Why don’t I send group New Year greetings messages?

It is better to send in bulk than not to send at all.

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At this time of year, my mobile phone always receives New Year greetings messages one after another.

When I received text messages before, I always felt that it felt good to be remembered.

Reply carefully after reading every word.

But in recent years, I have become increasingly indifferent to this.

I will never read it seriously again, I just politely reply with a Happy New Year.

I have asked many people around me, and they have received so many mass-mailed copywriting that they have become numb to it.

Rather than saying New Year greetings, it is actually more like a message bombing.

I tried to trace the source of this change in mentality to the fact that I received several identical New Year greetings text messages in one day.

The rhetoric is gorgeous and full of creativity, but it cannot make people feel a single ripple in their hearts.

It’s not that I disdain New Year greetings, but it’s hard to make people feel blessed by sending out uniform New Year greetings.

Of course, we have to exclude some elders here. They don’t understand WeChat and only know how to forward these blessings to relatives and friends. I will still reply seriously.

But to be honest, more people are soulless forwarding machines.

In my WeChat, I have such a friend, and my conversation with him is quite simple.

Every year during the Chinese New Year, he sends a group message to express his greetings, and I reply to him Happy New Year.

Other than that, there was no inquiring, no quarreling, no interactions, and the chat records looked quite magical.

And he still continues to send messages in groups every year, blessing his friends on the WeChat list as a routine.

In his opinion, it is necessary to send some New Year greetings messages in groups on such an important day to bring blessings to every friend.

But in fact, can it really bring blessings?

In the era of WeChat, copywriting can be easily copied online and can be forwarded to many people with one click. The modern version of borrowing flowers to offer to Buddha is similar, and the same bouquet of flowers is used to offer to multiple Buddhas.

No matter how gorgeous the copywriting is, it cannot carry true emotions.

In the past, people gave New Year greeting messages with sincere and warm blessings and good expectations.

But ever since we decided to send the same New Year greeting messages in groups, the blessings have lost the meaning that people originally gave them.

The so-called blessing has become a piece of nonsense.

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It is undeniable that sending group New Year greetings text messages has become a New Year ritual for some people.

Some people also contact us if they need help in the future.

So every Chinese New Year, they have to send messages in groups regardless of rain or shine.

But what they didn’t expect was that cookie-cutter mass text could easily offend people.

I have a friend who has added a lot of people to WeChat due to work reasons.

During the Chinese New Year, many people who don’t usually communicate with each other or have only a one-time relationship will send New Year greetings messages one after another.

The copywriting is roughly the same, and you can tell at a glance that they are all group messages.

Please reply, there are too many messages to reply to.

If you don’t reply, you will look very rude.

After much deliberation, I replied to all of them. Thank you.

During those few days, his cell phone rang from morning to night, and he could not do anything in peace.

To some extent, these messages became a kind of harassment to him.

Later, he couldn't bear it anymore and turned his phone to silent, which really saved him a lot of worry, but he missed a lot of important news.

I asked many of my close friends around me, and most of them had such troubles.

There was a hot search on Weibo before: "Should I reply to the group blessings?"

Most of the answers below were the same, not to reply.

In the eyes of many people, sending group blessings is too annoying:

To be honest, most of the people who send group New Year messages are people who have not been in contact with each other for hundreds of years, or who have only met once. people.

When blessings are sent suddenly in groups, I can reply to one or two, but there are often many such blessings, and it becomes tiring to reply.

Rather than saying it is a blessing, it is more like a task imposed on oneself in disguise.

Without attentiveness, anyone will feel pressured, and it is understandable that people will be disgusted.

This is also the reason why many people choose not to reply to group New Year messages.

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T H R E E

In fact, what can be seen most in the New Year greeting messages is the attitude towards friends.

Mass sending is really simple. Just copy a copy and easily select hundreds of people to send blessings.

Just sending the same message in bulk also means that there is no difference in treatment, and it is difficult for people to see that they take it seriously.

But friends need to be treated differently.

Different friendships require different levels of attention.

Reminds me of an experience my dad had.

Before, he didn’t know how to use his mobile phone to edit text messages, so every New Year he had to ask me to help him send New Year greetings messages.

This time of year is when I have the biggest headache.

Because he has many friends who want to wish him well, and he doesn’t need to send them to groups with just one click.

Every time, he carefully writes down his blessings with pen and paper. Everyone's blessings are different.

A piece of A4 paper was written densely for him.

And I had to help him edit it for a long time and send it out one by one.

One year I couldn’t stand it anymore, so I forced him to send a group message.

I didn’t expect him to refuse on the spot. I still remember those words:

“Blessings sent in groups are not blessings. Don’t be perfunctory if you don’t want to bless them, and what’s in your heart is different for everyone. , of course I have to send them one by one.”

I didn’t understand before. We are all friends anyway, so just send blessings in groups.

But now I understand that every friendship is different and cannot be treated in the same way.

Everyone is a different individual, and casual group messaging is just a betrayal of friendship.

I have heard a saying, "If you love everyone, it is the same as if you have never loved anyone."

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The same is true in friendship. There is no such thing as fair treatment.

The closer you are to someone, you often have to pay more attention.

If If you equate a friend with whom you have known each other for only two or three days, it is not fair. It can only be said that you do not pay enough attention to the former.

And the latter will also be worried. If he really has a life-long friendship with you, will he treat you the same way?

If things go on like this, there will never be any friends who will be sincere to you.

Favoritism has always been a problem. It’s a derogatory term, but in friendship, favoritism is definitely not.

I hope you treat different friendships with different favoritism

Because this is the best way for you to treat every friend seriously. Evidence.

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F O U R

Every New Year is the best time to sort out your interpersonal relationships

From the New Year messages. You can see who your true friends are.

Most of the people who send the same copy in groups are people who don’t have much contact with each other in the future.

, and there won’t be too many interactions.

Even if you try your best to communicate, you may have little effect in the end.

Instead of doing this, it is better to do it in the new year. Learn to let go.

Free up more energy to deal with life and work.

Those who send you heartfelt New Year messages are often the ones you should take care of. Treat friends.

These messages may not be rich in rhetoric, or they may be just a simple sentence, but it can be seen at a glance that they sincerely want you to be well.

In this regard, you should learn to cherish them and treat them more sincerely in the new year.

Making good friends will last a lifetime.

Why. I don’t want to send group New Year messages?

It’s not because I’m lazy, it’s because I want to focus more on true friends.

Friendships also need to be maintained. >

Send them a New Year greeting message from the bottom of your heart, sending your most sincere blessings

At the same time, you are telling them: "You are important enough in my heart. ”

Of course, I prefer to meet directly instead of sending New Year greetings.

It is much better to meet each other and say Happy New Year personally and chat about each other’s life and work than any blessing.

If you are really busy, remember to send a greeting when you are done.

True friendship requires no words, and everyone understands each other.

Finally, I hope you are here. In the new year, you will be surrounded by sincere friends.

I hope you can cherish these sincere friendships.

Don’t think of them only during the New Year. p>