"Devil's Dating Science"

1. I told them the truth about how boys should not eat too little when eating with girls - only those who can eat can be competent. This is a psychological suggestion. If they are too delicate, they will be DLV.

2. Example 1, I helped a student make an appointment with MM, and sent the first text message at 6pm - "Are you home?", MM replied: "I just got home, what's wrong?" This is typical The male mind responds, so he immediately invites you - "Shall I meet you for dinner tomorrow at noon?" The girl replies: "Okay." It's that simple. However, if the girl replies: "I just got home, I'm exhausted." This is typical female thinking. At this time, you shouldn't be too direct. You should chat with her mother-in-law for a while first, and wait for the situation to improve before inviting you.

3. Women always like to be noticed but are afraid of being entangled. Therefore, when receiving a text message after a period of silence, most girls will first be secretly happy that they can leave such a long-lasting impression in a man's heart. In this case, chat with her for a few more words and then call it a day. After a few text messages like this, she will associate your name with a relaxed and happy mood. One day, your meeting will be a matter of course. On the contrary, if you don’t forget to invite the person every time you send a text message, you are actually strengthening your role as a suitor every time. Over time, the girl will feel a conditioned heaviness when she sees the person who sent the letter on the phone, so you leave. The blacklist is not far away.

4. According to my experience, if the other party does not show a special emotional state (such as being happy, interested in you, sharing his mood with you) during the text message interaction with you, then rashly send out an invitation It will generally fail, and it will also reinforce your role as the pursuer and further widen the unequal relationship.

5. So we can understand the difference between chatting with male thinking and chatting with female thinking. The former is telling a woman what you can bring to her life, while the latter is talking with her about her. Things to talk about.

6. What is communication? The definition of devil's dating science is: Communication is the process of constantly exchanging each other's status + feelings to seek sexual harmony.

7. After recognizing these truths, we should understand that it is a misunderstanding to blindly emphasize attraction when chasing girls. Because women value communication even more than men. Although rich and powerful men are much more attractive, a relationship without communication is not a true relationship. Women despise those nouveau riche who only pay the bills from the bottom of their hearts. Rich gentlemen are their dream lovers, and the so-called gentlemen represent the qualities of understanding and good communication.

8. The same rule: "For those people who are suitable for each other, as long as they have the opportunity to communicate normally, he and she will naturally come together without any skills and without any misunderstanding. But in real life, people who are suitable for us and people who are not suitable for us are mixed around us. Prepaid emotions often cause us to waste our limited energy on the wrong objects, disrupting our minds and consuming our lives. We still think that we are overcoming difficulties and obstacles for love. In fact, we only need to contact more different people in a normal way, and if we feel bad, go to the next person. This is the most efficient strategy. Don't forget our original strategy. The purpose is to find those who match you, not to prove how compatible you are. Dating is actually very simple. The key is to control your inner demons. But on the road to love, most people are not looking for a partner. They are just chasing the projection of their own emotions and the satisfaction of their desires.”

9. Therefore, the essence of devil’s dating science is the principle of not making mistakes, don’t let women hate you so quickly. When other men make mistakes and are eliminated, your chances increase.

10. Let’s talk about another example, which is said to be an effective method to test whether a boyfriend understands a girl’s thoughts. Girl: "I feel so uncomfortable. I feel like I have a fever." Boy: "You have a fever? Poor little girl, you still have to go to work when you have a fever. Do you want me to pick you up..." - This is what girls know. There is another person who doesn't understand girls - "Drink more water!" "Every time I hear this sentence, I don't know why I get angry! Drink your mother's water, drink your water..." - the girl's voice. Combining these two examples, we can draw a fool's operating model - when a girl asks you for help or complains, the best way to comfort yourself is to put yourself into that difficult situation and face it with her. At least, that's what you should say.

11. There is a saying - "Good guys fix computers, bad guys do it in bed". The irony is that men who help girls often do not end well, but this is actually a misunderstanding. Let’s first take a look at how these so-called “good people” repair computers: get off work at 6 o’clock, take the subway for an hour to MM’s place, eat a hamburger on the way, arrive at 7 o’clock, bow their heads and start working when they meet. Afraid of not having enough time, the computer was repaired at 9:30. MM said, "Thank you for your hard work. Have you eaten?" He said proudly: "I ate on the road a long time ago. It's time for me to go back. I have to go to work tomorrow. Bye." .”——You see, this is not called a good person, this is called a fool. ?

So how do smart, good people fix computers? First of all, you can tell MM that computer repair is very complicated and the time is difficult to estimate. You are also very busy at ordinary times, so it is best to find a weekend afternoon when you have enough time to do it all at once. On Saturday, tell MM in advance that you will work overtime in the morning and go to see her after work. This will ensure an early start in the afternoon. Wait until you meet her before taking the initiative to invite her to lunch, showing off your manly manners. It’s actually normal to eat lunch elegantly for two hours. After eating, find a coffee shop (it’s better to go to her house if you’re on a desktop computer), and then Chat while repairing, repair while chatting, talk about childhood when formatting, talk about life when installing drivers, talk about ideals when updating, repair carefully and slowly, feel embarrassed when you want to repair, repair even if you want to be ashamed, repair it for three or four hours . When it's almost 7 o'clock, the task is successfully completed. Can MM have the heart to let you go? Besides, you still invited her to lunch, so at this time she basically wants to invite you to dinner, so you should agree generously. And she must be allowed to invite her, and she must be given the face. Of course, if you really finish dinner, depending on your mood and atmosphere, you might as well grab the bill. It’s usually almost 10 o’clock after dinner, and the 9-hour effect starts to show. After such a day, it feels like we have spent half a lifetime together. As long as you don't do anything particularly bad or say anything particularly bad, your girlfriend's sense of security, familiarity, and closeness towards you will be greatly increased. If the time is right, you can even make a sincere and bold confession. Hold her with one hand, point to your head with the other hand and say to her: "Now please help me repair my computer. Recently, when it displays your avatar, it will "Crash..."?

In addition, when a girl asks you for help, never say anything smart like "I can help, but you have to treat me to dinner." I tell you on behalf of the majority of women. , this statement is not only not humorous at all, but also very boring, really. ?

Finally, let me teach you a trick. According to the "9-hour effect", even when there is no help, dating with a girl can start from lunch, because there is no telling what unexpected circumstances may prolong the date. The time you spend together. For example, originally, MM planned to go shopping with a friend after lunch, but when she was about to finish eating, her friend suddenly had something to do and couldn’t go, so you would naturally accompany her to drink coffee, watch a movie or something, until 5 or 6 pm. At that time, there were traffic jams everywhere on the road and the subway was full of people. She actually had nowhere to go, so you had to eat dinner together again. In this case, the nature of eating together is not a date but more like living together, because you are no longer inviting whom, but an equal feeling of being arranged by fate and fate to share the joys and sorrows, so often The atmosphere will also be more natural and lifelike. After dinner, the 9-hour effect starts to take effect. You go for a walk, hold hands, express love, etc. Even if the girl is not ready to accept you, at least she will not blame you for it. Because after such a day, everyone will understand that this moment is a natural expression of human impulse. Men have it, and women may also have it.

12. It is worth noting that if a girl talks a lot in the early stages of dating, it only means that she has a certain amount of trust in you. However, if this status remains and she never pays attention to your situation, it means that you may be treated as a trash can. . A perfect dating communication should be two-way, with each party listening carefully to what the other is saying and responding positively. Therefore, when the date reaches a certain stage, we must talk about some topics about ourselves, so that you can see from the other person's reaction how interested she is in you.

13. Upgrade the relationship to ordinary friends: If the woman refuses to meet in a downward manner, we can make an appointment again in a few days; if the woman refuses to meet in an upward manner, we can make an appointment again in a few weeks. However, communication must be maintained during this period.

Upgrading the relationship to a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship: There are various situations of rejection, and it is more complicated to discuss, but as long as the woman is still willing to meet you alone, you have a chance. Patience is very important at this time. When the time comes, don't seek merit but seek no fault. When the time comes, you must upgrade again.

14. The key to upgrading a good friend is to temporarily put aside your role as a pursuer and start interacting with her according to the rules of a good friend. This is actually a manifestation of an equal mentality and is conducive to the advancement of men and women. Friendship. All love is based on equality, the strong attraction of love at first sight is equal, the natural attraction from good friends to lovers is also equal, and those failed pursuits are often unequal from beginning to end.

15. When you can meet each other, your relationship will move from the stage of acquaintance to the stage of ordinary friends. At this level of relationship, men often have the urge to directly upgrade the relationship to male and female friends, but this is the same type of mistake as "I want to get to know you, leave a phone number." Unless there is a strong attraction between you, it will cause the relationship to be downgraded or permanently stay at the stage of ordinary friends. This is what the saying goes, "confess your love and you will die." Therefore, to be on the safe side, you should develop a relationship with good friends first.

16. Let’s have a meal together on Monday” or “Let’s meet tomorrow.” When the request is rejected, don’t be frustrated or annoyed. Return to the communication stage at any time, and even the rejection itself can be used as a new The topic - "Oh, I have to go on a business trip again. It's good to go to the south this season. I just came back from there. ”

17. Putting forward demands can eliminate the insecurity caused by the other party’s uncertainty about your intentions when entering a new relationship; communication can eliminate the other party’s sense of discomfort with the new relationship. . Communication includes information sharing and emotional sharing. In the early stage (pick-up relationship, acquaintance relationship), information sharing accounts for a large proportion. In the later stage (ordinary friend relationship, good friend relationship), emotional sharing accounts for a large proportion only in the current relationship. Only after we have a sense of familiarity can we continue to upgrade the relationship.

18. “You shocked me. "——"I also knew this would happen, but it was too late to think of other ways, because I really want to get to know you. "?

"This is not good. "——"I also know that this is not good, but I really want to get to know you. ”

?“I’m not used to leaving phone calls to strangers. "——"Actually, I'm not used to this, but I really want to get to know you. "

?"I have a boyfriend. "——"I also thought that you might have a boyfriend, but I really want to get to know you. "?

"This feels quite awkward. "——"I know this is a little awkward, but I really want to get to know you. ”?

… Male thinking often enters the process of reasoning at this moment, but this happens to be very wrong. Because there is no right or wrong in matters between men and women, and debate will only alienate you. Relationship with her. Acknowledging her emotions is to close the distance with her. After you close the distance, you may wish to emphasize your needs again. Maybe the other party will reconsider at this time, but remember, just insist on it once. , if she continues to refuse, forget it.

19. Girls who respond simply to text messages usually have three situations - the first is polite, but not very interested in you.

The second type is boring, but not very interested in you.

The third type is not good at chatting, but is somewhat interested in you?

We treat the above three types of girls. The "three-three rule" of text messages can be used uniformly. The specific operation points are as follows. 1. Only send three rounds of text messages each time. Start and end on your own initiative. (Of course, if the MM suddenly becomes enthusiastic, we must also follow up flexibly. ) 2. Contact again every three to five days. 3. Make a vague invitation in the third round. The so-called "fuzzy invitation" is a date intention, but it does not need to say the specific time, such as - " Let’s have dinner together someday? ”

20. So what is emotion? Emotions are usually attached to language, for example, “ok” and “ok”. The latter with modal particles can obviously make you feel The emotion in the other person's language. The former only makes you feel a simple response. When a person is in a chatting state, his words can't help but be emotionally colored, and the content is not clear.

On the contrary, it means that the other party is not interested in the current topic, or the other party is in a state not suitable for chatting.

21. After striking up a conversation and leaving a message on WeChat, you can immediately read the other person’s circle of friends, find interesting content and add one or two comments. This is considered a topic. Compared with “Nice to meet you” "It's much more natural. Some people may think that looking through other people’s Moments like this would seem obscene. In fact, there is no need to worry at all, because since you take the initiative to get to know someone and they have approved your WeChat account, it is normal curiosity to look at the other person’s Moments. However, it is only natural to do this right away. It would be strange to wait until a week or two later to suddenly comment on a girl's state a few months ago.

22. In daily life, the chat ability of ordinary men is basically only to respond with facts (such men can easily become good guys); men with female thinking can usually respond with facts and emotions. Response (this kind of man usually has no problem chasing girls); only a few people can take into account factual response, emotional response and cognitive response.

23. Throughout the ages, wise people have often been willing to view the ups and downs of life with an attitude of impermanence. They will look at the facts and discuss matters, but they will not easily establish cause and effect. If you control your emotions, you will not be overjoyed or sad. On the contrary, when those fragile people are swayed by emotions, they will even take the initiative to look for corresponding facts. As a result, they will either further abuse themselves or fight against others.

24. Chasing girls is often a time when human nature is exposed, so controlling emotions and adjusting mentality are often more important than methods and skills. This is also the difference between experts and rookies. Rookies believe that everything should have a cause and effect. They seem to be diligent in thinking, but in fact they just lack confidence and patience and always want to do something immediately to change the status quo; while experts know how to see opportunities. When doing things, when the opportunity is not available, do not seek merit but seek no fault.

25. This exactly reflects the cute and dark side of human nature. To use a common saying, "If you are soft, I will be hard, and if you are hard, I will be soft." When girls think in a friendly way towards women, men tend to He regards himself as a man; but when women think strongly of men, men subconsciously become women. Only by seeing this clearly can we better understand the principle of neither being humble nor being arrogant. "If you are strong, I will be strong, and if you are weak, I will be weak." This is the communication principle in an equal relationship. And "If you are hard, I will be soft; if you are soft, I will be hard." This does not mean that there is no reason for existence. Perhaps this is a survival strategy for people in a more complex environment. I have not studied the specifics, but it is certain that, It does not apply to the simple communication model of sexual relations.

26. Next, let’s take a look at how experienced people use female thinking to convey a sense of security when striking up a conversation. ?

Example 1: Man: Can we get to know each other? Woman: Why? Man: I saw you next to the elevator just now, and suddenly I felt that if I didn’t come over and have a word with you, I would definitely regret it today. (Female thinking about specific details)

?Example 2: Male: Can I leave a phone number? Woman: This feels so abrupt... Man: I feel a bit abrupt too, but I really want to get to know you and can't find any other way. (Female thinking to express feelings)?

Example 3: Male: Are you waiting for someone? Woman: Waiting for my boyfriend. Man: Your boyfriend is so lucky to be able to keep his girlfriend waiting. (Female thinking that talks about things)?

Example 4: Man: I want to get to know you. Woman: Yes! Man: I happened to pass by here today to buy some things. Are you here specifically for shopping? (Female thinking living in the present)

27. As a female thinking that is suitable for the natural state, its language mode has the following characteristics: incision, specific details, expressing feelings, describing problems, focusing on the past, comparing the present, and listing phenomenon, discuss things as they are, be open and affirmative, forget the purpose, live in the moment, and use yourself as the standard.

28. This experience made me discover that when talking, people who are willing to chat always like to be more specific about the topic, while people who don’t want to chat will follow the direction of the topic. Directly summarize the conclusion, the implication is, "I already know everything, you don't need to say more."

29. There is also a relatively rare combination - a mother-daughter combination. Let's talk about the combination. Daughter's experience.

According to the Chinese nation's tradition of respecting elders, when approaching a mother-daughter duo, we have to talk to the mother first: "Hello, aunt, is this your daughter?" Confirm first to avoid it being the daughter-in-law. If not, then continue: "I want to get to know her." Next, you may have to experience an instant interview with your mother. Based on many experiences in the pick-up class, I found that mothers are very calm when facing pick-ups. Usually, they will directly ask you for some practical dating information such as your occupation, place of origin, age, etc. Remember, as long as you are asked these things, it is a good thing. Basically, your mother will agree to let you know each other later. Therefore, when approaching a mother-daughter duo, image is very important. If the image is not up to par, they will be passed directly, and the mothers will say with a surprised expression - "No need", probably what they want to say in their hearts is - "Why do you still want to eat the toad?" swan meat". In practice, I found that as long as students have a good image, the success rate of striking up a mother-daughter team is even higher than that of a single target. I have to say that this is a thought-provoking phenomenon. After witnessing my mother calmly saying "Let's get to know each other" to her hesitant or shy daughter again and again, I suddenly understood the fact that those women whose youth has passed away have a better attitude towards partners than we do. Much more forgiving in imagination. Maybe they have seen through men and know that men who do not strike up a conversation are not much more reliable than men who strike up a conversation. As for women themselves, when you are still young, the most important thing is to get to know more men who admire you and who you also like. As the old saying goes, only when you lose do you know how to cherish, men and women are all like this.

30. Therefore, to be precise, when dating, we only need to "understand the woman's emotional state"; in the field of psychology, it is necessary to analyze "the factors caused by the woman's emotional state" reason". However, generally speaking, these reasons are "incomprehensible".

31. For example, when we agreed on a mountain climbing plan, the other party suddenly said: "Sorry, I don't want to go today." Since I understand that there are many possibilities that may lead to this result, I will not dwell on that one. The specific reason is what I have always called "the incomprehensibility of women." Usually, I just reply happily: "Okay, have a nice weekend." Then, I just make another appointment three to five days later, and I won't bring up the old thing about the missed appointment. Because I know that women are situational animals, I only respond at the situational level. I will not interpret "she is not going" as "she rejects me." The reason for doing this is not to "pursue the truth" rationally, but to "maintain consistency" emotionally. But otakus do exactly the opposite. Many people will analyze and analyze again, and work hard and work hard, such as: "Are you tired? Then I will pick you up at your house." "Are you angry with me? Then I will apologize to you." "Or else. Let’s not go hiking, let’s just watch a movie.” “Look, I’ve already set off. I’ll be downstairs soon.” “If it doesn’t work this week, let’s change it to next week.” In short, the hunting style is now revealed - got it. How could the rabbit run away? Something must be done... The result is that her bad mood may have nothing to do with you, but now it counts as yours. The fundamental reason for this error is: while otakus regard women as targets, they also regard themselves as targets in women's eyes; how they observe women, they think women are also observing them.

32. "What are you doing?" Most of them are chat signals, and occasionally they are invitation signals, but no matter what, the other party is not in a hurry to meet, so - pure chat + testing + invitation, this is the same strategy. "Where are you?" This is a 100% signal to meet, and it must be immediately, so don't be verbose, don't chat, and get to the point quickly. You can text and go on the road at the same time. Anyway, you will definitely meet, if you are a master.

33. Answers that women like: "Why do you want to get to know me?" - Man: "Because I will regret not knowing you."?

"Why do you want to invite me?" Eat?" - Man: "Because I can't eat without you."?

"Why should I go to your house?" - Man: "Because I can't sleep without you."

< p> ?Did everyone find out? The answers women like are often not based on the causal relationship between the present and the future, but on the description of the present itself. In other words, in men's minds, the future is more important than the present, but in women's minds, the present is more important than the future. Compared to men, women are more "living in the moment" animals.

34. So when you love someone but are not accepted, under what circumstances should you persist and under what circumstances should you give up? ——If this state makes your life move forward and makes you more positive, more optimistic, and more able to improve yourself than before, then you can persist; but if this state makes you resentful, listless, suspicious, and pessimistic Being narrow-minded, neurotic, and inconsistent makes you less and less attractive, so you should give up as soon as possible.

2. A particularly wealthy man does not want a woman to pursue him just because of his money, and a particularly beautiful woman does not want a man to pursue her just because of his appearance.

3. If we implement the devil’s negative pick-up method, even if the pick-up success rate is only 20% (actually usually between 20% and 50%), then we will definitely make a profit in the pick-up stage, because we use a lot of With little effort, you can get the contact information of the girl you like. Then we use the "three-three rule" (that is, sending a dozen text messages) to ask the girl out. We also make money, and we are very sure that the girl we want to meet is the girl we like. This is more than what most men pay to get the same date. The cost is much lower.

4. It’s a good thing to be with you. Friends who have a car can do this test. When passing by a certain place, tell her that you want to get out of the car to do something, which will take about 10 minutes (such as going to the dry cleaning store to pick up clothes), and ask her if she would like to wait in the car or accompany you. go. Generally speaking, a girl who is interested in you will not choose to wait in the car for you. It's good to be willing to walk together. For example, after having afternoon tea, it’s time to go to eat. One restaurant is nearby and you can walk there; the other restaurant is farther away and you have to go there by car. It depends on where she wants to go. A girl who is interested in you will choose to go to a restaurant that is closer to you. In the same way, after eating, girls who are not in a hurry to end the date and don't want to go out for entertainment, but are still willing to walk and chat with you are often the most interesting. To put it bluntly, "like you" means "like being with you", and there is a difference between "being interested in you" and "being interested in the date you arrange".

5. At the text message stage, there are three levels of interest indicators. Low interest: She answers whatever you ask. You: "What are you doing?" Her: "In class." Moderate interest: She shares her feelings with you. You: "What are you doing?" Her: "I'm in class, so sleepy." Highly interested: She also wants to know how you are doing. You: "What are you doing?" She: "I'm in class, I'm so sleepy, where are you?"

6. But please note that a girl can only be approached by a strange man if he talks to him directly. Pulling up one's hair has this meaning, because people's reactions in emergency situations often reveal true information. In daily life, when girls lift their hair, men don’t have to be sentimental.

7. When chatting up, if a girl flips her hair from time to time when talking to you, then this is a very good sign that she has unconsciously begun to care about her appearance.

8. First divide the relationship between men and women into four stages: 1. Pick-up stage. 2. awareness stage. 3. Dating stage. 4． Couple stage. You find a man who attracts you, start a conversation with him, and then get his contact information, which is the hook-up stage; after you have the contact information, you text or call him until you make an appointment to meet again, which is the acquaintance stage; From the moment you meet again, you continue to date until you express your love through words or physical intimacy. This is the dating stage; the next step is the couple stage. If you can enter the couple stage, the pursuit is considered successful.

9. The ability of men and women to be together ultimately relies on mutual attraction. Attract enough and any other factors can be ignored. But attraction is not a constant value, it changes up and down. Whether two people can be together cannot be completely decided at the first moment. If you attract enough people, you can certainly take drastic measures; if you don't attract enough people, it's better to wait for the opportunity. There are four elements to attraction: 1. Biological value (body and appearance). 2. Social value (money, status, talent). 3. Matching of personality and temperament. 4． Able to fill needs (emotional gaps of boredom and loneliness). Among them, element 1 can be determined at the stage of striking up a conversation, element 2 can generally be determined at the stage of ordinary friends, element 3 can be finally determined at the stage of boyfriend and girlfriend, and element 4 will always change with time.

10. The chatter: "Let's have dinner together someday?" (Fuzzy invitation) Next comes the critical moment, and you need to operate according to various possibilities.

1. MM agreed. 1． MM: "Okay, I'll contact you then." (In this case, you don't have to reply, otherwise it will look too long-winded.) 2. MM: "Okay!" Chatter: "I'll call you then." (You should have a reply in this case, otherwise it will be rude.)

11. My friends and I have finished the party and are now home. , what are you doing now? (The follow-up standard opening of the devil's pick-up: contact with the scene + pay attention to her)

12. People are always more concerned about whether they have received a response from others when they just sent a status. So if you have nothing to do, check WeChat to see if the goddess has any new status, but remember to be specific! Just giving likes or following others' opinions will quickly make girls lose interest in you. Silence is golden. Don’t talk too much but be precise. The purpose of comments is to find a good topic for your lives that have no intersection, not just to remind the girl that she has another suitor. Those men who follow girls in every post on WeChat are probably newbies in love.

13. In addition, in our previous teachings, we often reminded men not to show care and warmth easily. For example, a girl said: "I can only take a taxi when I go out. I am a road addict." If a man does this at this time Replying to "I am a living map, you can come to me if you have any questions", then you have made the mistake of talking about each other, because the girl is just emphasizing that she does not know the way, but she has not encountered actual difficulties, let alone emotional characteristics; on the contrary , when a girl encounters difficulties and expresses obvious emotional characteristics, then the man should not only express his willingness to help, but also preferably bring himself in. For example, if a girl says "I have a cold, I feel very uncomfortable at home", the man should ask Ask: "Do you need me to accompany you to the hospital?" Instead of just replying "Drink more water", don't say to yourself: "I also had a cold last week and it was really uncomfortable."

< p> 14. When chatting, when a statement has three elements: fact, cognition, and emotion, a good response should also have the following standards: Factual response-male thinking for solving problems. (In this case, it means giving help or expressing willingness to help) Cognitive response - find the logical relationship between facts and evaluation, and be objective and accurate. Emotional response - emotions, or conveying more positive emotions.

15. Please close your eyes and think about it. Whenever you are rejected, can your subconscious language do this? Do you either keep talking about "I, me, me", or stay silent? People who really persist are often good at saying "you".

16. The style of devil’s dating is to talk more about yourself in the early stage and talk more about the other party in the later stage. Although when we strike up a conversation, we take the initiative and show our interest in others, we can balance it by talking more about ourselves. However, in the later stages of the relationship, we emphasize paying more attention to the other person, because at this stage, revealing interest no longer matters, and what is more important is Go deep into MM's inner world.

17. To sum up: there is aura with "I", but without "you" there is no interest.

18. If a woman says: "Don't like me anymore, liking me will make you hurt, and I don't want to hurt anyone now." Many men's first thoughts are when they hear the girl they are pursuing talking to themselves like this. The reaction was that the time had come to show loyalty, and all kinds of heroic words and witty remarks that seemed to be light-hearted came pouring out. However, let’s calmly analyze the goddess’s language pattern first: 1. Stop liking me (explicit instruction). 2. Liking me will make you hurt (future tense + warning). 3. I don't want to hurt anyone (top stack). It's obviously all male thinking. At best, they are being honest with you and speaking directly. Don't think that the goddess is speaking out of sorrow and using irony to imply that you are here to save the beauty. The most appropriate response at this time can be: "Okay, I will listen to you, take care of yourself, and start with me when you want to hurt others." As a speaker, the appropriate choice of language mode can allow us to communicate more effectively. perform better. My rough experience on this is: when there is no conflict (or inspiration), use more female thinking, at least the atmosphere will be friendly; when there is conflict (or inspiration), use male thinking, so as to ensure the advantage (or fun) ).

19. As a male thinking suitable for stress states, its language mode has the following characteristics: stacking, abstract summarization, making evaluations, solving problems, exploring motivations, predicting the future, establishing cause and effect, reasoning and summarizing, Defend against negation, give priority to purpose, be result-oriented, and use objectivity as the standard.