Do you need chips to save your lover?

Do you need chips to save your lover? No matter how sweet the marriage is, it can't escape the "seven-year itch". If your marriage is teetering, you should quit in time. Whether your partner changes his mind is a very serious problem. When you turn around and leave, make a decisive decision. Do you need chips to save your lover after reading it? I hope it helps you.

Do you need chips to save your lover? 1 1. How many chips do you have?

Need a chip to save it? The answer is yes. The chips you get back are actually the capital you attract each other. How many chips you have and how to present them are very important.

For example, if you are good at making money, you must keep it up and concentrate on your career, which is also your bargaining chip. Seriously, this society is very realistic, and income is also a reference indicator, which can also show a person's ability.

For example, you are good at dressing up and have a beautiful appearance. Of course, you should keep it after being lovelorn, instead of making yourself look sad every day and become an ugly person without spirit.

For example, if you have an emotional foundation with him, you don't need to worry about it, because it won't change, you just need to turn it into confidence.

For example, you have changed a lot, and your thoughts are more rational and mature, which can be used in the way you talk to him.

For example, after breaking up, you are still paying for him and silently caring for him, no matter whether he gives you a good face or not, these are the reasons why you planted it, and you are just waiting for his result.

For example, if you are gentle and considerate, this good phenomenon will continue and will not change because of lovelorn love, so it can become a bargaining chip.

Therefore, whatever you are born with, what you have in the process of interacting with him, or what you have changed since, are all chips and the capital of gambling on this game. I think the more chips you leave, the more depressed you are, and the more afraid he will look down on you. Before you can make good use of these chips, of course, you must first think calmly about the source of these things and recall what happened in the past, otherwise you can't catch them one by one.

If you don't have any chips at all, it doesn't matter, then you should work harder instead of giving it to him. If you are lazy to work hard, how can you talk about redemption and reconciliation, not to mention that he will miss you because you are worthless. Are you embarrassed when you are worthless and want to get involved with others? Therefore, it is not unreasonable for people to say that they want to change themselves and have chips. Because this is the condition of your negotiation and the cost of attracting him, if not, you will be shot in the first step, so how to play the next game?

Of course, the initial love and the pursuit of chips are much simpler than redemption. After all, you had a relationship and had a breakup problem, so the two sides will look deeper and the chips you want to recover are stronger, more and more reliable. It is not as simple as pursuing and negotiating love from the beginning.

Second, use self-construction to improve the chips to save love.

Many people may have questions. Isn't love like the advantages of the lover and tolerate the shortcomings of the other person? But remember, tolerance does not mean that all shortcomings can be tolerated. When some shortcomings become the fuse of breaking up, it is a bad habit! You should abandon it!

On the contrary, even the shortcomings of the lover can be tolerated, so why not improve yourself for the other side, make yourself better, and let the other side love yourself more? In fact, self-construction is not as difficult as imagined. As Connor, director of Shenzhen Emotional Consulting Company, said, I'm not asking you to change for anyone, but to change your position and sit in the office for happiness. Now we might as well try to start with the following two points.

1, keep a neat and decent appearance.

Love relationship is a delicate relationship that needs to be cared for and constructed, and its early stage is basically based on a beautiful image. There is no denying that when a person begins to appear in front of you with a neat and decent appearance, your brain will certainly be happy and your sense of identity with the other person will be greatly improved. You may further think about whether the other person's elaborate dress is a concern for yourself. Therefore, you will also build up some confidence in yourself, and the whole communication process can be based on a pleasant tone.

Before going out every day, do a simple self-examination of your appearance and spend a little time and energy to improve it. I believe the result will be good. Life is not cruel to those who know it.

2. Enrich your life and shape a healthy and positive heart.

No matter how beautiful the appearance is, it will gradually become unremarkable and insignificant in the long river of time. What keeps two people's feelings together for a long time is often their inner feelings. Internally, it includes a person's way of thinking, behavior and all the shortcomings and advantages from birth to now. Everyone will form their own distinctive personality because of their different personalities, but some personalities are not conducive to long-term love. At this time, if we don't sift out the inferior and save the superior, it will definitely lead to more and more problems in the process of running-in between the two sexes.

To give a simple example, for example, men are too lazy and playful to share housework with their lovers. He will only sit in front of the computer and play games after work, regardless of his lover's recent life state. Or women complain all day, compare with others, be self-centered, and don't care about their lover's efforts and struggles. I believe that no one, including you, wants to spend a lifetime with such people, right? Only a healthy and positive heart can contribute to the love hut.

Third, don't take feelings as chips! It has little effect on recovery.

Can past feelings be counted as chips? Will you use your past feelings as a bargaining chip? Even if you date him for ten years today, you can't tell him that I have been dating you for ten years. I want you to continue to love me for this. I think it's useless.

Because he is also ten years, the number of years of communication is a process and a past, but his own feelings for you are deep or shallow, and of course there are some memories. So you should use your past feelings as a bargaining chip and let him know with your mouth that it is meaningless and has no feelings for him. Unless he thinks of it himself, he thinks he can't stand it, so he will take the initiative to find you. Otherwise, it won't be effective if you seduce him like this.

On the other hand, if you tell him about the past few years, he will listen, but he won't feel your feelings because of it. He will only think of bad things, but not good memories, otherwise he won't want to break up with you. Therefore, for him, he couldn't let go for a long time, and it had nothing to do with redemption. If you talk to him about the date time, if it helps, then why do some people break up after dating for more than ten years? Why do some old couples get divorced?

I think the occurrence of problems is far more important than the length of your communication, because some points come out because of the long communication time. Of course, a long communication time is a bargaining chip, which means that you will not forget each other so quickly, get used to each other and love each other for a long time, but it is a feeling, reassuring and intangible. He is not the real thing, so you take it out as a reason for negotiation. The other person knows very well that he just doesn't like you at present. I don't care how long you've been dating, it's the same

So we don't have to talk about past feelings. Not very useful, because something has changed your feelings. How to solve the problem and find the original feeling? That's more realistic.

If your lover feels depressed when he is with you and is not as happy as himself, then breaking up is inevitable. If you want to have a stable and long-lasting love, you need to know each other, what they really need, and how to meet their psychological demands, so that your feelings can be more stable and the same is true. Only by knowing each other, knowing how to think for each other and reflecting on yourself when encountering problems can we get our feelings back on track.

Do you need chips to save your lover? Then, after the painful experience of lovelorn, is it as easy as everyone imagined to "control men with women"? The answer is none. If the original intention of your redemption is only because you think that man still loves you, the original breakup is also a temporary anger. I secretly told myself that as long as I restrained my small temper and stopped loving each other willfully, I would be reconciled.

Don't be whimsical, maybe the temporary anger in your eyes is actually an outbreak after saving for a long time. Everything happens for a reason. Think about why breaking up was the key in the first place.

The intervention of a third party? Do men feel tired and bored? Or your bad temper ... Don't be afraid to find problems. When you face the facts bravely and admit your mistakes, you have taken the most important step to save your success.

After breaking up, don't rush to make up. No one likes being with someone who is obsessed with you, including the person you love the most. You can do many things. Here I give some guidance to the lovelorn female friends.

1. Understanding men is as important as loving them.

I really love him. I really can't live without him. Stop talking empty words. Love is not just talk. You love him, so do you know him? Do you know his preferences, reactions and emotions? When you get along, do you always complain that the other person doesn't understand you, your bad temper, and your unreasonable behavior? In fact, he knows everything, but you touch his bottom line again and again, making you push each other farther and farther. Now, it's time for you to learn a lesson and learn to think from another angle, and he will definitely come back to you.

Second, while loving men, we should strive to love ourselves.

"Love yourself is more worthy of being loved!" Don't think that breaking up means that the whole world has abandoned you. You still have family, friends and yourself that should not be ignored. If you blindly degenerate and indulge in grief, then you are really finished. Being an attractive woman, enriching her life and striving to improve herself will regain the care and care of the people you love.

Third, give men space in order to better retain men.

Relationships are like flying kites. The tighter you pull, the easier it is for the other person to break free. When we first got along, maybe we didn't give each other enough free space, so that today's unbalanced state led to the breakup. Then, if you want to save each other today, you must learn to give yourself space, give each other space, and give each other a frozen period of feelings. This is undoubtedly the best choice.