What did the breakdown of marriage between Wang Leehom and Li Lianglei bring to female friends?

To tell the truth, during this year, I was numb by all kinds of news in the entertainment circle. Wang Leehom incident, has completely lost the surprise, even don't want to pay attention to. But when it comes to the thinking caused by this incident and the inspiration for female friends, I have something to say.

In fact, there are many marriages like this, whether in the entertainment circle or in life. Women are always hurt after making a lot of sacrifices for their families and men, and because of the so-called family integrity, or the pressure of traditional ideas and public opinion, they choose to bear the burden of humiliation, and finally they either break out and lose everything, or endure it and be unhappy all their lives.

I have never read Li Lianglei's post before. I wanted to accuse myself of being difficult and the other person's bad behavior. Li Lianglei, who graduated from Columbia University, complained that her articles were clear and polite. She seemed to be a woman with high academic qualifications and high IQ, and she was defeated in real marriage. I agree with her efforts and responsibilities as a mother of three children, but I also think that the results she got today need to be reflected.

First, love. It is said that during their love with Wang, they found out that the other party had bad behavior, so they entered the marriage? Do you think you can change and save her angel, or are you interested in the status, wealth and reputation of the king? If it is love, what is it? This morning, I saw Wang's father break the news that he was married and had a son. Do you think Wang has been wrapped up, or that this marriage may be wishful thinking? Artists have their own unruly personality, and Wang Leehom grew up abroad, so his view of marriage and love is definitely more open. Should these be used as standards to measure emotions? And Li Lianglei knew Wang Leehom's unbearable behavior when he was not in love, so why did he approach? If someone asks you out in the middle of the night, you go. Don't people have their own boundaries? So after falling in love, I still cheat, cheat, and still get married. There is nothing wrong with my brain.

Second, get married. To marry a person in an entertainment circle is to be tested by various factors at any time and place, to have a strong inner heart, business wisdom, independent consciousness and the ability to resist public opinion, and to withstand loneliness and loneliness. It seems that Columbia University's education has not played any role. Don't get married in a hurry without a clear head. More sadly, if the eight-year marriage is really as bad as Li complained, why not stop it in time? In Li's post, he said that after so many years of marriage, he has been suspected, humiliated, and subjected to cold violence, and then he has been giving birth here. Is this punishing his family for having children? I don't understand. Li also said that if you don't earn money, you can't talk about money, saying that you will be regarded as a gold digger. Earlier, you said that a stay-at-home wife is the distribution of social roles. Since this is distribution, why can't we talk about money? A stable life just needs financial support, and it is understandable that men are outside the home and women are inside. So since it is to support the normal expenses of the family, why are you afraid that others will say that they worship money? Since we know that economic decisions are unequal, even if we can't divorce for our children, we can find ways to make ourselves financially independent and do something with the resources around us. Economic independence means saving more than half our lives.

Third, expectations. Many of our female friends are unhappy in marriage because they really expect too much from each other. When they enter marriage, they always hope that the other half can become what they expect. In fact, whether you can have the marriage you expect depends not only on your wishes and fantasies. You should have a rational prediction before marriage. Li Fawen said that it should be true that Wang likes to have more children, but Li didn't see that Wang didn't like to tie his marriage, so Li thought that Wang also liked his family to accompany him to his later years, but Wang didn't. As mentioned earlier, Wang, who lives, grows up and studies in the United States, doesn't have what she wants, so Li's expectations are disappointed, and naturally she feels unfair. In fact, after eight years of bad marriage, I chose to go every step. The happiness you want, you'd better hope on yourself, not anyone.

Marriage is not the only way to get happiness, and marriage is not the "only" in life. If you are wrong, stop the loss in time, don't look back, and don't expose the scar. Meaningless. Settle yourself and start all over again. It's really wonderful in live high!

For Li Lianglei, it's not that the marriage broke down, but that she should never have entered this bad marriage. The reason why she entered this marriage:

First of all, it stems from an underage girl's infatuation with a seemingly high-quality idol. In girlhood, the three views have not yet been formed, and the main invitation of a high-quality idol, whether it is a girl's vanity or something else, is easy to fall into. Fans have a natural aura and filter for Aidou. They think he is very good, and he likes himself very much, so he is easy to sink.

Secondly, to some extent, she feels that she is the most special one. As long as a man can create this illusion, after all, every woman is really different. It is not easy to expose vulnerability and talk properly, so the girl was immediately kidnapped by emotion and felt that only she could save each other and help each other. This kind of contract is unilaterally considered by the girl, but she is often dead set. So she clearly knew that Wang was not the only girlfriend, and the two sides lasted for many years.

Third, children's marriage and pregnancy often put women in a passive position. Both abortion and single parents have to bear great psychological and social pressure, even physical wear and tear, so marriage is often the best choice. However, public opinion is also unfriendly, such as forcing the palace by the stomach, for example, feeling that the woman does not love herself and so on. There will still be some prejudice and influence, which will become a handle to hit you at a critical moment.

The problem after marriage is actually the further fermentation of the problem before marriage:

First, always have illusions about men, so as to step back. I changed my husband's surname and gave birth to three children in five years. Even after the divorce, I kept my mouth shut and refused to speak ill of each other. If my fantasy is not finally broken, I may really be a quiet wife and continue to be widowed.

Second, everything starts with my husband. If he likes children, he will try to give birth to them. If he needs someone to defend his own interests, he will stand up and take the lead. He needs to entertain his friends and try to hold a big party two months after giving birth. You regard the other person as the most important person, and the other person treats you as nobody. The prenuptial agreement is understandable, but there is no money in the property after marriage.

In this marriage, Li Lianglei is always full of illusions and expectations for the other party, which may come from the sinking cost and the aura of the other party's high-quality idol; The second is to unconditionally sacrifice and contribute to each other, and then be kicked to the ground. Therefore, loving yourself at any time is the premise of loving others. If you don't take yourself seriously, others won't take you seriously.

Under normal circumstances, Wang Leehom is suitable for being single, and everyone who marries him does so!

Never lose yourself.

Whether you love it or not, try not to reveal your privacy, which will also make you lose face and become the talk of others. But for a star, Rainbow Leehom, there should be more supervision and investigation on his wife's allegations, hoping to reveal the truth.

Women should be independent, don't rely on anyone, and only when they are independent will they be independent. If they really can't pass, they should live well, worry less and think more about their children.

Their marriage can be taken as a warning by many girls, and they can't be puppets and be pushed around. Let alone become a reproductive tool and lose the dignity and rights of being a human being. Being single is better than living like that. Advise those naive girls that not all artists are worth pursuing and worshipping.

As a third party, women are the most destructive to marriage.