Students' psychological quality is not hard, so parents should pay more attention to it.

Nearly 60% of parents expect teachers? Avoid children and often go home?

Xiaojin, a 0/3-year-old junior 3 student in Haikou City, Hainan Province, overheard his mother and the class teacher talking about his study. So she shouted:? I never want to go to school again! ? I slammed the door and went to the15th floor of a nearby apartment. This report of Southern Metropolis Daily is very embarrassing. How should parents and teachers communicate with sensitive children?

In recent years, suicides among primary and secondary school students have occurred frequently, and many of them have outstanding achievements. There are many reasons for children's vulnerability, but the outcome can only be borne by the family. Therefore, it is the educational responsibility of every family and school to build a safe firewall on the road of children's life so that the tragedy will not repeat itself.

Data display:

One fifth of middle school students want to commit suicide.

In March, Xiaobei, a 0/7-year-old high school girl from Xixia County, Nanyang City, committed suicide by jumping off a building due to academic pressure;

On June+10, 5438, a 9-year-old student in Shangqiu committed suicide by taking pesticides due to heavy work pressure;

1 1 In June, a primary school student in Luoyang was physically punished by a teacher and jumped to his death.

In February, Xiaoming, 0/4 years old in Biyang County, Zhumadian, was caught by the teacher reading a novel in class and died of drinking pesticides.

In March, a primary school student in Tongxu County, Kaifeng City hanged himself after being forced by the school to buy supplementary teaching materials and refused to ask his parents for money.

Every year, news of teenagers committing suicide appears in newspapers.

Not only in our province, but also in Peking University Institute of Children and Adolescent Health, a survey report involving about10.5 million students in three provinces was published in 2007. The figures are shocking: one fifth of middle school students have considered suicide, accounting for 20.4% of the total sample, while 6.5% have tried to commit suicide.

Compared with the survey results in 2002, students' suicidal ideation, suicidal plan and attempted suicide increased by several percentage points.

Urgent concern: Why do students give up their lives so easily?

Precious life, gorgeous youth, what makes these students rashly end their life as beautiful as flowers and pure as jade?

In the interview, Dahe Daily reporter learned that in addition to the smooth growth environment and no setbacks for the flowers of the motherland, the lack of parental care, the deterioration of interpersonal relationships, the pressure of exam-oriented education, and emotional problems have all become the reasons why these flowers of the motherland want to be suicidal.

The problems of primary and secondary school students must be rooted in family, school and society, and the defects exposed by students also illustrate the disadvantages of education.

A survey of nearly a thousand middle school students randomly selected from primary and secondary schools in a district of Shenzhen shows that middle school students lack the strength of life education, and there is a blind spot in life education: 16% of students say life education? Did you accept it informally? 16% of the students said? I don't know anything. Have you ever accepted it? 18% of the students said? Can't say clearly? .

In recent years, news of adolescent suicide has occurred frequently, so it is urgent to educate students about life. Unfortunately, at present, many schools do not carry out this education. ? Yesterday, Teacher Li of a middle school in Nanyang said sadly. He said that life education is an education that faces life and human life and death. It not only teaches young people to cherish life, but also inspires them to fully understand the meaning of life and actively create the value of life.

It is understood that life education has already been carried out in the United States, Australia, Japan and other places, and Shanghai, Liaoning, Jiangsu and other provinces and cities have also carried out activities such as life education research and teaching practice.

According to Chen Chunming, the head teacher of the excellent class in Zhoukou No.1 Middle School, besides life education, frustration education is also an indispensable part of children's growth. ? When students encounter setbacks, I will first choose to listen, let students express their inner feelings, give them respect and understanding, gradually enlighten them and give them appropriate suggestions. ? Chen Chunming said. In addition, children should be consciously trained to resist setbacks in peacetime.

Online survey: 20% parents and teachers have never contacted each other.

How do parents and teachers communicate with their children in your or your relatives' home?

Yesterday, Dahe. Com launched an investigation. By 4: 00 pm, 28.57% of parents said that teachers often contact their parents by phone, SMS, school newsletter or QQ, and nearly 40% of parents said that I hardly contact you at ordinary times. How about talking at the parent-teacher conference? . What about now? Teachers make regular home visits? In one item, check whether the number of people is zero. No communication? 20%.

How do parents like to communicate with teachers about their children's problems? 85% people choose? Face to face communication? . Moreover, nearly 60% of parents welcome teachers to be guests at home.

However, contrary to parents' welcome attitude, more than half of the students in the survey expressed disapproval. 47.62% of the children said that they didn't like teachers talking to their parents about their academic performance, and 42.86% of the students didn't like teachers complaining to their parents about trivial things, such as painting nail polish and dyeing their hair.

So, what questions do students want teachers and parents to communicate more? In the survey, over 70% of the respondents believe that we should talk more about children's learning and growth, rather than blindly criticizing them.

Teacher orientation: to be a bridge between students and parents.

In addition to educating students, teachers' communication skills with parents and students can not be ignored.

Gao, a class teacher in Zhengzhou Experimental High School who has been teaching for 10 years, said that every winter and summer vacation, in addition to calling and texting, he would also choose several classmates for home visits.

He believes that teachers should avoid children when communicating with parents about students' problems. ? But when praising children's Excellence, we can close the distance between them, especially when praising them publicly in class. ?

There are many only children now, and the children are all in adolescence. They are a little more delicate than before, and it is easy to do extreme things. ? Gao said that while educating students to set an example, they should also establish their self-confidence. Every child has his own advantages, which should be fully explored and enlarged. ? Wrong demand? Don't say that. The scar on your hand is difficult to heal if you dig it every day. ?

Hu Sufang, the head teacher of Zhengzhou Experimental High School, is 27 years old. In the eyes of students, Hu Sufang is an intimate elder sister, ranging from family problems to friends' contradictions. These adolescent secrets are willing to talk to her.

Students regard me as the object of listening, some things need to be considerate and understood, and some things that catch the wind cannot be reported to parents. ? Hu Sufang said that she would reflect to her parents according to their priorities.

Hu Sufang said: To be a friend of students, teachers should be a bridge between students and their families. ?

Experts suggest that children should cultivate character growth from an early age.

Hu Xiong, vice president of Zhengzhou Eighth People's Hospital, said that from a psychological point of view, a child's character originates from the family, appears in the school and matures in the society, which are the three steps of a child's character growth. Parents should cultivate their children's character growth from an early age in the family, so that their children can develop well after leaving school and family.

In addition, there are many phenomena that affect children because of improper communication between parents and teachers.

Before, a girl was mistaken for puppy love by her teacher because she was close to a boy at school. After informing her parents, due to improper communication, her original excellent grades dropped sharply and she no longer trusted teachers and parents? . Hu Xiong said.

Yuan, director of Zhengzhou 12355 Youth Rights Protection and Psychological Counseling Center, said that in reality, many children choose to commit suicide because of family discord. This? Disagreement? It is not only the disharmony between parents, but also the disharmony between parents and children. The long-term accumulation of negative emotions has a great psychological impact on children. Therefore, one day parents' criticism of children, or quarrels between children and parents, will stimulate children to have a stress reaction and become the fuse for them to choose suicide.

He suggested that parents and teachers should focus on cultivating children's ability and sense of responsibility. ? Ability? Including communication, communication, learning, life and other abilities. ? If the child has the ability and the emotions are released, it is not too late to talk about learning. ?