What if I quarrel with my mother-in-law before marriage?

How to deal with disputes with mother-in-law before marriage?

How to deal with the dispute between husband and mother-in-law before marriage? It is said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good and the family is not harmonious. What if there is a dispute between husband and mother-in-law? Let's follow me to see how to deal with disputes with my mother-in-law before marriage and disputes between my husband and mother-in-law.

How to deal with disputes with my mother-in-law before marriage? 1 Many son-in-law who enter the door will eventually choose to leave. Why? Is this son-in-law not good enough? Not exactly. When a biological son sleeps late during the day, his parents will definitely think, "My son was tired yesterday and needs a rest. We can't disturb him. " The son-in-law who plugs the door backwards sleeps late, and his parents-in-law will definitely say, "My niece is blind to find such a lazy person."

Some people may say, "The married daughter spilled water." When a daughter marries someone else's house, it belongs to someone else's house. Son-in-law and parents-in-law don't live together. Even if there are some contradictions, it is good for the son-in-law not to come to the door. There are many people who have this idea. I can say responsibly that it is easy for a son-in-law with this idea to have conflicts with his wife.

In fact, as a son-in-law, it is easy to win the favor of her parents-in-law. The reason for this is very simple, and parents-in-law who are slightly sensible understand it. When a daughter marries her son-in-law, as a father-in-law, she naturally hopes that the son-in-law will treat her better. As long as she has this idea, her father-in-law will certainly be much gentler to her son-in-law.

As a son-in-law, being kind to your daughter is the first condition. This is the passing line for any father-in-law to treat his son-in-law, which no son-in-law can cross. Under this premise, how to treat parents-in-law.

There is no need for a son-in-law to nag about the family affairs of his parents-in-law. It's easy to involve the son of in-laws, especially property issues. We must avoid it in time. It is clear at a glance who is important, son or son-in-law. Money is an indispensable thing for a family at any time, and this thing can't be touched by any outsiders.

When dealing with neighborhood disputes, the son-in-law does not need to participate directly. Regardless of the ability of the son-in-law, if you are involved in a neighborhood dispute, it is easy for neighbors to think that you are a foreign aid. Because after all, you are relatives, not a complete family, and the other party may find someone, and that will be out of control.

The son-in-law who inserts the door backwards is the most difficult and the easiest to do. First of all, it is important to maintain economic independence, second, to maintain respect and filial piety for in-laws, and finally, to maintain harmony between husband and wife at all times. Please refer to How to Be a Good Daughter-in-law. Yes, that's your role. It is the most basic etiquette to maintain respect for elders at all times. A sensible father-in-law will not deliberately play tricks on his son-in-law, and a sensible son-in-law will not let his father-in-law lose confidence in himself.

In the case of a friend's husband and mother-in-law, one morning my mother always got up early and asked through the door, "Do you want rice or porridge?" My husband was lying in bed, sleepy and angry, shouting, "Stop eating and ask!" " "In the middle, I naturally replied:" There is porridge! "This is a common thing, but it's not that simple in our home!

First of all, my husband is a very charming person. In his view, everything should be done according to what he says, and he should be thought of first. He is a white-eyed mother! Otherwise, you will get more than one bargained for! My mother is a hardworking and kind rural person. Sometimes if she doesn't know how to communicate, she will offend many people invisibly. Sometimes I fall out with my mother! At ordinary times, the contradiction between them is not so deep, but I don't know that my mother came up from the countryside recently, and my husband's temper is also hot. No matter who she talks to, she can smell strong gunpowder!

Usually, he never calls me "mom", but this time he hates not talking to my mother. Whenever he hears my mother talk, he will fly into a rage! Ok, so, when my mother asked him what he was eating, he replied and began to swear: "Don't cook porridge if you can't cook it", "It's terrible", "You gave me the mortgage and I'm moving out" and "Why don't you die" ...

As a person caught in the middle, it is difficult for me to balance the relationship between the two, because these things often conflict with my husband. One advantage is that my husband always talks about my mother behind my back, but the reality is that my mother doesn't have much communication with him at all! At least he didn't quarrel face to face, but he always scolded for hours and couldn't stop. We have a lovely child, and divorce will really hurt the child!

How to deal with disputes with my mother-in-law before marriage? We have a folk saying that the son-in-law is half a child and the mother-in-law looks after him. The more she watched it, the happier she became. So this sentence is aimed at every son-in-law? Of course not, ten fingers are still long! Different people will have different experiences, so will this son-in-law. Some people are liked by their mother-in-law, while others are not so annoying. Let's see what different attitudes the mother-in-law has towards her son-in-law! Why do people often say that the more a mother-in-law looks at her son-in-law, the more she likes it, rather than the more her father-in-law looks at her daughter-in-law? As the saying goes, a mother-in-law takes care of her son-in-law. But my mother is just the opposite.

Mom and dad have been divorced for many years and have been living on their own. Perhaps it is for this reason that her personality has become more and more eccentric and elusive. My dissatisfaction with my husband began a few years ago when I was about to have a baby. Because there was a baby at home, my mother came to my house to take care of me and always got along well. My family is going to be demolished, and my husband and I are going to move to my mother's house to have a baby. The day before moving, my mother went back to her house to tidy up. As a result, because I didn't pay the electricity bill, I was cut off, and everything in the refrigerator stinked and I was extremely angry. My husband removed the water heater at home because he was moving the next day. My mother went crazy when she came back to our house, saying that my husband wouldn't let her take a bath, so she turned off the water heater, and so on. This is the beginning.

My mother and Yue Yue took care of me when I gave birth. She was dissatisfied with my husband at that time. In a word, she thinks he is lazy. My mother is at home, no matter what her husband says. I know my mother thinks he is lazy and lets her husband take the initiative to work, but my mother doesn't need him anyway, and her husband hates it. Afterwards, my husband told me that at that time he would rather work overtime every day than go home. It has been promised that my mother will take care of the children when I go to work after maternity leave, but two weeks before I go to work, my mother suddenly told me that she would not watch it! Ten thousand words are omitted here. Can you imagine my feelings with my husband? I won't elaborate on the things in this period.

My mother frowned every day at that time. I was angry and went back to drink milk. My milk used to be good enough to support three children.

Later, we separated, met once in a while, and the relationship gradually improved. A few years later, my mother asked me to have a second child and vowed to take good care of our children. I thought my mother would get over it, and it wouldn't be like before. Sadly, after giving birth to a second child, the days seem to have returned to a few years ago. At dinner in the evening, my husband and I watched my mother's face droop to the instep, and no one could eat. But when my husband is not at home during the day, my mother, like a normal person, has endless words with Yue Yue. Yue Yue also saw my mother's mistake, and just comforted me and advised me to take it easy. But it's not that easy. I'm really afraid that after a long time, my husband will get tired of going home, and I'll be upset because I'm in a bad mood and have conflicts with my husband ... for example, our boss has to take a vaccination, and my mother has the vaccination book. My husband asked my mother, "Mom, you have a vaccination book. Please help me find it and I'll give the child an injection. " And my mother didn't look back or speak. She found the book and fell on the bed. The husband shook his head and left with the child. I wonder how many times this has happened.

You may think, why don't I communicate with my mother? Communication is useless. Every time I told her that it would hurt me and change my husband, but at first she refused to admit it, and then she gave a bunch of so-called reasons. Every "communication" will quarrel, and she promises me every time. I know, and I will change it. My husband is very tired from working during the day. When he comes home for dinner, my mother asks him to wash the dishes and wants him to look after the children. In short, my mother doesn't want him to be idle for a moment, and she always thinks he is lazy! I asked my husband to sweep the floor at home, but my mother didn't want to. Tell my husband, do you think the house is dirty? Do you think it needs cleaning at home? Do you think it's dirty that I clean the house every day? ! I'm completely devastated! ! In this way, when my second child was less than two months old, the milk volume dropped sharply again! Yue Yue saw me in such pain and talked about my mother. Let's "talk". As I expected, Yue Yue had been gone for less than a month, and my mother was restored to her original state. In order to please my mother, we take her out to play, buy her new clothes, buy imported fruits that she hasn't eaten, etc., but her attitude can last for half a day to a day at most. But no one can please me endlessly! It is not that I hate my own mother. Her ideas are completely different from others. She always said, how good other people's husbands are, how much money others can earn, everything is fine. Moreover, she thinks her husband is lazy, but she is very strange. After washing feet, the washbasin can be placed in the bedroom for one night, and the child's small toilet can always be placed next to the heater to evaporate ... In fact, her husband has always been very kind to me. Some parents will say, why not let in-laws help? I can only say that my husband is a dutiful son recognized by the unit and their extended family, but he is so filial, and he also feels that it is really bad for me compared with what I did to my in-laws. I don't want to say anything superfluous. I can only accept my fate. I can't quit. Once you quit your job and raise two children, the economic pressure will be too great. My own mother did it again. I can't ask my own father, an old man, to look after my children. Every day, watching Bauer drink shriveled breasts, I feel annoyed with myself. But comfort is useless. Anyone who faces such a mother every day is in a bad mood.

To tell the truth, I am very angry with her and feel sorry for her. I didn't know until I grew up that it was because she didn't like anyone and didn't understand other people's faults that she often provoked my father to fight with her, which led to divorce. But I can't stand this!

The above is a short story about a mother-in-law meeting her son-in-law, which is as contradictory as a mother-in-law meeting her daughter-in-law. In fact, both men and women have their own inner thoughts and some small desires. This son-in-law is like her daughter-in-law, and her mother-in-law is like her mother-in-law. When two people get along for a long time, there will be contradictions. Especially the mother-in-law will feel very overbearing, making it difficult for the son-in-law to be an A.