Construct a marriage myth that supports each other

Lu Yi Bao Lei: Two people who "love each other" jointly construct a marriage myth.

The Wife's Romantic Journey has been filmed in the sixth season, which welcomes Lu Yi and Bao Lei. In this era of flash marriage, infidelity and breakup, the life of Lu Yi and Bao Lei from campus love to 26 years of marriage seems to be a love myth.

And how is this myth constructed? The word "mutual support".

In the program, Lu Yi and Bao Lei made Russian dolls together, and first drew each other's portraits on the dolls. Lu Yi's painting of Bao Lei is not only ugly, but also a little scary, but Bao Lei praised Lu Yi attentively.

"I think you draw very well." After hearing this, Lu Yi immediately revealed an incredible expression.

In order to convince Lu Yi of his words, Bao Lei also pointed out the good places of this country in detail. "This necklace pendant is very similar, and it is three-dimensional in light."

Hearing Bao Lei's sincere praise, Lu Yi showed a happy smile.

But are Lu Yi's paintings really so brilliant?

Bao Lei talked about Lu Yi's "painting" in a private interview: "I am the devil in his heart, and that white eye is almost gone."

Visible, Bao Lei's praise in front of is not what beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but to make Lu Yi happy.

Many people in this program are too emotional, too positive, too emotional and too talkative about Bao Lei.

But in fact, Bao Lei is not alone. Lu Yi's attitude towards Bao Lei is also a "holding" attitude. When talking about her first impression of Lu Yi, Bao Lei said, "I feel that most of the time you are accommodating me, that is, what I do is very ordinary. You always praise me and always make me feel that I am doing well. "

Perhaps it is because Lu Yi always gives Bao Lei generous affirmation, which makes Bao Lei, who is good at discovering others' bright spots, want to repay Lu Yi with the same gentleness.

The so-called husband and wife are actually like a mirror of each other. The process of getting along with husband and wife is also a process of learning from each other, but some couples learn to talk back, while others learn to appreciate each other.

After revisiting ipartment for countless times, I have consciously noticed that the relationship between Youyou and Guangu is also such mutual support.

Guangu quilt Joe tricked him into scalding instant noodles. When he returned to the apartment, everyone was laughing at his hairstyle. Guangu himself couldn't wait to find a hole to get into, even more afraid of humiliating him after seeing it leisurely. But he was shocked when Youyou came in, just saying, "I feel a little thunder, but I have to say it's quite sexy."

Then he went over and touched Guan Gu's hair. "Really, it feels super good. Guan Guan, let's go to your room and let me study how they stand up, ok? " Just like a child who has just been laughed at and humiliated, Guangu is relieved to hear Yo say so, and obediently nods and says yes.

"Because I am your girlfriend, no matter what you do and what you become, I should be the one who supports you, instead of making fun of you and embarrassing you like others." This is love. There are many similar examples.

If ipartment is the most worrying couple, it must be Youyou and Guangu.

But perhaps in this era when everyone is pursuing excitement, we will feel that their emotional drama of mutual support and mutual support is not very interesting. Hu Yifei and Ceng Xiaoxian kept pulling until the fourth season when they started flirting with each other. Meijia and Zi Qiao quarreled, but they stubbornly refused to admit that they had feelings. Finally, they got married. Compared with their emotional drama, Guan Gu and You You seem to be too smooth and less dramatic. But in reality, this is a good feeling and does not need any test from reality. Then,

You don't have to go through separation, loss, regret, and then suddenly realize that the best is always around.

You don't need a third person to join, provoke or assist you to see your heart gradually, but you are firm enough from the beginning to ensure that the other person is the best and favorite.

This is an era when everyone is talking about emotional value, and everyone lacks emotional value, but in fact, emotional value has always been the core element in love. Emotional value is the derivative of love.

In the person who loves you, in the face of the person you love, we just can't help but want to give our love to Ta, to provide emotional value for Ta, and to see Ta happy.

No matter what Ta looks like in others' eyes, "Ta is the best" in your heart.

If we want to say what is the best appearance of marriage, I think it is the feeling that "in my eyes, you are the best", not because of the erosion of daily necessities, not because of the passage of time, not because of the fading of passion, but because it has always been there.

But this is actually a very difficult thing.

Most lovers will only feel good about each other during the period of love, or at the beginning of marriage, and they can't pick out shortcomings. Even if they can pick them out, they still love. This is a psychological "halo effect".

Most lovers just feel that the other person is good when they are in love, or at the early stage of marriage, and they can't pick out the shortcomings, but they still love even if they have it. This is a psychological "halo effect".

A feeling of being dominated by hormones. After this period, most people began to criticize each other and quarrel with each other, because after the halo effect, we began to wake up, began to see each other's shortcomings, and began to think about our own interests. Love is like suddenly pulling away from each other's relationship.

In love, I think everything is fine with you. I love you, and I am willing to ignore your shortcomings and tolerate your shortcomings. But now I care more about my feelings, so I can't turn a blind eye to your shortcomings, nor can I skip my feelings to provide you with emotional value. I'm not saying it's wrong. On the contrary, it is normal and human nature is selfish.

So emotional value is so scarce, so love has become a luxury.