How to deal with being urged to get married by parents?

When I urge my parents to get married, I always listen to their opinions carefully and then say what I think. First of all, I want to win their consent and think about countermeasures before I go home. Parents know their children best, and children know their parents best. You must know what your parents will do and say to get married. So, before going home for the New Year, think more about how to deal with it and how to persuade your parents to respect your ideas. It would be great if we could fall in love before going home. But if your love keeps the skylight open, then you have to think about it.

Second, keep a calm mind. When you go home to meet your parents, you must keep your mind at peace, because you know they will definitely push for marriage, so just be ready to deal with it at any time. If they don't mention it, don't blame yourself, or you will be trapped. You can't stand mixed doubles with your parents. You should realize that it is normal for parents to urge marriage, and remember to communicate with them with a peaceful mind to alleviate the contradictions caused by urging marriage.

Third, don't stop talking. Well, the second point is that when parents start urging marriage, you can't help talking, so parents will think that you don't fall in love and get married because you don't work hard. You should learn to shut up in order to escape punishment. When parents found that urging marriage didn't work, it came to an end temporarily. At the same time, we should take care of our parents' emotions, say what we should say, and don't talk nonsense about what we shouldn't say, otherwise we will dig a hole for ourselves.

Fourth, no fighting. Remember, you can't quarrel with your parents when they are urging marriage. After all, they mean well and have good intentions. Although they sometimes regard their children's marriage as a task, they are your parents, even if it is a task. When many people think that their marriage is the "task" of their parents, there will be contradictions, and then they will start to get excited and start to swear. It is wrong for you to be angry with your parents. They can quarrel with you, but you can't quarrel with them. You have something to say, and that's what we're going to talk about next.

Fifth, speak freely. Children nowadays are realistic about marriage, but there is nothing wrong with it. It is understandable to choose not to get married for the time being without sufficient economic foundation. However, you must have your own ideas about your marriage. In this way, when your parents urge you to get married, you can explain your thoughts to them, analyze your interests clearly, and let your parents know that you have reasons and plans for not getting married for the time being. Only when you let your parents know that you can dominate themselves will they feel at ease and let go of their marriage slowly.

What about relatives urging marriage?

It is not as important for relatives to urge marriage as for their own biological parents. There are not many relatives who really think about your marriage. Many of them are just relatives, and they feel that it is the obligation of their elders to rush marriage casually. It's very likely that you are disgusted by relatives urging marriage, but you can't show it. Note the following points.

First of all, just listen. Relatives urged marriage. Listen. Don't take it too seriously. If they want to talk, let them talk enough. Anyway, you can't leave their house for a while, let them kill you and let them have fun. They've said all about urging marriage, and there's nothing to say. Just do what you should do, don't take it to heart, otherwise it will become a heart disease.

Second, change the subject. If you really can't stand relatives urging marriage, you can try to change the subject. As long as you don't talk about your marriage, everything else is fine. When they see that you don't find fault with their marriage promotion, they will lose interest in continuing to promote marriage. You can talk about your work, your experience, current affairs news, celebrity gossip. When the topic is thrown out by you, there is nothing to urge marriage.