What kind of experience is it to be dragged down by your mother?

? I have been studying outside since I was a child, and I graduated from college. For various reasons, I returned to work in our town last year 10, and soon moved back from outside to live at home, and then it was the complete experience of two generations whose mother and daughter lived together every day.

? First, tell me why you came back. First, because of my own job changes. Second, because my boyfriend also works here (the work changes greatly, and I don't expect to be together every day for the time being). Secondly, I feel that I have been taking out food since I was six years old, and I rarely have the opportunity to go home (the conditions for studying at that time were very difficult). I go home once a week from primary school, once a semester in high school, and once or twice a year after graduating from college (and every time I come back, I only have a few days off), so it's a pity that I can't be with my family and mother often (my mother is a little over 50), so I decided to come back when I had the opportunity to work in our town.

? Second, why do you say that my mother is holding me back? Because she often helps others earn money by herself, leaving everything at home to me, mainly taking care of my two little nephews, so I really want to be wronged. My brother and sister-in-law had asked my mother to take care of the children at home. Send the eldest nephew to kindergarten, take care of the younger nephew and take care of their daily life. Why am I here? I rented a house outside when I first came back, and then our house was rebuilt. It is said that although the room is empty, it is a little far from work, but it took me more than ten minutes to come back by bike. I long for family life and can't help but want to come back to live. Who would have thought my private life would be gone!

Niu Niu, the little white rabbit I raised before, has not adapted to the environment since she came back, and her two little nephews are still a little noisy. Rabbits like a quiet environment, so after a while, my Niu Niu ran away from home and never found it again.

My brother and sister-in-law cut rubber and planted crops in their hometown, and they came back every three to five, so now I am basically in charge of the education of the two little nephews (I don't value my mother's education, of course it is good, otherwise I wouldn't treat my brother and sister as "adults", but sometimes the ways and means are really wrong. I seem to see the feeling of being treated like a child, so I often say "mom" when I can't stand it.

Third, why does my mother go to work to earn money? It's a long story Now our home is a little far from school, about fifteen minutes' walk. My mother can't ride a bike, but I can. I go to work by bike, and sometimes I stop by. It takes only five minutes to send my little nephew by bike. My mother has to pick him up and drop him off four times a day. Adults and children are really hard, so I try my best to help him pick him up and drop him off (because my working hours are flexible and I have finished all the work in one day). I usually get up at 6: 50 in the morning to send my little nephew to school (although I really don't want to get up sometimes, after all, I don't go to work until 9: 00, but I still get up when I think that they have to go for a long time, and my little nephew is used to seeing him off by car, and now he doesn't want to.

? It is common to be nagged by my mother every day. I have to be trained to be an obedient and virtuous wife and mother. I don't cook, clean, wash clothes, go to bed early and get up early, and old people get up early. It always thinks that it is a bad habit and a sign of laziness for young people to sleep late. No matter what happens, they must get up early. But nowadays, young people don't do what they should do well, do their work well, take a break occasionally and sleep late. What happened? Isn't it all the same (you can sleep in at your boyfriend's house)? I don't even understand whether her theory is correct or not.

My mother went to work to earn money. First, I helped him share a lot of things, and he felt that he had nothing to do. Second, she has no money recently. Before, my brother and sister-in-law gave hundreds of living expenses a week (so that my mother could scrimp and save, and now the living expenses at home are basically available. My mother doesn't ride a bike and seldom goes shopping. She can buy whatever she wants, so my mother, who has been in charge of my family's financial power for many years, will go out to earn money by herself.

Third, I'm sure I'll get married one day, or there will be some changes in my job. In that case, my mother will send her children to school, and my little nephew will go to kindergarten next year. The two children will go to school together at different times. In that case, it is quite difficult for the old people to run eight times a day, so we are going to buy a car to pick up the children. It is also convenient for my mother to sell things at ordinary times.

Recently, the weather is too hot. My mom just said she wouldn't go in the future. She also saved some money for him. Then I plan to buy what I should buy in the future. In addition, I will give my mother some money every month to buy her own daily necessities, so that she can feel the feeling of spending money at any time. Then I will put my work first and arrange my work first. I cannot compromise. If I can't finish it, I'll do it in the company. As long as they go home, they don't know you have a job. Anyway, they think you have nothing to do and are very idle. I give them this feeling now, so all kinds of work are arranged. Like my mother, if you don't do it, call you lazy. I'm a little fed up and don't want to do it again. Children also try to let her pick him up, otherwise they will feel that they have nothing to do and are anxious to find something to do.

? Summary: Everyone has his own responsibilities, even in the family, there should be a clear division of labor (although the family should not be so clearly divided, there should still be a general division of labor (just like my sister's family is my brother-in-law doing housework at home, taking care of the children and helping the family with crops, and my sister is mainly grasping the economy outside), so do your own thing well, but don't help others too much, otherwise helping will become your business, and then you will.