What should I do in the face of a gambler's husband?

He is your husband, so you must love him very much. (⊙v⊙) Well, I don't know about your husband!

I think it is very important for couples to understand each other. You can tell him what you think of gambling! If he loves you, I think he will consider listening to you. Because after all, you did it for his own good.

I think the most important thing is to explain the truth to him. \ (o)/~ I have read some, and I wonder if it will help you. I wish you a happy Year of the Ox and a happy life!

It's hard for a gambler not to gamble. First of all, he must rely on his own willpower. For every obstacle that needs to be overcome, he is inseparable from willpower. In the face of every difficult decision we make, we rely on our inner strength. In fact, willpower is not an innate or unchangeable characteristic, but a skill that can be cultivated and developed.

In the dictionary, "willpower" is interpreted as "the power to control people's impulses and actions", and the most key words are "control" and "strength". "Power" exists objectively, and the problem lies in how to "control" it.

The following will help to strengthen your willpower. Just try it.

First of all, be proactive.

Don't confuse willpower with self-denial. When it is applied to positive goals, it will become a great force.

A businessman on the east coast of the United States knows that he has drunk too much, but he is engaged in a very annoying job. Drinking a few glasses of wine before eating seems to relax people's nervous mood. But wine and tiring work make him sleepy, so he often falls asleep as soon as he drinks it. One day, the manager realized that he was drinking to drown his sorrows and waste his time. So he decided to give up drinking and spend more time with his children. It was not easy at first, and I often thought of the mellow wine, but he warned himself that what he was doing now was not worth the loss. It turned out that the more he cared about his family and children, the more motivated he was to work.

Positive willpower can help you overcome inertia and focus on the future. When encountering resistance, imagine your happiness after overcoming it; If you actively participate in the concrete practice of achieving the goal, you can stick to it.

Second, make up your mind

James, a professor of psychology at the University of Rhode Island, USA? Pross divides the implementation of a specific transformation into four steps:

Resist-unwilling to change;

Consideration-weigh the gains and losses of transformation;

Action-cultivate willpower to achieve change;

Persistence-constantly changing with willpower.

Some people are "chronic decision makers". They know that they should reduce their drinking, but they are indecisive when making a decision, and as a result, they can't put it into action.

In order to make up your mind, you can set a deadline for your goal. Maggie. Collins is a teacher in California. He is very concerned about how to lose his bloated figure. Later, she was elected as the president of a civic organization and decided to lose 6 kilograms. To this end, she bought clothes two sizes smaller than herself and will wear them every year in three months. Thanks to perseverance, Collins finally got what he wanted.

Third, the goal is clear

Professor Pross studied a group of experimental subjects who planned to change their behavior from New Year's Day, and found that the most successful people were those with the most specific goals. One of the men is determined to treat his wife kindly and equally every day. Later, he did it. The other party just said in a general way that he wanted to be nice to his family, and it was the same in a few days, and he quarreled.

Don't say such empty words: "I'm going to do more physical exercise" or "I'm going to read more". Instead, it should be specific and clear-"I plan to walk for 45 minutes every morning" or "I plan to read for an hour every Monday, Wednesday and Friday".

Fourth, weigh the pros and cons.

If you are half-hearted about physical exercise because you can't see the actual benefits, you can't make you wear running shoes willingly just by wishing.

Professor Pross suggested that those who went to consult him could draw four squares on a piece of paper and fill in the short-term and long-term gains and losses respectively. If you are going to quit smoking, you can fill in the short-term loss in the top two boxes: "I felt very sad at first", and the short-term gain: "I can save a sum of money"; Fill in the bottom two boxes with long-term gains: "My body will become healthier" and long-term losses: "I will promote a method to relieve boredom". Through such careful comparison, it is easier to gather the willpower to quit smoking.

Five, change yourself

However, just knowing the harvest is not enough. The most fundamental motivation comes from wanting to change your image and control your life. Truth can be convincing sometimes, but only when emotional factors are aroused can we really respond.

Tom smokes three boxes of cigarettes every day. Although he coughed badly, he didn't listen to the doctor's advice. It's about going your own way and smoking correctly. "One day, I suddenly realized how stupid I was." He recalled, "Isn't this' suicide'? In order to survive, you must give up smoking. " Because quitting smoking can make him feel better, Tom has the perseverance to get rid of bad habits.

Sixth, pay attention to the spirit.

Toulouse,/kloc-a famous French general in the 0/7th century, is famous for being the first soldier. He always stands at the front of the team in every war. When asked about it, he bluntly said, "I acted like a brave man, but I was scared from beginning to end." I didn't give in to my timidity, but said to my body,' Old chap, although you are shaking, you must go forward bravely!' "As a result, resolutely charge before. A large number of facts have proved that acting as if you have a strong will helps you become a strong-willed person.

Seven, temper the will

As early as 19 15, psychologist Boyd? Barrett once put forward a set of methods to exercise the will. This includes getting up from the chair and sitting down for 30 times, emptying a box of matches and then putting them back in the box one by one. He believes that these exercises can strengthen willpower so as to face more severe and difficult challenges in the future. Barrett's specific suggestions seem a bit outdated, but his ideas are enlightening. For example, you can arrange what you want to do on Sunday morning in advance and make up your mind not to eat lunch unless you do it well.

Bill from New Jersey? Bradley is the star of new york professional basketball team. In addition to normal training, he comes to the court early every morning to practice shooting and aiming at foul balls alone. "Good things grind", and he eventually became the person who shot the most times on the team.

Eight, stick to the end

As the saying goes, "Where there is a will, there is a way", which means to fight against difficulties and overcome them. After studying people who quit smoking and started smoking again, Pross found that many people did not seriously consider how to deal with the temptation of cigarettes. So despite the courage to quit smoking, you still can't stick to it. When someone handed a cigarette, they took it and smoked it.

If you are determined to give up drinking, don't touch the cup on any occasion. If you insist on jogging, you can exercise indoors as usual even if it rains heavily in the morning.

Nine, seeking truth from facts

If you are required to lose 25 kilograms in three months, or you must do physical exercise for three hours every day, then no matter how strong your will is, it will not help such an unattainable goal. Moreover, the consequences of failure will eventually make you want to try again.

In many cases, it is a good idea to break down a single big goal or multiple small goals. Bob, who is going to quit smoking, put up a sign in his room-"Don't drink every day". Because the overall goal of abstinence is broken down into concrete actions day by day, I can make my determination clear again the next day. By the end of the week, when Bob looked back on his series of "victories" in the past seven days, he was full of confidence and finally said goodbye to the wine.

Ten, step by step training

Strong will is not suddenly produced overnight, it is gradually formed in the process of accumulation. There will inevitably be setbacks and failures in the middle, so we must find out the reasons that make us lose our fighting spirit, so as to solve them in a targeted way.

When Mary gave up smoking for the first time, she made great determination, but it ended in failure. When analyzing the reasons, I realized that I needed to do something, not take cigarettes. Later, when she wanted to smoke, she bought knitting wool. A few months later, Mary gave up smoking completely and knitted a sweater vest for her husband, killing two birds with one stone.

XI。 Win a victory

Practice has proved that every success will further enhance willpower. If you overcome a bad habit with tenacious will, you can gain the confidence to duel with another challenge and win.

Every success can increase your self-confidence and provide you with a solid "foothold" in the difficult cliff climbing journey. Perhaps the new task we face is more arduous, but since we have succeeded in the past, we will certainly win this time and in the future.

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Let him know the disadvantages of gambling

Serious family damage ... lighter families are not rich. .......

There are also lucky ... family conditions are good. ...

As the saying goes: ten bets and nine losses ... it's best not to gamble ... people can't be so lucky forever. ...............

Gambling is an addiction. If you want to quit, please note the following:

1。 Try not to have money when you haven't quit.

2。 The dangers of gambling and losing all your money.

3。 Establish a desire to make money and save money, such as saving money to buy a house, marry a wife and buy a car.

4。 Make good friends, stay away from bad friends, and build a gambling-free environment for yourself.

5。 It is very important to know that there will be no pie in the sky. Even if you win money at first, gambling will only lose everything in the end. Always remember this and remind yourself every day.

6。 Spend time on more meaningful activities.

Show him the dangers of gambling.

A large number of facts show that the participation of the masses, especially party and government cadres, is very harmful to the country, society, family and itself.

First, the party style is not good. Gambling damages the prestige of the party and delays the cause, which will not only cause economic losses, but also easily lead to crimes such as corruption, misappropriation of public funds and bribery.

Second, lose people's hearts. Gambling corrupts the party's image, gamblers don't think about starting a business, bet on party member, cadres don't seek development, lose their advanced nature, and the masses lose confidence in the party, which affects the party's ruling position and the future and destiny of the country.

Third, it is harmful to health. People who win money are on a whim, day and night; People who lose money come back desperately, regardless of hunger and cold; Constantly consuming, exhausting the spirit. In the long run, uncontrollable pathological gambling will definitely damage health and even commit suicide. Some old people were stimulated when gambling and died at the gambling table on the spot.

Fourth, greed. Gambling encourages the habit of getting something for nothing, which will distort their outlook on life and values over time.

Fifth, leave flesh and blood. Gambling forgets to work hard; Forgetting family ties and losing family happiness; I only care about my generosity, regardless of family feuds, and even lead to the separation of flesh and blood and the separation of my wife.

Sixth, the birth of the event. Some turned against each other because of gambling and used violence. Some lead to the bankruptcy of enterprises. Some of them were jailed because of insufficient gambling funds and participating in criminal activities such as theft and robbery.

Seventh, there are bad intentions. Once you gamble, you will try your best to win each other's money. Even if you gamble with your closest relatives and friends, you will definitely hide the spear. Like an enemy, he only cares about winning his own money, regardless of the bankruptcy of others.

Eighth, lack of character. In the casino, just asking for less money and asking for more money is easy to produce unhealthy mentality such as indolence, intrigue and speculation.

Ninth, losing family education. Gambling is the easiest way to induce father-son gambling, brother gambling and relatives gambling. Regardless of age, laugh at each other and call them casually.

Tenth, it costs money. At the beginning, the momentum was magnificent, spending money like running water, and the face did not change color; Later, I lost too much, and when I was in a hurry, I took family property, even collective property and state property as bets.

Eleventh, it takes time. A lot of time is wasted, and some of them stay up late, which seriously affects their study, work and life, and they are discouraged when playing with things.

Twelfth, ruin the future. Gambling is prohibited by law, which violates the Criminal Law, Regulations on Administrative Penalties for Public Security, Regulations on Disciplinary Actions of the Party, Provisional Regulations on State Civil Servants and local regulations. Violate the law and ruin the future.