What does it feel like when a familiar person becomes a stranger?

I don’t know when we became familiar strangers. You know me and I know you, but we can’t say a word to each other.

I think when two familiar people become strangers, the feeling is embarrassing and chilling, but when you have this feeling, you can only understand it in your heart, but Can't talk about it outside. Some people say that the farthest distance in the world is when familiar people gradually become strangers. In fact, I think that is quite reasonable. Once they become strangers, a gap will arise between two people.

I have an older brother from my uncle’s house. When we were young, we often played together. In my mind, he was my eldest brother. Whenever my younger brother was unhappy or bullied, he would come to him. This has been the case since childhood. We grew up playing together, but as we grew older, gradually we no longer had the same brotherly love we had when we were children.

In the meantime, we went to elementary school together. My grades were slightly better at that time, but none of us cared about it. The two of us were still innocent and happy playing together, but... When we got to junior high school, we parted ways. My uncle may have thought that the middle school in the county would be better, so he went to the county to study in junior high school, while I studied in the town. I think the contact between us gradually became less and less after that. Later, that brother's grades were not very good, so he chose to go to a martial arts school (martial arts school), while I continued to attend high school in the only high school in the county. Although my grades were not among the best, they could be said to be excellent. Many relatives often ask the two of us, where do we go to school? How are my grades? Every time I ask about this, my brother will feel very humiliated and unhappy. In fact, I understand his mood very well. And after that, he rarely came to play with me

Now that I am in college, he has also started working in an ordinary job. He used to call and communicate with me, but now we only see him once during the Chinese New Year. Little contact. Maybe we have grown up and our self-esteem has become stronger, and people of the same age like to compete and compare with their peers, but I think it is normal to have this kind of aggressiveness, but it is not an enmity between the two parties. Jealousy that others are better than oneself, hating that others are better than oneself. When I see my brother now, I will still call him brother affectionately, and I will still chat with him enthusiastically about this and that, but I feel that we have become strangers, because the distance between our hearts is far away, even if we meet each other. I don’t know what to say, and I can’t even find a different topic.

Actually, I think my brother will always be the eldest brother in my heart no matter what, but he may have other opinions. We gradually moved from familiarity to strangers, from talking freely before to now. Without saying a word, what kind of psychology is at play? What other factors changed our brotherhood? Lack of communication, lack of contact, less sincerity and more scheming, I don’t know why we gradually drifted away like this. But brother, I really miss you.

From familiarity to unfamiliarity, it is only one step away. From unfamiliarity to familiarity, maybe just one sentence.