How to make men afraid to cheat?

First, establish rules.

The killer skill against derailed men is not X, but rules! What do you mean by making rules? That is, you should tell him clearly that he wants to continue this marriage, what he must do, what he must abide by and what he cannot do. What is the right punishment? That is, when he violates the bottom line of the rules, he will be punished accordingly, and his interests will be damaged. The punishment will be light to heavy, and you must resolutely implement it and never let it go.

Setting rules for a man is to tell her about your marriage and the framework for solving the problem of extramarital affairs. Many wives don't know what a framework is. A framework refers to your three views on marriage, and the specific operation is your boundaries and principles for marriage. With this framework, you will have confidence and clearly know your bottom line and boundary in marriage. Most people who lack a framework in marriage have low status and it is difficult for marriage to be happy for a long time. Because you have no framework, men will not really respect you and take care of your feelings.

Second, case sharing

Anna, excellent in all aspects, can be said to be an elite woman with high IQ. However, when she was in love, she always met love rat, and now her marriage is very unhappy. Husband earns less than her, and his personal conditions and background are far less than hers. He lost a lot of money in business these years, and he relied on Anna to support him.

But none of this can stop him from cheating. As long as Anna tells him to break up with mistress, he will force him to leave. Anna didn't want to leave, but she was helpless and had to come to me for help. After understanding their situation, I found that her husband loved her very much at first, and she had a high position in the relationship between husband and wife. Even if she is a little unhappy at ordinary times, her husband will notice, ask her what's wrong and coax her to be happy.

But because of her unprincipled and bottomless efforts in marriage, she lost her own framework and made men care less and less about her. You think a man will love you when you are wronged and forbearing. In fact, when a man finds that you don't have a clear bottom line and won't punish him for his mistakes, he won't respect you and care about your feelings. Of course, the first time you break the bottom line, there will be a second time and a third time.

Third, control your emotions.

In the face of men's infidelity, you must have two principles:

1, control your emotions and make rules for him. Women must remember that we should be smiling assassins, prick our hearts, don't swear, and never be bitches. At the critical moment, you should think clearly about what you want to do and what results you want to achieve, and have clear goals. If you just want to get angry and lose your temper, it's pure venting. Then you, get a divorce after this.

Even if you don't want to live with this man and want a divorce, you can't tear your face off. After all, we should talk about custody at the expense of interests. You need to rationally choose the most cost-effective solution. If you still want this marriage, whenever there is a trace of such an idea, you should remember that a really powerful woman is not scolding a man for hitting him, but setting rules for him, so that he can clearly know your framework and guide him to do it in the way you want.

Fourth, make rules for him.

What should I say? For example, M: You can think whatever you like. I told you we had nothing to do, just kidding. Don't you believe what I can do?

Wrong response: W: You don't admit it, do you? I will catch the evidence and see if you admit it! (falling into the frame of a man, he doesn't cheat without hard evidence) man: I didn't do anything. What is there to admit? You're the one who's making trouble! Without the initiative, as long as he doesn't admit it, you can't do anything.

Correct response: W: I don't know if you crossed the line, but you allowed her to cross the line. You didn't reject her ambiguous words, but you responded. You are married, everyone is an adult, and what to do and what not to do is very clear. So, whether you are joking or not, marriage has boundaries. If you want our husband and wife to have a harmonious relationship and a happy family, just refuse her in front of me and tell her not to joke like this. You are a man with a family and a wife.

Summarize an expression formula for everyone: establish rules = state facts+express feelings+specific requirements. The specific requirements here are your framework, your principles and bottom line.

Fifth, there must be a subsequent party.

If you give your own framework and set the rules, and men still don't listen, then you must have a successor to let him know what kind of punishment you will get. Man: We're just kidding. Don't take it too seriously. We are all colleagues and work together every day. What will happen in the future if I say so? What will my colleagues think of me? Don't you think so?

Wrong response: female: I don't want to affect your work either. I'll believe you this time, but you two can't joke like this again (falling into the man's box and trusting him to let him go easily) M: Okay, okay, we really have nothing. Colleagues also know that I am married and have a wife, and I love you. (losing the dominance, the relationship is controlled by men)

Correct response: Female: Husband, I cherish the feelings between us. I love you, but I can't stand being hurt at will. Since you don't talk, as far as I am concerned, I am your wife. I think it is reasonable for me to go to your company to talk to her about this matter and tell her how I feel. There should be boundaries between colleagues, and no matter how good the relationship is, you can't cross the line, don't you think? If you don't do as I say, you will be punished.

6. Keep your promise.

2. When it comes to keeping promises, if a person is not cold even when he is dead, you have to verify your credit. M: Whatever. If you can, you can go and my job will be ruined. Let's leave it alone If a man denies it, if you dare to punish me, we will leave. Woman: Don't be so nervous! If you refuse her in front of me now, I won't go to your company. If you refuse to do so, I will have to go to your company. I won't allow you to hurt me like this. (You have gained the initiative)

Of course, having said that, you still have to see if a man will give in. If he doesn't, you should honor your credit, go to the company to talk to that woman, and let them know that you must pay for hurting you.

To sum up:

1. Moving people with emotion in communication aims to arouse a man's guilt, make him feel guilty, and make his hooligans unable to succeed. Therefore, no matter what a man's attitude is, whether he has feelings or not, whether he talks to you well or not, you should stabilize your emotions, talk to him well, and express your attention to family and marriage and love for him.

Seven. conclusion

2. To balance people, tell them not to take chances, they must obey and do it. Many wives tell their grievances and pains to men blindly, but ignore the interests of men. Only by grasping his interests and talking with him can we balance him and choose the lesser of the two evils. As long as you catch them firmly and mercilessly, they will naturally submit.

3. Be sure to verify the credit.

Many wives have said so many times that they dare not really do it, but let men seize your weakness. Therefore, don't say harsh words easily and ask for a divorce. Once you say it, you must do it. Usually, everyone is scared by men. Before you went to see his leader, he turned against you and said divorce, and you were afraid. Without it, he will know that you are afraid of divorce. From now on, he can use this method to deal with you.

The greatest significance of setting rules for men and punishing them is to make marriage have boundaries, so that they dare not easily violate your bottom line and respect your efforts and feelings, instead of telling women not to pay, starting to defend themselves or fighting with men. Women have a framework, marriage has boundaries, and men dare not want to cheat.