Don't send messages to people you like too often.

One of the reasons why I don't often send messages to people I like: crazy love without distance will push each other away sooner or later. Frequent contact can certainly express love, but if everything goes too far, it will be counterproductive. In Ode to Joy, Xiao Qukun is called Qu Yao. She is free and easy, and never seems to be a person who suffers from love, but the appearance of Dr. Zhao has turned her into a little woman who is crazy about love from beginning to end. She wants to keep pestering Dr. Zhao. Dr. Zhao is busy with the operation. She has been waiting outside the operating room. Even after waiting for hours, she didn't complain. Dr. Zhao is too busy to date her, so she stands beside the hospital every night and volunteers to be his full-time driver every day. A phone call and a message, Dr. Zhao Can made her refuse all the invitations and rush to his arms happily ... But she paid too much, and Dr. Zhao soon got tired of her, because in her close relationship, Dr. Zhao noticed Qu Xiaoyu's ignorance, and she was not the same frequency person as him at all. Coupled with the different classes, Dr. Zhao soon saw that Qu Xiaoyu was not his good match. After seeing the truth, he broke up without hesitation. Their process from love to non-love also gives us a hint of love: if love has no distance, sooner or later it will be scary because of love, and there will be barriers because of love. Once love was true, and then no love was true. This is the inevitable development process of feelings. If it is not changed early, the result of separation is almost inevitable. Two: Pay enough and get along with the mean. A famous person once said: fanatical love won't last long, and I deeply agree with you. From the woman's point of view, crazy investment needs to give this relationship a lot of energy, including time cost, money cost and emotional tendency. All these efforts can never be the Buddha's unrequited love. Her dedication has a purpose, the purpose is that the other party should love her so enthusiastically. The difference between people is the different ways of doing things, and there will always be all kinds of sad deviations between what they pay and what they get. Most men's emotional efforts fall far short of women's requirements. This will lead to a problem. Women think it is not worth paying too much, but men regard women's pay as indigestible food, which will only increase the physical and psychological burden. Excuse me, how likely is it that such a passionate love and a plain love will grow old together? Enough is a love motto worth pondering. The best love should be two-way love. Don't be too excited or too sad about love. Both men and women can calmly treat the changes of feelings. When you love, you are equally enthusiastic. If you don't love, you will calm down. This impartial and proper way of getting along is the golden mean of love that deserves our admiration. Don't send messages to people you like too often. 2 0 1: Let yourself stand higher. There is a saying: "People want to maintain a long-term comfortable relationship by commonality and attraction." This sentence applies to all kinds of relationships as well as men and women. When you like someone, if you are not sure what kind of person the other person likes and can't find the goal and direction of your own efforts, the most important thing is to "stand higher." The person you like may like to be thin and beautiful, or have good economic conditions, be virtuous and so on. But no matter what kind of girl he likes, he is bound to be attracted by excellent women. When you stand high enough, it will be more obvious and dazzling at the same time. When you stand high enough, you will naturally attract the attention of others, including him you like. The heroine, Num, is a typical example in the movie The Little Things of First Love. She is just the most common little girl among many junior high school students. She is not beautiful, not dazzling, even black and ugly. But she fell in love with Liang, the best, kind and handsome senior in the school. In the long process of liking seniors, she has made many changes. She took off her heavy glasses and learned to make up. She was not afraid of losing face and joined the dance club. Without hesitation, she joined a drama club that no one watched and practiced conducting military music. Although the process from "ugly duckling" to "white swan" is tortuous, she has become dazzling bit by bit with her own efforts. She stood at the highest place where she could stand, and became one of the school flowers that are gentle and lovely and worthy of boys' pursuit. Although at school, two people missed it. There is no denying that she has attracted Liang's attention. Finally, nine years later, she became an excellent designer and met A Liang, who has become a photographer. When she asked A Liang if she was married, A Liang replied, "I've been waiting for that man to come back from the United States." Maybe when you try to stand at the highest point, the person you like still doesn't like you, but if you don't try to stand at the highest point to attract the attention of the other person, there is not even a chance of one in ten thousand. To say the least, even if your efforts can't bring you the desired ending, your Excellence will eventually benefit you a lot. Therefore, when you like a person and want to attract his attention, it is the most ineffective and disgusting way to send him WeChat like an alarm clock every day. It is your direction and goal to stand higher and better. 02: Don't let yourself be too humble, learn to "meet just right". Zhang Ailing said, "If you like someone, you will humble yourself to the dust and then blossom.". Indeed, once a woman likes someone, her IQ will easily drop. This love is still in the stage of "unrequited love", which often makes people feel humble. I will think about whether I deserve him or not, and I will be anxious whether the other party will like someone like myself. Even Zhang Ailing is no exception. She tried to love Hu Lancheng, but in the end Hu Lancheng's love was as gorgeous as fireworks, but it was too short. When you like someone, you must remember not to make yourself too humble. It's useless for love. Being too humble makes the other side have no desire to conquer. For example, if you like him, you have been captured by him. If you are humble again and completely become his bag, how can you interest him? Women should be cunning at this time. Psychologists believe that when people repeat the same thing many times, it is easy to arouse our deep disgust. That is to say, when you frequently show kindness to each other and show the humility of love, the other party will resent this love and even think it is a burden. In view of this phenomenon, women should not only make themselves less humble, but also learn to be "properly satisfied", and just being properly satisfied is like a "blank effect". As an old saying goes, the "blank effect" is "silence is more convincing than sound" Many times, language is very pale and powerless. When we need to express a certain will, language can no longer meet the emotional needs. At this time, you need to leave some blanks for others to naturally associate. This is very suitable for people's "unrequited love" In other words, when you like someone and let the other person feel it, you should be smart, stop looking so humble and indispensable, and need to stop. When he has feelings for you, he will naturally think of your existence, the way you treat him well, and your love for him. At this time, they will be tempted and take the initiative to find you. Your love is equivalent to half the battle. Of course, if he remains silent after you leave a blank, it means that there is no fate between you. Even if you are excellent and become excellent, he will probably not be attracted to you. This is similar to what people often say, "playing hard to get" and "merging hot and cold". Love is a very complicated and elusive thing. No matter how perfect you like someone, you may not get their attention. On the contrary, even if a person is ordinary and unremarkable, he will go in two directions in his feelings. She likes him, and he likes her possibilities. This is also an elusive love. Therefore, when you like someone, you don't have to be so anxious, and you don't have to send messages to each other frequently all day to express your love. Start from yourself and try to make yourself better and glow. Meanwhile, don't let your love be too humble. Reading at ten o'clock says that the investment with the highest rate of return in the world is investing in yourself. Therefore, when you like someone, regardless of the outcome, it is most important to invest in yourself first. Don't send messages to people you like too often. Girl, don't always send WeChat to the person you love. Facing a person who ignores your WeChat love seems to be a phonograph for self-entertainment. Xuan talked about her feelings when chatting with her boyfriend on WeChat, and she laughed at herself. But how many girls, like her, vowed never to talk to each other again, but took the initiative every time; While hating yourself for being too worthless, I look forward to hearing from each other. According to my observation, every time Xuan sends her boyfriend a WeChat, she starts to feel uneasy. I check my mobile phone every few minutes, but the other party doesn't reply. Sometimes my mobile phone rings suddenly, and she immediately picks it up, but when I watch the smile on her face fade away, I know it must not be her boyfriend's WeChat. Can't wait for the other party's news, like a lost soul, the whole person is listless. She also hates being so humble, but she just can't control her heart. Sometimes, she clearly knows that the other party didn't see it, but when she saw it, she was too lazy to return, or she was busy with business and didn't want to return. I also talked to my boyfriend several times, but the other party hasn't changed at all. It's not that girls can't take the initiative in love, but if the initiative is always you, then the ending will definitely disappoint you. Because people who love you won't let you wait, and they won't let you wait. So, stop making excuses for each other. What is the man who really loves you like? Even if he goes to the toilet or is taking a shower, he will bring his mobile phone, and no matter what he is doing, he can call you a second time. This is the man who loves you. Some men ignore you by sending WeChat, but you see him sending friends and even commenting on others. How could he not have seen your news, so don't lie to yourself. When I like someone, I feel that he is full of light and has no shortcomings. In fact, it is not how good he is, but the light in your eyes when you look at him. Wait until one day, when you have no feelings for him, you will find that he is just a dust in the universe. You try to remember that he is all-light, but you can't remember. Women, don't always send WeChat to people you like, let alone to people who ignore you. In love, women who do this are the cheapest. Emotion is the process of interaction between you and me. You can't attract the attention of the other person just by sticking your face on the cold ass, which will only make him look down on you more and more. Don't wait to accumulate enough disappointments and get bruised all over before leaving. Love yourself, you deserve to be treated gently by better people.