Three reasons why women don't look back after breaking up and women don't return your WeChat.

In order to save your predecessor, you did everything you could, stalking, chasing, and so on. All kinds of recovery methods have been used once, but the ex still refused you and refused to get back together. Do you really have no chance?

The answer is no, it's not that you don't have a chance, but that you used the wrong method. Just like Xiao Lei, when we just broke up, because we couldn't accept the fact of breaking up, we had a conflict with our predecessor, saying that the other party was love rat, which deceived our feelings and even asked the other party to return all the gifts we had given us before.

However, when the other party returned something, they kept pestering each other because they wanted to save their ex too much, and even stopped each other on the way home and work, hoping to ask the other party to forgive themselves.

After the other party refused, he still contacted the other party with perseverance, constantly apologizing, promising, and even taking out all his previous efforts to try to impress the other party and make it change its mind. But in the end, because my predecessor couldn't stand Wang Chao's pestering, he chose to delete all the contact information of Wang Chao, and even resigned and went to other cities.

Xiao Lei felt hopeless and came to me for psychological counseling, but is this relationship really hopeless?

First of all, today we will talk about the wrong way to save:

Emotion out of control, increase negative impression. The other party chooses to break up because you have a negative impression in the other party's mind and have lost hope for you. But you are out of control and haggle over every ounce, making the other party feel that leaving you is the right choice, because in the eyes of the other party, you are a person who shirks responsibility and dare not face failure.

Besides, everything you do when the other person is with you is because you love her. Because of this, she feels that all you do is blackmail her and strengthen your negative emotions in the other person's heart.

Excessive entanglement leads to the entanglement of psychological pressure. You think it's to express your love and show that you can't live without each other, but you ignore that when the other person just left you, he wanted freedom to make his life easier. But what you do, in the other person's eyes, is to force her to get back together and keep putting pressure on her.

And your siege not only affected her life, but also affected her work, making her feel that you are selfish and don't care about her feelings at all.

Then she can only choose to escape in order to reduce the psychological burden.

Too many promises and lack of trust. Apologize and promise are the most common ways to apologize, but they are also the most ineffective ways, because if you just need to apologize and promise to apologize, you won't break up. You can think about how many times you have said "I was wrong" and promised "I will change" for so long.

But the final result is that you haven't changed at all, so how can she believe your promise? So when you get it back, you think you will really change, but in the other person's eyes, you just want to get her back and deliberately coax her. It may even make the other person think that you don't really want to save her.

In fact, this is the way to save. If you fail, you will feel that you have worked hard, but the other person doesn't love you, and you have no choice.

That's why I want to give up, but in the eyes of the other party, you are forcing her to turn back and want to hurt her again, so you should know that the original sin of saving the failure is that you don't understand the other party and the way to save it is not appropriate.

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