The person closest to you is the person who kidnapped you most morally.

When it comes to moral kidnapping, many people may think of the video "Sorry, Aunt, I can't give you my seat" that was once searched in Weibo. Maybe you feel very happy after watching that video. This is the world. Why should I put up with your moral kidnapping?

The so-called moral kidnapping is actually just a reward imposed on you by others under the guise of taking it for granted. Moral kidnapping is terrible, but I think the most terrible thing is the moral kidnapping of the closest relatives, because I can't escape in my life.

Friend A, because her parents are over 60 years old, her tuition and living expenses from high school to college have been provided by her brother.

But what she will never understand is why she goes back to his small factory to help him every winter and summer vacation, because he supports her. She also wants to do a part-time job she likes. My brother takes it for granted that A helps him with his work. After all, she has studied for her for so many years.

What makes A feel even more chilling is that when she could have been an undergraduate, she chose to go to a junior college with cheaper tuition in order not to owe her brother more human feelings. My brother helped her choose a major that she could go back to help her brother's factory in the future.

It took me a long time to know that she really didn't like it, and my brother had made it clear to her that after her internship, she would go back to his factory to help him. A said she had no choice. After all, he has provided her with such a long education, and she just wants to return the money she earned from studying to him as soon as possible.

But even if the money is paid back, the human feelings are not over.

Maybe this is a human kidnapping. Family was originally a harbor, but when it becomes a value that people can use, the family will become indifferent. You support my study life, and this feeling deserves my lifelong gratitude. Anyone with a little conscience will know how to repay, but we can repay in other ways, right?

However, will you be happy when this reward becomes a moral kidnapping you use instead of returning it from your heart? More often, I may feel that I would rather not accept a gift than owe it to others all my life, let alone someone who is related to you.

Even if he kidnapped you morally, can you resist? You can't, because my brother will always be my brother. You can't be an ungrateful person, you should repay him well.

That is the reality. You have accepted a gift from others, and you have to return it to others one day.

But I'm still glad for A. In college, except tuition, all my living expenses were earned by my own part-time job, and I never asked my brother for a penny.

Even if she doesn't like that major, she studies hard and does well, trying to get all kinds of certificates and learn all kinds of skills. She said that she just thought that one day she would not have to work in her brother's factory, and she would have more skills to prove herself after coming out. She hoped that she could live the life she wanted one day.

When I was a child, the one who was scolded for doing wrong together was always the biggest, and the one who worked the most was always the biggest. Sometimes I always complain. Why do you blame me? Obviously, this is not my fault.

What happened to Max? Do you deserve to be scolded and beaten the most? Do you have to give everything to your brothers and sisters when you are the oldest? And then I like it, too. Why can't I have the biggest one for my brother and sister? Most of the time, I just feel unfair.

Why should you accept your so-called moral kidnapping? Yes, many people take it for granted, because those are your brothers and sisters, your parents.

Many things are your obligations, but when these obligations are not so willing, they become moral kidnapping, which is equivalent to being sentenced to life imprisonment. You have lived in this kidnapping all your life, because those are your closest relatives, so you have no reason to refuse.

I have seen how many parents care more about their children than themselves, love their children deeply and know what filial piety is. Love is selfless, and it is natural for children to honor their parents.

But do parents have to kidnap their children with morality?

After watching the CCTV video of Chai Jing interviewing Yang Yongxin, many people may be indignant and say that Yang Yongxin is so hateful that he is simply not human. But I think the parents who send their children in for treatment are the most hateful, killing humanity in the name of love and making children obey themselves with morality.

The most desperate thing is that a group of ignorant parents regard their children as vassal tools and send them to a place similar to a prison.

If there is a problem with children's education, the biggest responsibility should actually lie with parents, rather than sending their children for treatment under the banner of being good for their children.

What a terrible thing to get an electric shock. Aren't you afraid of the child accidentally getting an electric shock? At the moment, I especially sympathize with the children who were sent in.

The most painful thing is that the closest person is doing what hurts you the most, but you can't refuse.

In the previously hit Ode to Joy, Fan was always morally kidnapped by her parents, and the infinite demands of her parents and brother completely made a weak woman lose confidence. Can she resist? She can't.

She resisted, which showed that she was unfilial. This society seems to be like this. Your unfilial behavior is the biggest mistake. Isn't it natural for your parents to raise you so big?

Yes, of course. But who knows, is forced filial piety and return happy? Who doesn't want to be filial, but filial piety must be kidnapped by morality? I don't understand, is educating children just to make them become money-making machines?

The old concept of raising children to prevent old age is worth thinking about. It's really terrible for parents who are poor in material and spiritual resources not to stop until they reach their goals.

Many people say that such parents don't need it. But can she not? They gave birth to her and raised her, and it was unfilial of her to abandon them. Therefore, this is a moral kidnapping of the family, the most terrible.

As a relative, you can criticize me from the highest moral point or praise me, but the closest person, I have always loved you, with less moral kidnapping and more warmth.

Hello, I'm fine, but I don't need to pursue moral perfection.