Why cultivate children's good habit of thinking hard?

Parents educate their children for two purposes: one is to master knowledge, and the other is to cultivate thinking ability. Comparatively, the latter is more important. Unfortunately, most parents ignore this point and only focus on "mastering knowledge". It is precisely because of this that there are more and more "high scores and low abilities" children with good academic performance but poor thinking ability in modern society. So how should parents avoid entering this misunderstanding of family education? It's simple. Let children form the good habit of thinking hard. To this end, there are several ways:

1. Always remind children to think.

Children in China always forget to think, don't like to think, and don't even have the consciousness of independent thinking. At this point, we can learn from foreign practices. In American schools, huge slogans such as "the road to solving problems independently" and "remember the words of smart owls: think" are hung everywhere in classrooms. Children wear paper hats that say "thinking", and children wear T-shirts that say "I am a little thinker" to remind children to think everywhere. Then, can we also follow this model and post words about thinking in children's rooms, desks, schoolbags and other places where children can reach? 2. Encourage children to speak their minds.

Every child has his own independent opinion at first, but many times, parents' opinions forcibly cover up their opinions. Therefore, children gradually hide their opinions and gradually become "Mom said …" "Aunt said …" and "Teacher said …". This is also a misunderstanding of family education. Many parents' self-righteous ideas will make children gradually lose themselves and their own ideas. Therefore, when educating their children, parents must consciously train their children to change from "what others say" to "I think …", "I advocate …" and "I say …". In addition, let children know that what adults say is not necessarily correct, and what books say is not necessarily correct. Only what you see with your own eyes and hear with your own ears is true. A girl is very interested in painting, so her mother often takes her to art exhibitions and encourages her to think positively and express her views on her works. Once my mother took a girl to see an exhibition, but she didn't tell her it was an exhibition in advance. After the mother showed the children around, she deliberately asked her, "What kind of painting style do you think is better?" "I feel as if it was painted by one person, and they are all well painted." The girl said a little doubtfully. "Are you? What do you think is good? It doesn't matter, just say it. " The mother still does not forget to encourage her daughter. The girl said, "Good layout, bold, bold, use a pen." Mother smiled with satisfaction. 3. Give children a chance to think

Some children are unwilling to think because they have no chance to think, that is, they have no chance to think. In fact, in the process of children's growth, it is also very important to let children think diligently, and the key depends on whether parents give them the opportunity to think. There was a naughty boy, and his father thought of a way to calm him down. Father called him over and took out 100 yuan and said to him, "As long as you can guess what I am thinking, I will give you this 100 yuan." "Really, Dad?" The little boy asked happily. "Of course it's true, as long as you can guess." Father said proudly. The father thought, now the child can be quiet for a while. Sure enough, in the next few days, the little boy quietly thought about this problem. On the third day, the little boy said to his father seriously, "Dad, I guessed what you were thinking!" " "The father asked with a little surprise," What am I thinking? " The boy said, "You don't want to give me this 100 yuan. "His idea is correct, so his father must give the boy 100 yuan. Parents should not give their children too many answers.

Many parents always look very anxious when watching their children think hard, and even tell them the answer impatiently before they reach the correct conclusion. Under normal circumstances, as long as the child gets the answer, he won't think again. This educational model is very bad. Because parents give their children too many answers, it is equivalent to depriving them of the right to think. A fifth-grade girl likes to solve math problems by herself. One night, there was a difficult math problem in the math homework left by the teacher. She thought for half an hour, but she still couldn't figure it out. It's almost time for bed. My mother came over and asked her, "What are you doing?" "Application problems. This question is difficult, but very interesting. " The girl replied. "Let me do the math for you." Mother took the girl's homework and read it twice. "No, I'll think about it myself!" The girl doesn't believe that she can't work out the problem. Half an hour passed, and my mother said angrily, "I don't care about you." I slept, and the answer is here. " Mother put the written answer next to the girl. The girl continued to think without looking back. A long time has passed. In order to prevent herself from falling asleep, the girl washed her face with cold water and still sat at her desk thinking about the application. Finally, the difficulty of the application problem was broken, and the girl fell asleep with the joy of success. If children want to have super thinking ability, parents should encourage them to think independently, inspire them to think, analyze and apply the knowledge and experience they have learned, and let them find the answer by consulting reference materials. In this way, children's thinking ability will be improved. 5. Encourage children to judge and reason.

Perhaps many parents think that their children are too young to answer questions of judgment and reasoning, but they are not. In many cases, children have the knowledge of judgment and reasoning, but some parents don't notice this. Speaking of children's judgment and reasoning ability, there is such a joke. Dad asked his son, "Son, what do you want to be when you grow up?" The son proudly replied, "I want to be a soldier!" " "Dad's question:" Why do you want to be a soldier? Being a soldier will be killed by the enemy! Hearing this, the son said, "Then I am the enemy! "Obviously, in the child's mind, he didn't understand the concept of the enemy at all and made wrong reasoning and judgment, so he played a joke. Therefore, in daily life, parents should ask their children to do more questions about judgment and reasoning. For example, my mother is 30 years old, my father is five years older than my mother, my grandfather is 25 years older than my father, and my grandmother is 20 years older than my father. How old are my grandfather and grandmother? 6. Use thinking games to guide children to think.

Thinking games can train children's logical thinking ability, and many children like this kind of games. Parents may wish to guide their children to think from thinking games. Mother gave her daughter a thinking topic: "There are 5 fish in the fish tank, 1 is dead, how many fish are left?" The daughter immediately replied: "4." "Wrong, the answer is five." The mother quickly gave her daughter a feedback. The daughter looked at her mother doubtfully, and her mother patted her daughter's little head and said, "I didn't say I would take the dead fish out of the fish tank, so there are still five fish in the fish tank." The daughter doesn't believe it, but her little eyes are spinning. She suddenly became happy and said to her mother, "Mom, do you want me to debut for you?" "good!" Mother gladly accepted the challenge. "There are 10 birds in the tree, and one of them was killed by the hunter. How many birds are left in the tree? " "0, because the birds were scared away by the gunshots." Mom is obviously confident in her answer. Unexpectedly, after listening to her mother's answer, her daughter smiled and said, "Mom, I didn't say whether the bird that was killed fell from the tree." Congratulations, you are wrong. The answer is 1 blackbird left on the tree. "

Educational proverbs

Children refuse to use their brains, mostly because of non-intellectual factors, not because there is anything wrong with them. As long as they teach students in accordance with their aptitude and use proper methods, children can overcome this bad habit.