Determine if a man is cheating

There are three situations when a man cheats: the first is mental cheating, the second is physical cheating, and the last is double cheating both mentally and physically.

There are three situations when a man cheats.

The first is mental infidelity.

The second type is physical infidelity.

The last one is double derailment, both mental and physical.

If it is the first and second situation, it can be forgiven. This man is also within the scope of saving. After a cold war, the marriage will return to its original love.

The last one is no longer cheating, but a complete betrayal. Once a man's cheating reaches the last level, it is estimated that even 10 cows will not be able to bring him back. Sooner or later, this family will be disbanded.

A man's cheating is the same as "three feet of ice does not freeze in a day".

Men and women who are deeply in love cannot pretend to be others. Only when marriage makes a man feel dull and tired, will his heart be "ready to move."

If you are a smart woman, you can nip your husband's "ready to make a move" in the bud. But the problem is that many women have never realized that their husband's cheating has anything to do with them. They only recognize one reason - men are not good at all and they want pizza after having cake.

Cheating has become the number one killer of marriage breakdown today. The reason why the movie "Mobile Phone" has attracted many Chinese people to watch is because the story told in the movie is as real as if it happened to them. However, everyone knows it tacitly, and it has become a well-known secret. And "Mobile Phone" exposed this beautiful lie and made it public.

The most uproar is first of all women.

She is afraid that her man will cheat on her behind her back. She does not want her man to cheat on her, and everyone on earth will know about it, and only she will remain in the dark. Nowadays, the ancient method of tracking is no longer needed to determine whether a man is cheating. Mobile phone call records, text messages, and MSN chat records can be clearly retrieved by calling up the records. Of course, once a man discovers this, it will put a layer of frost on the already fragile relationship between the two of them. If you don't do it right, you will drive the man's already hesitant heart into the arms of his lover, and you will lose more than you gain at the expense of the man.

In fact, this is not necessary at all. If you are a smart wife, there is no need to keep an eye on her and act like a wolf is coming all day long. Pay attention to the details of life and every interaction, and you will be able to detect the slightest hint of trouble on his part.

After all, if a man is disconnected from another woman while he is in a love or marriage relationship with you, he cannot do it openly. Either he does it secretly or he lies constantly to cover up the illusion that he is still a good man that you don't love.

Suppose the man you love is having a passionate affair with another girl behind your back and has not proposed to break up with you, then he can only try his best to cover up, cover up again, lie, lie again. But no matter how flawlessly he does it, there will always be clues. There is no need to keep an eye on him, just use a little wisdom to figure out whether he is really cheating on you.

Cheating phenomenon 1: sudden increase in expenses

After cheating, in order to please the lover, it is necessary to have a candlelight dinner, send roses, and drink coffee. This can reflect a man's gentlemanness. Grace and romance. What is romance? It means slowly wasting the number on your credit card with a girl, letting it go from high to low. This is a compulsory course for men in the field of love. It’s just a joke. This little expense can’t afford it. How can any girl be willing to be romantic with you? Why should someone play with you, a married man, without ending? What about a love game where there is no status? When you meet a girl who has high material requirements, a house or a sports car are indispensable.

In order to keep this romantic relationship, the man had no choice but to save money for his private life. Even though he would still give the money he generously gave to his wife in full in the past, how much reluctance is there in his heart? Only he himself knows.

If a man does not have extra income, he will usually use various excuses not to give the full amount of his salary to his wife; if he has extra income, the man will not be as stupid as before - leaving nothing but all to his wife. Some men even hesitate to quit smoking and drinking.

Le Mei’s husband is a department manager of a company and earns a lot of money. However, no matter how much he earns or how much non-operating income he has, he will give it to Le Mei. In the sixth year after marriage, her husband suddenly took back Lemei's power and only gave her a salary. There is no mention of bonuses and additional income. At home, her husband is still affectionate with her. Le Mei has never doubted her husband because she absolutely believes in her husband's character. In so many years, he has never had a quarrel with her and treats her parents like her biological parents. Once, Le Mei actually asked her husband why he suddenly stopped paying bonuses. My husband said lightly: "The company's performance is not very good. Our senior management voluntarily gave up bonuses. Besides, my salary is quite good. If you don't want to take it, don't take it. I will set an example for everyone."

Le Mei She believed her husband's words deeply and praised him for doing the right thing.

One day two years later, while her husband was taking a shower, the cell phone in the bedroom rang. Le Mei picked up the cell phone. She had no conscience. She really didn’t mean to peek at her husband’s cell phone, nor did she suspect that he had anything. "Shameful things", she was just afraid of delaying important things. Since her husband became a manager, it was common for him to be called away from home by a phone call or a text message. She opened the text message, and she was stunned: Ming, where are you? We haven't seen each other for a week. I really, really miss you, your kindness, your smile, and you. The smell of your body.

Le Mei was stunned.

Cheating phenomenon 2: often working overtime

A man who has an affair must take time out of work to be with his lover and appreciate the ecstasy and beauty of warm and fragrant soft jade. Naturally, he cannot be on time. Go home and be with your wife. Of course the wife will call and send text messages to ask why the man is not home so late and who he is with.

Men usually answer in a brazen tone: Work overtime.

At first, my wife told me distressedly: Remember to have dinner at night while working. However, as the number of overtime work increases, my wife will become suspicious. The man will immediately look aggrieved: Why am I working so hard and working overtime so that you and your children can live a better life? Otherwise, I will be at home with you every day, and you will earn money to support me!

When most wives hear a man’s words, they will feel guilty, thinking that they have misunderstood their husbands.

When the man saw that his wife had given up the idea of ??doubting him, he went home to accompany her several times, making her happy, and then continued to "work overtime" outside.

Chunxiang’s husband is an ordinary worker in the factory, and he is having a heated relationship with a foreign girl in the workshop. In order not to make his wife suspicious, he only gives himself "overtime" time once a week, and the overtime time is not fixed each time. Every time he prepares to work overtime, he will prepare the phone number that his wife may call a friend in advance, and unify the friend's call, so that his wife will definitely believe that he is working overtime and risking his life to create happiness for her and their children. Chunxiang really thought her husband was working overtime and never doubted him. It wasn't until one day when the migrant girl was pregnant with her husband's child that she called home. She didn't know that her husband was with another woman every time he worked overtime.

Cheating phenomenon 3: socializing too much

These days, men with a little ability like to socialize outside. For men, socializing is decent and prestigious. It seems that not having social entertainment is not enough to prove a man's ability and his successful career.

Women also mostly like men who have the ability to entertain themselves.

Such a man can probably make money and bring enough material guarantees for her and her children's lives.

As a result, smart men will wear the cloak of socializing and openly develop extramarital affairs outside.

When his wife began to resent his constant socializing outside every night, the man had a better excuse than anyone else: Do you think I want this? Then he used his uncle, his wife’s brother, as an example to illustrate that every day after work, He went home and had less than 1,000 yuan a month. He always looked for street stalls to buy daily necessities. He scrimped on food and clothing, but he still couldn't save enough for his children to go to college. His wife called him a loser every day. Do you want me to be that kind of man? If you do, I will stay at home after get off work from tomorrow, cooking for you, washing dishes, and doing laundry.

When the wife heard this, she immediately ran out of battery. Before hanging up the phone, she had to gently remind the man: Eat more vegetables and drink less alcohol.

The man has withdrawn the thread, and he is so happy that he has solved his wife's heart with a little wisdom.

Fang Caocao’s husband, Zhao Yu, is a lawyer. Fang Caocao has been laid off for three years and works as a full-time housewife at home. In Fang Caocao's words, her husband rarely returns home before 11 pm. Sometimes, he comes home early in the morning, and Fang Caocao is already used to it. He never asked when he would come back, where he was going, or what he was doing. One time when friends were together, they talked about how to make sure that their husband did not go out to play with women. Fang Caocao said that it was not that I believed in him wholeheartedly, but that whenever I called him on my cell phone outside at night, he would quarrel with me and complain about me. I have nothing to do, I have enough to eat, I eat and drink with him and he still doubts him! In fact, I have known for a long time that he is "not clean" outside, but what can I do? I have no job and no security in life. If I follow him Noisy, only divorce. Therefore, I would rather believe that he is socializing for his career than making blind guesses.

Cheating Phenomenon 4: Absent-mindedness

When he returns home, he is restless no matter what he does. He is especially sensitive to the ringing of the phone and refuses to answer the phone in front of his wife. If his wife asks him if he has What is the matter? He will deny it with a arrogant attitude - what can happen to me? Are you doubting me? When this happens, I can tell you with certainty that he has a "situation" outside.

As the old saying goes, a selfless heart is boundless. A man who has no secrets outside will face all calls calmly at home, and will not be absent-minded, let alone be arrogant to his wife's inquiries.

Jianan’s husband is a technician in a real estate company. He usually lives on the construction site and returns home once a week. In the past, every time his husband and Jianan came home, they would feel as if they were seeing each other again, as if they were newlyweds. Later, the company got a shuttle bus, so they no longer had to live at the construction site every day. Jianan was so happy. In this way, the two of them didn't have to look forward to the stars and the moon for the weekend. However, when my husband returned home, he seemed like a different person. He was always absent-minded. When his cell phone rang, he would either go to the balcony to pick it up or just say a few words and then hang up.

Jia Nan secretly observed her husband, and she was sensitive and soon discovered the clues that her husband was outside. Her husband did not deny it and told her that the girl was a client of their company. They had been living together for half a year and she was pregnant, so he did not want to hurt her.

Jianan was completely stunned and shouted hysterically: "Then you have the heart to hurt me?"

Cheating phenomenon 5: being lazy about sex

Men also have a physiological refractory period, which is normal, but it only lasts a few days. Excluding the past few days, if he is a physiologically normal man, if he is always absent-minded in bed and indifferent to all your hints, for example, in the past, you had "foreplay" before sex, but suddenly canceled it , he had no reaction at all to your charming body language and affectionate and charming eyes. Even making love is a routine matter, done in a hurry, just coping, without any passion at all. At this time, you should be more vigilant. A man's cheating often starts from being tired of his wife's body.

The seven-year itch in marriage is mostly the sexual itch. When sex becomes exhausted, it is also the beginning of marital exhaustion. At this time, men will deliberately or not deliberately look for women who can bring their passion to the outside.

Yu Bobo and her husband have been married for 10 years. During these 10 years, they can be regarded as a loving couple. In the past, they had sex regularly, two or three times a week. Nothing has ever changed.

However, one day 10 years later, Yu Bobo discovered that her husband was becoming less and less willing to be with her. At first, she thought it was her husband's refractory period, and she even gave him food supplements. In middle age, kidney failure is also common. Something. However, this phenomenon continued for a year, and finally developed to not happening once a month.

A friend advised Bobo to keep an eye on her husband. But in the 10 years of marriage, her husband has never done anything sorry to her. She has always believed that her husband is the good man who loves her the most in the world. Encouraged by her friends, Yu Bobo was dubious and cautious. Once, she secretly checked his briefcase and found "Durex" inside! He never used condoms when he was with her, so , this condom is obviously prepared for that woman.

Cheating phenomenon 6: Friends come forward to prove his innocence

When a man comes home late or often stays late and is suspected by his wife, his buddies will often come forward to stand up. Come out and clarify the facts for him: He was with us that day. Sister-in-law, you can rest assured that my eldest brother is not that kind of person. I can testify. And I swore that even if my eldest brother wanted to cheat on me, we buddies would not let him go. If he is not satisfied with marrying such a virtuous sister-in-law like you, and dares to have wrong feelings towards other women, let's see how we can fix him.

The fact is, these buddies of his are all just like him. People say that birds of a feather flock together, and this is absolutely true. The most common tactic used by men who are carefree outside and are afraid of a fire in the backyard is to use these friends as shields to make their wives believe that although he comes home every night, he will definitely stay safe for his wife!

Yang Xiaobei’s husband He is a typical man of this kind. Every time his wife doubts him, he does not defend himself and learns from the experience. The next time he comes home late, he still does not call his wife. Instead, he moves his friend or his friend’s wife out. Call her: Sister-in-law, don’t worry, eldest brother is with me. If he dares to go out to have a "romantic affair", I will be your detective!

What else can Yang Xiaobei say? I think it is I wrongly blamed my husband. He was right. He was socializing outside for the sake of the family and for her to live a better life.

However, I often walk by the river, and I don’t believe there is always a time when my shoes don’t get wet. Once, Yang Xiaobei attended a friend's party. As soon as he walked to the hotel lobby, he saw his husband and a young woman walking out of the car affectionately.

Yang Xiaobei did not alert her husband, but hid in a corner and secretly photographed her husband and the woman together with her mobile phone.

Her husband denied it at first, but when Yang Xiaobei threw the photo in front of his eyes, he was silent for a while and then said angrily: "Are you following me?"

Are you following me? Although the situation cannot 100% prove that your husband is definitely having an affair, if he has all the above 6 phenomena, it means that your marriage has shown a sub-healthy state. As a wife, you must pay special attention to how to eliminate the problems in your marriage. What you must do is how to restore your husband's gradually indifferent emotions and mind, and how to let the marriage enter the second honeymoon period.

Never think that a man’s cheating has nothing to do with you.