to go to work the next day, even if they are really sleepy;

But I will still bounce out of bed and hold the child in my arms at the moment when the child cries.

She said: My husband is not good at words, and he doesn't know how to say sweet words, but during the years I married him, I often felt that I really accumulated virtue in my last life.

Think of a Uighur proverb: a good horse depends on his chest, and a man depends on his actions.

Love needs the nourishment of kind words and the irrigation of romantic love words;

But if a person has only words of love for you forever, but has no love trip, then he will look at the flowers in the fog and the moon in the water, which are illusory and unrealistic.

Relationship depends on walking, and true love depends on action.

All the sweet love and happy marriages in this world are valuable only when they are implemented and meaningful only when they are put into action.

Don't give the deepest love and the truest affection to the person who only talks but doesn't do it.

Only a man who is willing to pay for you deserves all your goodness!